The Right Fit Marriage Academy

The Right Fit Marriage Academy Africa's Marriage Academy
We educate you, Single or Married, to enjoy your Marriage Hello there! What is The Right Fit Marriage Academy? Who is this for? c. d.

My name is Modupe Ehirim and welcome to The Right Fit Marriage Academy.

1. The Right Fit Marriage Academy is a membership based online/offline learning community devoted to helping members achieve their dream of a really happy lifelong marriage relationship and a home environment that gives them joy. There are 3 levels of memberships: Bronze, Silver, and Gold. The bronze level membership is free

while the silver and gold levels are paid memberships. Each membership level comes with specific set of benefits and privileges.

2. The Right Fit Marriage Academy is specifically designed to cater to the needs of married people who feel:
a. Dissatisfied with their marriage and wonder, “Is this how things will continue? Will there be a change for the better?”
b. That they are not experiencing the kind of marriage that they have dreamed of. Helpless and think that they have limited choices in their present marital situations. Sometimes emotionally and physically overwhelmed. I am honored, happy to support YOU on your journey to a happy lifelong marriage relationship and a home environment that gives you joy!

The Pressure to Marry: How to Handle It “15 years ago, he reached out to me and we started chatting. He told me about hi...
29/05/2025

The Pressure to Marry: How to Handle It

“15 years ago, he reached out to me and we started chatting. He told me about himself and the type of business he was into. He asked me about me, I told him everything about myself.

We became friends and exchanged numbers. Later, our chat and talk increased. He told me that he will like us to take our relationship to the next level. I was also interested in him because my parents were already complaining that I didn't want to bring a man home.

I saw him as my prince charming. As a result , I accepted. He sent me money and gifts several times. One evening, he told me that he would like to meet me in person so we can plan on when to visit my parents. I was so happy, it was an answered prayer for me.

He flew from Abuja to Calabar and visited me. I loved everything about him that I saw. Two weeks later, we visited my parents and to cut the long story short, we got married and reality set in.

He beats me to stupor, and doesn't allow me to talk to anyone or bring anyone to our home.

One day, while I was arranging the house, I saw a bunch of papers and wanted to know whether I should discard them. It was a letter from his ex wife telling him how she's glad that she has moved on. She stated in the letter that she didn't know that he had married two wives before her, and they all left him because of how he bullied them too.

It then dawned on me that I'm the fourth wife and that I am not safe with him. I remembered that I was carried away with the pressure of getting married without even finding out who he really was.

One day, he almost beat me to death. I ran for my life when I regained consciousness.”

“Today, I'm a 48 years old lady full of regrets, no husband, no children. I'm full of fears, I don't know how to start again since after that incident. So, when I read your post online today, I wished I saw it years back”, she said.

The truth is, the pressure to marry has led so many people to marry the wrong partner.

Once someone reaches their early twenties for ladies and early thirties for men , their family, friends or society want to see them marry. And When they don't see that person making moves towards getting married, they will start pressuring them towards getting married.

If you're in this age range and still single, you will start hearing questions like, "When are you getting married?" or "Don't you want to settle down?"

These questions, though often well-meaning, can feel intrusive and place unnecessary pressure on individuals like you.

Social media also amplifies this pressure. Seeing friends, peers, or even celebrities getting engaged, married, or starting families can make you feel left behind. This has led many women and men to make regrettable decisions who they choose to marry and when they get married..

Here are some tips that will guide you on how to handle the pressure to marry

🎯 Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's essential to recognize and accept your emotions. You do want to get married and that’s okay. Feeling stressed or anxious because you;re getting older and haven’t met the person you will marry is normal. Such feelings show that you are a human being with blood flowing in your veins. Allow yourself to process these feelings without judgement.

🎯 Set Boundaries: It's okay to set boundaries with people who pressure you. Politely let them know that you're not comfortable discussing your relationship status. You can say something like, "I appreciate your concern, but I'm focusing on other areas of my life right now."

🎯 Focus on Personal Growth: Instead of succumbing to the pressure, use this time to invest in yourself. Focus on your career, hobbies, or personal development. The more content you are with your life, the less external pressures will affect you.

🎯 Surround Yourself with Supportive People: Spend time with friends and family who respect your choices and don't pressure you to conform to societal norms. A strong support system can make a big difference.

🎯 Trust Your Timing: Everyone's journey is different. Just because others are getting married doesn't mean you're behind. Trust that the right time and person will come when it's meant to be.

The pressure to marry is real and often a challenging experience, but it doesn't have to dictate your life choices. By understanding the source of this pressure, setting boundaries, and focusing on your personal growth, you can navigate this period with confidence.

Remember, marriage is a significant step that should be taken on your terms, not because of societal expectations. A decision to marry will significantly impact the next fifty years of your life.

Trust your journey, and know that the right path for you is the one that feels authentic and true to who you are.

©️ Modupe Ehirim

Finding Compatibility: Beyond Physical AttractionLove at first sight - a lot of marriages are broken today because of lo...
24/05/2025

Finding Compatibility: Beyond Physical Attraction

Love at first sight - a lot of marriages are broken today because of love at first sight.

In today's world where first impressions are often shaped by appearances, it’s easy to get caught up in the allure of physical attraction.

While a strong initial spark is undeniable, the real challenge in relationships lies in finding a deeper, more enduring connection.

True compatibility goes beyond just looks—it involves shared values, goals, and a genuine understanding of each other's personalities.

Let's discuss what truly matters in building a lasting relationship:

📌 The Depth of Compatibility: Compatibility is like the foundation of a house; without it, the structure is unstable, no matter how beautiful the exterior may be.

Physical attraction might be the doorway that leads to a connection, but it’s the deeper elements—shared values, emotional support, mutual respect, and aligned life goals—that truly sustain a relationship.

📌 Shared Values: It's important to have deep conversations about what you both believe in. Whether it’s your approach to family, finances, or career, aligning on these values helps in navigating life's challenges together.

📌 Emotional Connection: Feeling understood and supported by your partner is crucial. This emotional bond is what keeps couples together during tough times. It's about being able to share your thoughts, feelings, and fears with someone who truly listens and cares and who also chooses to be open and vulnerable with you.

📌 Mutual Respect: Respect goes hand-in-hand with love. It's about acknowledging and valuing your partner's opinions, even when they differ from your own. It’s about recognizing that different doesn’t mean wrong. It’s knowing that different means you and your partner are unique.This respect creates a safe space where you and your partner can grow and evolve together.

📌 Life Goals: Discussing and aligning on your future aspirations is key. Whether it’s where you want to live, your career paths, or how you envision family life, being on the same page about your goals can prevent major conflicts down the road.

Physical attraction might catch your eye, but it’s compatibility that captures your heart. By focusing on the deeper aspects of a relationship, you’re more likely to find a partner who not only makes your heart race but also stands by your side through life’s ups and downs.

So, the next time you’re drawn to someone’s appearance, take a moment to remind yourself to look beyond it—because true compatibility is what will keep the relationship strong and fulfilling in years to come.

©️ Modupe Ehirim

A few minutes ago, a Stream 7 Participant dropped a message in the Get Yourself Ready For Marriage Program Alumni group....
21/05/2025

A few minutes ago, a Stream 7 Participant dropped a message in the Get Yourself Ready For Marriage Program Alumni group. (Yes, we have a WhatsApp Group for the alumni of the program.)

Emmanuel shared photos of himself and his bride along with the following caption:

"Confidently stepping into the marriage institution after graduating from this academy.

Thank you Mummy Mo and the team. Your investment is eternal."

When I read that message my heart raced with excitement!!!

Yes!!! A man should approach marriage with joy and confidence!!!

That's what designed the Get Yourself Ready For Marriage Program to achieve.

Every time we receive a testimonial, we rejoice.



Stream 9 of the Get Yourself Ready For Marriage 12-week Group Coaching Program will start on Monday September 9, 2025.

Registration has started.

Send a DM if you'd like to know more.




I had the privilege of living with my dad for 61 years and 4 months before he died on June 14, 2020.His numerous decisio...
13/05/2025

I had the privilege of living with my dad for 61 years and 4 months before he died on June 14, 2020.

His numerous decisions in the time we spent together defined life for me.

The father-daughter relationship plays a crucial role in moulding a woman's expectations, self-worth, and ability to form healthy romantic partnerships later in life.

Now let's see some of the impact of father-daughter relationships:

📌 It Builds Trust: A healthy father-daughter relationship lays the groundwork for trust – a cornerstone of any strong marriage. When a father consistently shows up for his daughter, both emotionally and physically, he teaches her what reliability looks like. This early lesson becomes a benchmark for her future relationships, particularly in marriage.

📌 Emotional Intelligence and Communication: Fathers who engage in open, honest communication with their daughters provide a vital example of emotional intelligence. These dads create a safe space for expressing feelings, validating emotions, and working through conflicts constructively. Such experiences equip daughters with invaluable tools for navigating the complexities of marital communication.

📌 Self-Esteem and Boundaries: A father's unconditional love and support contribute significantly to his daughter's self-esteem. When a girl grows up feeling valued and respected by her father, she's more likely to expect and demand that same level of respect in her romantic relationships. This sense of self-worth acts as a protective factor, helping women establish and maintain healthy boundaries in their marriages.

📌 Modeling Healthy Masculinity: For many women, their father is the first and most influential male figure in their lives. How he treats his wife, his daughter, and other women sets a powerful example of what to expect from men. Fathers who demonstrate respect, kindness, and equality in their interactions help shape their daughters' expectations of male behaviour.

📌 Conflict Resolution Skills: Every relationship faces challenges, but how conflicts are handled can make or break a marriage. Fathers who model healthy conflict resolution – listening actively, compromising when appropriate, and avoiding aggressive behaviour – provide their daughters with a blueprint for addressing marital disagreements constructively.

📌 Financial Responsibility and Independence: A father's attitude towards money and financial independence can significantly influence his daughter's approach to these issues in her own life and marriage.

Fathers who encourage financial literacy and independence help their daughters develop a healthy relationship with money, reducing potential sources of marital stress.

This will help their daughters to understand the importance of budgeting, saving, and investing from a young age.

However, in her marriage, she will bring these skills to the table, contributing to a partnership characterized by financial stability and shared financial goals.

The father-daughter bond, with its unique blend of protection, guidance, and love, plays a pivotal role in shaping a woman's expectations and behaviours in her future romantic partnerships. It also lays the groundwork for them to build healthy, fulfilling marriages.

Moreover, father-daughter connections are not just a personal matter, but a societal imperative. It's an investment in the emotional health and relational success of future generations.

If you're a young woman preparing for marriage, take a moment to reflect: What did your relationship with your father teach you—about love, trust, or emotional safety? These early lessons often shape how we show up in relationships today.

Our Get Yourself Ready for Marriage Program offers a guided space to unpack those influences, heal where needed, and build the clarity and confidence you need for a strong, healthy marriage.

Check my bio or the comments section for the link to register for the program.

Rooting for you!



©️ Modupe Ehirim

On Thursday May 15, 2025, The Right Fit Marriage Academy will be nine years old.Nine years ago, here are some of what o...
12/05/2025

On Thursday May 15, 2025, The Right Fit Marriage Academy will be nine years old.

Nine years ago, here are some of what our founder, Modupe Ehirim wrote in her Thought Processing Notes:

"My dream is an Online School where people will pay to

** learn relationship skills and prepare themselves for healthy and successful relationships
** learn deliberate and intentional reading skills and cultivate consistent and regular reading habits which they'll use to grow their lives."

"Academy -
** a school that provides training in special subjects or skills
** an organization intended to protect and develop an art, science, language, etc., or a school that teaches a particular subject or trains people for a particular job
** the part of a football club that trains young players who might one day become part of the first team"

You can see in these notes why text is a huge part of how deliver our products and services in The Right Fit Marriage Academy.

In 2016 this was a dream.

In 2025 it is now a reality.

We have experienced a lot of growth and learning in the last nine years. We are grateful to the and women who knew Modupe in 2016 when she was struggling to figure out what this dream was all about.

She will over the next couple of days send personal notes of appreciation to each one of them.

To everyone who believed in her over the last nine years and trusted her enough to accept her teaching and counsel, we say thank you!

To everyone who has paid for our products or services over the last nine years, we say thank you!

To everyone who agreed to be our "lab rat" when we were experimenting with new ideas about how to help people with relationship issues, we say thank you!

To everyone who told their friends about The Right Fit Marriage Academy and insisted that's where they should go for solutions to their marriage issues, we say Thank you!

The Right Fit Marriage Academy Team will continue to grow and work towards a community that all of us are happy to live in.

©️ The Right Fit Marriage Academy Team

WHAT NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT MARRIAGE Marriage is one of the most significant decisions you'll ever make in life. It's of...
12/05/2025

WHAT NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT MARRIAGE

Marriage is one of the most significant decisions you'll ever make in life. It's often painted with pictures of love, joy, and partnership. But what many don’t tell you is that beneath those beautiful wedding pictures lies the reality of preparation, sacrifice, and growth.

A decision to marry and the choice of a partner will impact the next fifty to sixty years of your life.

Preparing for marriage isn't just about finding the right partner, it’s about becoming the right person as well. Here are some tips on marriage readiness that you won’t often hear about:

1. Before committing to a lifetime with someone else, it’s essential to fully understand yourself. Your strengths, weaknesses, emotional triggers, values, and long-term goals play a huge role in determining whether you're ready for marriage. Knowing who you are helps you set clear expectations and communicate them in the relationship.

2. No one enters marriage with all the answers. It’s a constant learning process where you’ll need to adapt, compromise, and sometimes fail. There will be challenges that test your patience, emotional intelligence, and resilience. Growth happens when you're open to learning more about your partner and yourself through every season of the relationship.

3. Marriage doesn't fix personal issues. If you think marriage will solve your insecurities, trust issues, or unresolved personal struggles, you're in for a surprise. These issues don’t disappear; they often become magnified. It's crucial to work on personal healing and emotional maturity before taking the big step. Seek counselling or mentorship if necessary, so you enter marriage with a healthy mindset.

4. Everyone talks about the importance of communication, but what’s rarely discussed is how communication needs evolve in marriage. Being open about your feelings, expectations, and disappointments isn’t always easy, especially during tough times. It’s important to develop the habit of transparent and respectful communication early, as this will be the glue that holds the marriage together through rough patches.

5. Marriage will demand selflessness. While it's beautiful to focus on your happiness, in marriage, you’ll have to balance your needs with your partner’s needs. From making joint decisions to considering each other’s emotional well-being, the ability to put someone else’s needs before yours at times is key to a healthy partnership.

6. Conflicts are a natural part of any relationship. The trick isn’t to avoid them but to handle them well. Develop the skill of resolving conflicts in a way that strengthens your relationship rather than breaks it down. Learn to listen without interrupting, understand your partner’s perspective, and practice forgiveness.

7. The idea that your partner will “complete” you is a romanticized myth. In reality, a fulfilling marriage happens when two emotionally healthy and whole individuals come together to complement each other. Work on being emotionally and mentally complete before expecting your partner to fill any voids

8. In marriage you will go through phases—sometimes it's filled with joy and connection, and at other times, it may feel more like a partnership than a romantic journey. Understand that these seasons are normal. The key is to keep nurturing your relationship even when things feel routine or distant.

Remember, marriage readiness goes beyond the excitement of the wedding day. It requires introspection, growth, and an unwavering commitment to building a strong partnership with your spouse.

By understanding these less-talked-about aspects of marriage, you’ll be better prepared for the realities that lie ahead. A strong marriage isn't built in a day; it’s nurtured over a lifetime.

Our Get Yourself Ready For Marriage 12-Week Group Coaching Program is designed to guide you and deepen your knowledge and understanding of what marriage is really about. Registration is on, Check my bio or the comments section for the link to register.

©️ Modupe Ehirim

YOU CAN’T BUILD A FUTURE WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T DREAMThey say that in relationships, it’s all about compatibility. But...
05/05/2025

YOU CAN’T BUILD A FUTURE WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T DREAM

They say that in relationships, it’s all about compatibility. But compatibility isn't just about liking the same movies or agreeing on what to have for dinner. It's about vision. It's about dreaming together and building something meaningful from the dreams you share..

Because here’s the truth: You can’t build a future with someone who doesn’t dream.
Dreams are the foundation of any strong, lasting partnership. Without them, you’re simply existing—not growing. You’re walking through life with no map, no purpose, and no direction.

Here are some guides:

1. Dreams are the fuel for the journey: When you’re both striving toward something bigger than today’s routine, you get to grow together. Whether it’s a shared business goal, building a family, or supporting each other’s personal aspirations, dreams give life purpose. Without them, the road ahead is blurry.

2. You need a partner who sees beyond the present: It’s easy to love someone when things are good. But what about when things get tough? When the bills are overdue or life throws curveballs? You need someone who can hold onto a vision, no matter how tough the present moment is. Someone who can remind you of why you’re working so hard. Someone who knows the destination and can help you keep your eyes on it.

3. Dreams are what turns now into forever: Love alone can’t sustain a relationship. But when you and your partner dream together, you’re not just building memories—you’re laying the foundation for a future. You’re creating a life with purpose. Without that shared vision, your relationship risks becoming stagnant.

4. Dreamers push each other to grow: A person without dreams may settle, but a partner with dreams pushes you to be better. They challenge you to step outside your comfort zone and go after what you truly want in life. Dreams require growth—and growth requires a partner who believes in possibilities.

So, if you’re with someone who doesn’t have a vision for the future, you might be walking in circles. Dreams are what shape the life you create together. They’re the spark, the drive, and the foundation.

You can’t build a future without at least one shared dream .
Find someone whose dreams align with yours. Find someone who wants to build something incredible—not just for themselves, but with you.

Because the best relationships aren’t just about being together. They’re about growing together.

©️ Modupe Ehirim

WHY THE PRICE CHANGE?🌟 From our hearts to yours...When we launched the Get Yourself Ready For Marriage 12-week Group Coa...
29/04/2025

WHY THE PRICE CHANGE?

🌟 From our hearts to yours...

When we launched the Get Yourself Ready For Marriage 12-week Group Coaching Program in September 2021, our dream was simple: make premium marriage preparation accessible at affordable price to all who wanted it.

The pilot program was FREE. At the end of that Stream, the participants told us what they thought the program was worth. They also told us they had the capacity to pay. Together we set the price at N35,000.

From 2022, for three whole years, we kept the fee low — even as costs rose.

Now, to continue serving you with excellence, the fee will adjust to N42,000 starting May 1, 2025.

We’re grateful for everyone who has trusted us so far, over 300 of you who have paid for and participated in the Get Yourself Ready For Marriage 12-week Group Coaching Program — and we look forward to serving even more of you! ❤️

Register at N35,000 before April 30, 2025.

Send a DM for more information.






MARRIAGE IS NOT A REWARD FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR – STOP EARNING IT”Marriage is not a reward for good behavior.It’s not a troph...
28/04/2025

MARRIAGE IS NOT A REWARD FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR – STOP EARNING IT”

Marriage is not a reward for good behavior.
It’s not a trophy for those who play by all the “rules.”
It’s not the prize at the end of the suffering line.

The truth is, so many people have checked all the boxes—served in church, stayed celibate, forgave endlessly, stayed humble, cooked, cleaned, submitted—and still remained single or ended up in toxic relationships.

While some didn’t even follow all the rules but found healthy, happy marriages.

This proves one thing: Marriage isn’t earned. It’s chosen.
It’s not given to you as a gold star for being a “good person.”
It’s about partnership, not performance.

So, when you treat marriage like a reward:

📍You tolerate disrespect because you think it’s part of the “test.”

📍You stay in situations longer than necessary, hoping God will be “impressed” by your endurance.

📍You judge yourself harshly every time something goes wrong: “Maybe I wasn’t holy enough. Maybe I didn’t pray hard enough.”

That’s not love—that’s slavery to an idea.

Here’s the Truth

Marriage is a beautiful thing, yes. But it’s not proof of your worth.
You are already worthy—with or without a ring.
You don’t have to strive, perform, or shrink yourself to be “chosen.” The right partner will choose you because they see you—not because you “deserve” it through suffering

So stop trying to earn love. Stop trying to qualify for marriage like it’s a competition.
You don’t need to be perfect to be loved. You just need to be real, healed, and ready.
Let go of the mindset that says, “If I behave well enough, I’ll be rewarded with a good spouse.”
Instead, embrace your wholeness and wait for a love that chooses you for who you truly are—not who you pretend to be.

Because real love isn’t earned. It’s given—freely, willingly, and joyfully.

©️ Modupe Ehirim

WHY WE’RE SO DRAWN TO CELEBRITY WEDDINGS — AND WHAT THAT SAYS ABOUT US 💍✨Over the weekend, my feed was filled with photo...
21/04/2025

WHY WE’RE SO DRAWN TO CELEBRITY WEDDINGS — AND WHAT THAT SAYS ABOUT US 💍✨

Over the weekend, my feed was filled with photos and videos from that celebrity wedding.

I’ll be honest — I hadn’t heard of the couple before the buzz began. But like many others, I paused. Watched the clips. Admired the outfits. Took in the glam. It was beautiful.

But I couldn’t help but reflect — not on them — but on us.

Why do these weddings capture our attention so deeply?

Is it the joy? The beauty?
The longing to be loved like that — publicly, extravagantly, without hesitation?
Or the reminder of a dream we’ve quietly shelved?

There’s no shame in being drawn to love stories. We’re wired for connection.
But here’s something I’ve learned as a Marriage Educator:

💡 A beautiful wedding does not guarantee a beautiful marriage.
And real love — the kind that lasts — is built in the ordinary, unfiltered moments.

So if you found yourself watching, rewatching, and feeling something this weekend…

Pause.

Ask yourself:

✨ What kind of love am I truly preparing for?
✨ What story do I want my own relationship to tell — beyond the day of celebration?

Because the flowers fade.
The guests go home.
And what’s left is you, your person, and the life you’re building — one choice at a time.

Let the beauty inspire you.
But let wisdom lead you.

🤍

What do you think moments like this stir up in us — joy, pressure, longing, hope?
Let’s reflect together — not just scroll past.

Today, love is in the air, but I know that for some, it doesn’t feel that way. While the world celebrates romance, some ...
14/02/2025

Today, love is in the air, but I know that for some, it doesn’t feel that way.

While the world celebrates romance, some are nursing heartbreak, feeling unseen in their relationships, or waiting for the right person to come along.

If today feels lonely, I want you to know—you are not alone. You are worthy of love, not just today, but every day.

Love is not just about flowers and fancy dinners; it’s about being valued, respected, and cherished. It’s about choosing and being chosen in return.

If your heart is heavy today, please be gentle with yourself. Love starts with you. Your worth is not measured by your relationship status.

If you’re married but feeling unseen, I see you. If you’re single and wondering when your turn will come, I hear you. If love has hurt you before, I feel you.

Valentine’s Day is one day. But real love? It’s in the everyday moments—kindness, forgiveness, patience, and understanding.

Whether you are celebrating with someone or holding space for yourself, know that love is still yours to experience.

You are deeply loved. You are enough. And the best love story of your life is still being written.

With love and warmth,
Modupe Ehirim

A SOULMATE is a close friend or romantic partner with whom one has a unique deep connection based on mutual understandin...
28/12/2024

A SOULMATE is a close friend or romantic partner with whom one has a unique deep connection based on mutual understanding and acceptance.

Before you look for and find your soulmate, it's essential that you reflect on your vision for life.

Consider the qualities that matter most to you in a partner. Is it loyalty, shared values, or perhaps a sense of humor?

Consider the future that you are looking forward to.

Understanding what you truly desire sets the foundation for a fulfilling relationship.

What traits do you value most in a partner? Share your thoughts below!


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