Marriage With Harmony

03/12/2025

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01/12/2025

Happy last month of the year!

As we step into December, I want to remind you of something powerful:

Gratitude to God is one of the easiest and most effective ways to care for yourself. It is a self-care strategy that helps you not to focus on all that hasn’t happened this year, because dwelling on those things can lead to unhappiness.

Yes, thanking God is self-care. This simple practice has helped me stay strong even in difficult seasons.

Many of us think self-care is only about resting, eating well, sleeping, or taking a break.

These are all good, but there is a deeper kind of self-care that strengthens your mind, your emotions, and even your relationships.

That deeper self-care is gratitude to God

Here’s why gratitude to God is a powerful self-care strategy:

✅ It calms your heart.
When you stop to thank God, your worries reduce and your mind becomes peaceful.
A calm heart helps you respond better to your partner, spouse, and to life.

✅ It shifts your focus.
Instead of dwelling on what is not working, gratitude helps you see what God can do.
This simple shift gives emotional strength.

✅ It reduces complaints.
People who thank God regularly complain less.
Contentment makes you healthier, easier to relate with, and more loving.

✅ It reduces stress.
A grateful mindset relaxes your emotions.
You feel lighter and handle challenges better.

✅ It strengthens your spiritual life.
Staying grateful keeps you connected to God, leading to better decisions, better reactions, and better relationships.

💛 Gratitude also positions you to receive from God.
A grateful heart releases delayed, hindered, hanging, denied, and due blessings—especially at the end of the year.

💛 Grateful people appreciate their partner/spouse more, forgive faster, and communicate with more love.

How to Practice Gratitude This Month

🙏 Start and end your day by thanking God,
for your life as a single, and for your partner/spouse, even if things are not perfect.

🙏 Write down 3 things you’re grateful for every day.

🙏 Whenever a challenge arises, pause and remember one good thing God has done.

Gratitude is more than a prayer point—
it is a healing point and a blessing magnet.

A grateful heart makes your mind clearer, your emotions lighter, and your relationships healthier.

At Marriage With Harmony, we always end the year with gratitude, and every new year becomes more impactful.

Make gratitude your daily self-care routine this last month of 2025.

26/11/2025

If Your Relationship Keeps Experiencing Crises, You Might Be Missing This 1 Step

Many couples think the major cause of constant conflict is personality differences, stress, or even 'bad communication.'
But as a marriage coach, I’ve seen one pattern show up again and again:
You’re not taking time to study your partner intentionally.
Yes — that ONE step.

Most crises in a marital relationships are not because you don’t love each other. It’s because you don’t truly understand how the other person thinks, feels, reacts, processes pain, gives love, or receives correction.

When you fail to study your partner, everything becomes guesswork.
🧩 You misinterpret their silence
🧩 You take their tone personally
🧩 You argue about the same thing repeatedly
🧩 You feel unheard, unloved, or misunderstood
🧩 You apologise in ways that don’t speak their language
🧩 You try to love them the way you like love — not the way they need it

But when you make it a habit to study your partner, everything changes.

The One Step:
Be intentional about studying your partner daily — their triggers, needs, communication style, stress signals, love languages, strengths, weaknesses, and emotional patterns.

Relationships don’t fail because God didn’t send the right person.
They fail because two people didn’t take time to understand each other deeply.

If you truly want a peaceful, joyful, and crisis-free relationship, start with this one step:
Study your partner like someone you want to keep forever.

22/11/2025

Sometimes, it’s not the event that breaks us but the meaning we attach to it.

Akene’s marriage almost collapsed, not just because of betrayal, but because of the negative meanings she unknowingly fed her mind.

When she learned to reframe her pain through God’s Word, healing began.
And her home found peace again.

You have the power to choose empowering meaning — in marriage, in conflict, in life.
Full video on our YouTube channel. Link in the comment section.
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17/11/2025

10/11/2025

A COMPULSORY SELF-CARE AND GROWTH STRATEGY FOR THE REMAINING DAYS OF THE YEAR!

I would like to share a strategy that has helped me scale all storms with smiles and peace: REDEFINING EVENTS WITH EMPOWERING MEANINGS

Life gives us events, but we give them meaning.

One event can break one person, but build another.

The same silence can upset one person, but bring peace to another.

It's not the event that matters, but how we see it.

This power given to us by God, to choose our perspective is what shapes our journey in life, to make it a fulfilling one

When bad things happen, we can see them as punishment or as a chance to prepare.

It can be the end or a new direction when we lose something.

Our meaning shapes how we feel, act, and believe.

Doctors and pregnancy tests told us that we had lost our first pregnancy immediately after we got married. Still, we redefined the situation and gave it a meaning that the blood from a miscarriage was not a loss.

The meaning gave us the strength to approach the situation with a positive mindset and not fear or discouragement.

Long story short, that child from the miscarriage, which the doctors had said was 'aborted', went on to celebrate 21 years of life this year.

I have countless events in life and in 22 years of marriage that have made my mental health gain strength instead of stress just because I gave the occurrences my definition and not how the world views it. I apply this strategy daily

To live well, we should think before deciding what something means.

As a single or married individual experiencing different unpleasant situations in life or marriage, ask yourself this question: What am I making this moment mean?

Our meaning creates outcomes - fear or courage, sadness or gratitude. Every situation is like raw clay - we can mold it into something beautiful or let it harden into regret.

We can choose our meaning and shape our future. It's not about ignoring reality, but facing it with a positive view.

Every moment is a chance to create meaning and purpose.

Let's choose meanings that heal, that inspire, that propel us forward.

Let's craft a story of hope, resilience, and joy. Let's turn our 'whys' into 'what ifs' and our trials into triumphs.

This is a self-care strategy I’ve been engaging in since I became an adult. I’m 51 years old, and it has never failed.

Don’t let being advanced in age and still single give your life meaning. Don’t let all you’ve not achieved as a single give your life meaning

As a married individual, don’t let your spouse give your life the meaning that doesn’t promote self-care. Rather, redefine every event and your sanity will be restored.

God has given everyone the power to renew their minds to bring about transformation (Rom 12.2)
Use it for self-care and growth.

Always remember this: NOTHING MEANS ANYTHING, THE MEANING WE GIVE MAKES IT SOMETHING

04/11/2025

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