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ISAAC Ajiboye- Love & Family, CHAPEL OF GLORY, Ogbomoso (2026)

10/04/2026

PARENT KNOW THIS:
"We cannot always be with our children, but we can always pray God's presence around them."

"Convictions are not inherited; they are cultivated."

"Don't fear Babylon- prepare your child to shine in it."

28/03/2026

AM I READY FOR MARITAL RELATIONSHIP? (Part 1)

Marriage is not just a desire; it is a divine institution.
Many are asking “When will I marry?” instead of “Am I ready?”

To know if you're ready for a marital relationship, you must honestly answer the following questions ;

1. The Question of Spiritual Readiness: how sound is your spiritual life ? You cannot lead (or submit) well without God.
Answer these questions:
(A) Do you have a consistent prayer and Word life?
(B) Are you led by the Spirit or by emotions?
(C) Are you growing in Christlike character?
- "Two people walking with God will not struggle walking together". (Amos 3:3)

2. The question of Character and Emotional readiness: This focuses on our emotional stability and maturity. Marriage exposes your true character.
Answer these questions ;
(A). Can you control your temper?
(B). Can you communicate without insult or withdrawal? You are to address the issue not the personality.
(C). Can you forgive consistently? Marriage is a journey of two forgivers.
N. B : "Marriage does not change you but exposes/reveal who you are".

3. The Question of Understanding of Love and Commitment.
Love is beyond feelings. Love is not just emotion, it is sacrifice and responsibility.
Feelings fluctuate but commitment remains. Understanding of love is profound in 1 Corinthians 13.
Answer these questions :
(A) Are you ready to give more than you receive? You must be selfless.
(B) Can you stay committed even when it's not convenient, are you ready to cope?
N. B: If you're not ready to sacrifice, you're not ready for marriage, a successful marriage is based on selflessness.

©ISAAC AJIBOYE ✍️

26/03/2026

How do you respond to this important question 👇
"Am I READY for MARITAL RELATIONSHIP?"

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25/03/2026

THE SECRETS OF INTIMACY

Intimacy goes far beyond physical closeness—it is the deep connection of heart, mind, spirit, and body. Whether in marriage, friendship, or relationship, true intimacy is built, not stumbled into.

Let us discuss the core secrets:
1. EMOTIONAL OPENNESS
Intimacy begins when you allow yourself to be seen—your fears, dreams, weaknesses, and joys. You cannot be deeply connected to someone you are hiding from.
“Naked and not ashamed” (Genesis 2:25) — this speaks of emotional transparency, not just physical exposure.

2. TRUST
Trust is the backbone of intimacy. Without trust, people only relate at the surface.
✅Keep your word
✅Be consistent
✅Protect each other’s vulnerabilities
Trust creates a safe space where love can grow.

3. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
Deep intimacy thrives on meaningful conversation—not just talking, but understanding.
✓Listen without interrupting
✓Speak truth in love
✓Express needs clearly
Silence or poor communication slowly kills intimacy.

4. SPIRITUAL CONNECTION
For believers, true intimacy is strengthened through a shared connection with God.
🙏Pray together
📖Study the Word together
👫Grow spiritually together
When two people are connected to God, their bond becomes stronger and more purposeful.

5. PHYSICAL AFFECTION (NOT JUST SEXUAL)
Intimacy includes touch, but it is not limited to s*x; Holding hands, Hugging, Sitting close, Gentle touches...
These build emotional safety and closeness over time.

6. CONSISTENCY AND TIME
Intimacy doesn’t happen overnight.
Spend quality time together
Be intentional, Show up regularly.
Distance—emotional or physical—weakens intimacy if not managed.

7. VULNERABILITY
This is the highest level of intimacy.
It means: Admitting “I need you”
Saying “I was wrong”. Opening up without fear of rejection.

8. RESPECT AND HONOR
You cannot be truly intimate with someone you don’t respect.
🙇‍♂️Value their opinions
🙇‍♂️Appreciate their uniqueness
🙇‍♂️Avoid contempt and disrespect
Honor sustains intimacy.

9. FORGIVENESS
No relationship is perfect. Offenses will come. Forgive quickly, Don’t keep score, Let go of past hurts.
Bitterness is a silent destroyer of intimacy.

10. INTENTIONAL LOVE
Intimacy grows where love is intentional, not accidental.
Love is:
♥️A choice
♥️A commitment
♥️A daily action

I end on this note:
Intimacy is not about finding the perfect person—it is about becoming the right partner and building a safe, loving connection over time.

©Isaac et Victoria AJIBOYE
(Relationship & Marriage Coach)

24/03/2026

‎COHABITATION- WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAYS ?
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‎Cohabitation means a man and woman living together in a romantic/s*xual relationship without being married. From a biblical perspective, this practice is not supported by Scripture.
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‎1️⃣ God’s Design for Marriage Comes First
‎Genesis 2:24 says:
‎“Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
‎The Pattern in Scripture are:
‎- Leaving (separation from parents)
‎- Cleaving (covenant commitment with your spouse)
‎- Becoming one flesh (s*xual union/consummation)
‎The truth is that, The Bible places s*xual intimacy after covenant marriage, not before.
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‎2️⃣ S*xual Relations Outside Marriage Is Called Fornication
‎1 Corinthians 6:18: “Flee fornication…”
‎Hebrews 13:4: “Marriage is honourable in all… but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
‎Cohabitation usually involves s*xual intimacy without covenant — the Bible calls this fornication (s*xual sin outside marriage).
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‎3️⃣ Marriage Is a Covenant, Not Just Living Together
‎Malachi 2:14 describes marriage as a covenant before God. "Yet you ask, “For what reason?” Because the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have acted treacherously against her, though she was your marriage partner and YOUR WIFE BY COVENANT.
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‎Living together is:
‎A convenience
‎A test arrangement
‎A temporary agreement
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‎Marriage is:
‎A sacred covenant
‎Public commitment
‎Spiritual union before God
‎God honors covenant, not trial relationships.
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‎4️⃣ Avoiding the Appearance of Evil
‎1 Thessalonians 5:22: “Abstain from all appearance of evil.”
‎Even if a couple claims purity, living together creates temptation and damages testimony.
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‎5️⃣ God’s Standard Is Holiness
‎1 Thessalonians 4:3: “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification…”
‎Believers are called to:
‎S*xual purity
‎Self-control
‎Honor toward God
‎Discipline before desire
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‎🔥 Why the Bible Discourages Cohabitation
‎❌It weakens commitment.
‎❌It invites s*xual sin.
‎❌It dishonors God's design.
‎❌It removes accountability.
‎❌It often leads to instability.
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‎💡 ARE YOU ALREADY COHABITING?
‎The Bible offers grace and restoration:
‎Repentance is the key to accepting the grace. "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)
‎✨Separate or formalize the relationship in marriage
‎✨Seek godly counsel
‎✨Pursue purity going forward
‎✨God condemns sin but restores the repentant heart.
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‎ In Conclusion :
Love without covenant is incomplete.
S*x without marriage is sin.
‎Living together without marriage is outside God’s design.
‎God’s pattern is commitment before intimacy.

©Isaac Ajiboye

21/03/2026

DON’T LET THEM PRESSURE YOU

The pressure to get married is real, and for many, it can feel overwhelming.

Society, family, friends, and even personal fears can make you feel like you must marry as soon as possible.

But you should not let these pressures push you into a lifelong commitment you are not ready for.

Let’s talk about the common pressures that drive people into marriage and why they should never be the reason you say, "I do."

📌 Family Expectations

Many families see marriage as a milestone that must be checked off at a certain age.

Parents, uncles, and aunties will keep asking, "When will you bring someone home?"

When you call your mom, the call will not end without her asking when you are going to bring a man or woman home.

They may mean well, but remember, you are the one who will live with the person, not them!

That's why you shouldn't let them pressure you.

📌 Peer Pressure

When friends start getting engaged, having weddings, and posting romantic anniversary messages, it’s easy to feel left out.

You may start wondering, "Is something wrong with me?"

But marriage is not a competition. Everyone’s journey and timing are different.

📌 Age Factor

The older you get, the more people make you feel like time is running out, especially for women.

"Better marry now before it's too late!" But a rushed marriage is more likely to end in regret than a happily-ever-after.

When you allow your age to pressure you into marriage, you are likely to settle for less and any kind of person.

📌 Religious or Cultural Expectations

This is another source of pressure. Some religious communities and cultures emphasize marriage so much that remaining single seems unacceptable.

While marriage is a beautiful institution, it should be entered into with wisdom, not just because it's "expected."

Religion or culture seems to have a thermometer it uses to measure when someone is supposed or is due to be married and if you are not, you will be pressured to get married.

📌 Loneliness

Loneliness is another major sponsor of pressure. Feeling lonely can make you think that marriage will solve all your problems.

You don't have anyone to talk to, spend time with, share your moments with, and all that. It can be overwhelming.

But a bad marriage will make you feel even lonelier than being single.

Instead of rushing into a relationship, focus on building a fulfilling life first.

📌 Pressure from Social Media

Is there any day you log into your social media that you don't get pressured? Seeing beautiful pictures and videos of relationships online can make you feel like you’re missing out.

But don’t be deceived, many of those "perfect" couples are struggling behind closed doors. There's more than meet the eyes.

Marriage is not about aesthetics; it's about real-life commitment.

📌 Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)

When you see people celebrating anniversaries, posting "God when?" moments, or announcing engagements, it’s tempting to think you’re missing out.

But marrying out of fear will only lead to frustration. Getting married because you don't want to miss out is one good way to marry the wrong person.

There's no award for the best wedding or the longest marriage. Calm down.

📌 Fear of Being Alone Forever

Some people think, "If I don’t marry now, I may never find someone."

This fear leads them to settle for partners who are not right for them. A BAD MARRIAGE is WORSE THAN BEING SINGLE.

➡️Why You Shouldn’t Let These Pressures Rush You

👉 You will live with your choices

The person you marry is the person you will live with. If you allow your family, friends, or society to pressure you into marrying the wrong person, you're the one who will face the consequences, not them.

👉 Marriage is for life

It’s not a contract you can easily cancel it's a lifelong commitment. You shouldn't rush it.

👉 Wrong choices lead to regrets

A rushed marriage often leads to unhappiness. When rush into marriage, you're likely to rush out with injuries.

👉 Timing matters

The right person at the right time is better than the wrong person at the wrong time.

👉 Your happiness matters

You deserve to be happy. A healthy, happy single life is better than a toxic marriage. Don't rush things.

Marriage is a beautiful thing when it’s with the right person and at the right time.

Don’t let societal, family, or personal pressures rush you into something you’re not ready for.

Take your time, know yourself, build a strong foundation, and most importantly wait for the right person, not the right age or moment.

👉 Wait for the right — when you are ready to settle down.

👉 Wait for the right person — someone who will love and treat you right.

I hope you find this write up valuable.

19/03/2026

TRUTHS TO KNOW BEFORE STARTING MARITAL RELATIONSHIP

1. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing"- but only the prepared husband can keep that good thing.

2. Marriage is honorable, but only those who honor responsibility should enter it.

3. Before becoming one flesh, learn how to stand as one whole person.

4. God prepares people for marriage before He connects them in marriage.

5. Marriage is not about finding the right person; it is about becoming the right person.

6. If you are not emotionally, spiritually, and financially prepared, you are not yet ready for marriage.

7. A wedding is a day, but marriage is a lifetime—are you prepared for the lifetime?

8. Do not rush into marriage because of age, pressure, or loneliness; enter it because you are ready to love, sacrifice, and commit.

9. Marriage is not a rescue mission for loneliness; it is a covenant that requires maturity.

10. If you cannot manage your own life well, marriage will only multiply your struggles.

11. Before you ask God for a spouse, ask yourself if you are ready to be someone’s partner for life.

12. Marriage reveals who you are; it does not change who you are.

13. A person who is not submitted to God will struggle to submit in marriage.

14. Two people walking toward God will naturally walk closer to each other.

15. Marriage is a divine assignment; readiness is proven in character, not just in desire.

16. Do not pray only for a good spouse—pray to become one.

In the comment section, Let me know which seven (7) truths do you find so vital!

Safe yourself from the regret of marriage, by becoming intentional to learn ahead, know ahead and prepare ahead.

ISAAC AJIBOYE
(Certified Relationship & Marriage Counselor)

19/03/2026

You are specially invited to the Teaching session happening Friday, March 20, 2026.

THEME: "AM I READY FOR MARITAL RELATIONSHIP?"

This session is designed to help you reflect, learn, and gain clarity on your readiness for a healthy and purposeful marital relationship. It promises to be insightful, practical, and impactful.

📍 VENUE: HAPPENING ON SWID PLATFORM
⏰ TIME: 8:30PM
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Don’t miss this opportunity to grow and prepare yourself for a better relationship future.

See you there! 😊

18/03/2026

DON’T LET THEM PRESSURE YOU

The pressure to get married is real, and for many, it can feel overwhelming.

Society, family, friends, and even personal fears can make you feel like you must marry as soon as possible.

But you should not let these pressures push you into a lifelong commitment you are not ready for.

Let’s talk about the common pressures that drive people into marriage and why they should never be the reason you say, "I do."

📌 Family Expectations

Many families see marriage as a milestone that must be checked off at a certain age.

Parents, uncles, and aunties will keep asking, "When will you bring someone home?"

When you call your mom, the call will not end without her asking when you are going to bring a man or woman home.

They may mean well, but remember, you are the one who will live with the person, not them!

That's why you shouldn't let them pressure you.

📌 Peer Pressure

When friends start getting engaged, having weddings, and posting romantic anniversary messages, it’s easy to feel left out.

You may start wondering, "Is something wrong with me?"

But marriage is not a competition. Everyone’s journey and timing are different.

📌 Age Factor

The older you get, the more people make you feel like time is running out, especially for women.

"Better marry now before it's too late!" But a rushed marriage is more likely to end in regret than a happily-ever-after.

When you allow your age to pressure you into marriage, you are likely to settle for less and any kind of person.

📌 Religious or Cultural Expectations

This is another source of pressure. Some religious communities and cultures emphasize marriage so much that remaining single seems unacceptable.

While marriage is a beautiful institution, it should be entered into with wisdom, not just because it's "expected."

Religion or culture seems to have a thermometer it uses to measure when someone is supposed or is due to be married and if you are not, you will be pressured to get married.

📌 Loneliness

Loneliness is another major sponsor of pressure. Feeling lonely can make you think that marriage will solve all your problems.

You don't have anyone to talk to, spend time with, share your moments with, and all that. It can be overwhelming.

But a bad marriage will make you feel even lonelier than being single.

Instead of rushing into a relationship, focus on building a fulfilling life first.

📌 Pressure from Social Media

Is there any day you log into your social media that you don't get pressured? Seeing beautiful pictures and videos of relationships online can make you feel like you’re missing out.

But don’t be deceived, many of those "perfect" couples are struggling behind closed doors. There's more than meet the eyes.

Marriage is not about aesthetics; it's about real-life commitment.

📌 Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)

When you see people celebrating anniversaries, posting "God when?" moments, or announcing engagements, it’s tempting to think you’re missing out.

But marrying out of fear will only lead to frustration. Getting married because you don't want to miss out is one good way to marry the wrong person.

There's no award for the best wedding or the longest marriage. Calm down.

📌 Fear of Being Alone Forever

Some people think, "If I don’t marry now, I may never find someone."

This fear leads them to settle for partners who are not right for them. A BAD MARRIAGE is WORSE THAN BEING SINGLE.

➡️Why You Shouldn’t Let These Pressures Rush You

👉 You will live with your choices

The person you marry is the person you will live with. If you allow your family, friends, or society to pressure you into marrying the wrong person, you're the one who will face the consequences, not them.

👉 Marriage is for life

It’s not a contract you can easily cancel it's a lifelong commitment. You shouldn't rush it.

👉 Wrong choices lead to regrets

A rushed marriage often leads to unhappiness. When rush into marriage, you're likely to rush out with injuries.

👉 Timing matters

The right person at the right time is better than the wrong person at the wrong time.

👉 Your happiness matters

You deserve to be happy. A healthy, happy single life is better than a toxic marriage. Don't rush things.

Marriage is a beautiful thing when it’s with the right person and at the right time.

Don’t let societal, family, or personal pressures rush you into something you’re not ready for.

Take your time, know yourself, build a strong foundation, and most importantly wait for the right person, not the right age or moment.

👉 Wait for the right time — when you are ready to settle down.

👉 Wait for the right person — someone who will love and treat you right.

I hope you find this write up valuable.

10/03/2026

Blessings to all Married couples and Singles from our vacation last year December!

17/02/2026

It's beautiful thing to be alone sometimes with your spouse.
I and my GEM at vacation.

17/02/2026

‎ STEPS TO AVOID A WRONG MARRIAGE (FOR SINGLES)
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‎Marriage is too important to be left to chance. Who you marry will influence your joy, peace, progress, and even destiny. Sadly, many singles rush into marriage without adequate preparation and end up with regret instead of rejoicing. As a Marriage Clinician, I have seen how one wrong marital choice can destroy a bright future.
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‎The truth is simple: marriage is not about finding just anyone, it is about finding the right one. And to do this, you must be intentional. Below are 10 essential steps every single must take to avoid marrying wrong.
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‎1. Know Yourself Before Knowing Another
‎Many singles rush into relationships without a clear identity. If you don’t know who you are, you won’t know who is right for you. Take time to understand your values, purpose, vision, and personality. When you know yourself, you can easily identify someone who complements you.
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‎2. Build a Strong Relationship with God
‎God is the author of marriage. You can’t do it successfully without Him. Learn to hear His voice, follow His leading, and trust His timing. When your relationship with God is strong, you’ll avoid desperate choices that lead to marital mistakes.
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‎3. Don’t Ignore Red Flags
‎Love is not blind, infatuation is. If you notice lies, violence, bad temper, addiction, irresponsibility, or lack of integrity, don’t excuse it. What you overlook during courtship will multiply in marriage. Pay attention now, or pay the price later.
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‎4. Look Beyond Beauty and Money
‎Physical attraction and financial status are important, but they cannot sustain marriage. Marry character, not curves. Choose integrity, not just income. A beautiful face without a beautiful heart will frustrate you in marriage.
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‎5. Check for Compatibility
‎Marriage is not just about love; it’s about alignment. Do your values, beliefs, goals, and vision align? Can you pray together, dream together, and grow together? Compatibility makes love stronger and marriage sweeter.
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‎6. Seek Godly Counsel
‎Many singles marry wrong because they reject counsel. Don’t walk this journey alone. Seek wisdom from spiritual leaders, counselors, or mentors who can see what you may not see. Their experience can save you from lifelong regret.
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‎7. Take Your Time, Don’t Rush
‎Rushing into marriage is like jumping into a moving vehicle without checking where it is heading. Patience allows you to truly know someone’s character. A rushed marriage is often a ruined marriage.
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‎8. Observe How They Treat Others
‎How your partner treats their parents, friends, or people they don’t need tells you a lot about who they really are. If they disrespect others, it is only a matter of time before they disrespect you.
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‎9. Deal With Your Past Before Marriage
‎Unhealed childhood wounds, past heartbreaks, or secret habits can ruin a future marriage. Don’t carry unresolved baggage into your union. Heal, grow, and mature before saying “I do.”
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‎10. Pray Earnestly and Be Led by the Spirit
‎At the end of the day, you can’t see everything. Only God knows tomorrow. Prayer positions you for divine direction and clarity. When you let the Holy Spirit guide your choice, you will not walk into error.
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‎To help you make the best decision and further mentorship, You can join our Singles Wisdom Domain, SWID - A platform for singles aspiring for a joyful and lasting marriage.
Send 'ADD ME' to 08032426094.

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