02/05/2023
Recently, there have been a couple of cute church proposal videos trending on social media and it is so amazing to watch how creative people can be in this proposal game. It keeps me wondering, ‘Why inside the church?’
As different ideas popped up in my head as to why the fellas may have chosen the 'house of the Lord'. It occurred to me that it really does not matter the choice of location where the proposal took place, what will matter the most are the choices they will have to make in the marriage he proposed and she accepted to enter into.
We are in a generation that major on the minor and minor on the major, still yet it is this same generation that would refuse to acknowledge that the real hard work for any successful venture, marriage inclusive, is not done on social media. While you may google up and find grand ideas on How to propose to the love of your life. You may not be able to easily google up and find how to keep your home no matter what. You would even most likely find divorce ideas and separation counsels.
Real and true marriages that stand the test of time are not done on social media. Why so? The characters that make for great marriages are not celebrated by pop culture. Love, Submission, Kindness, Forgiveness, Peace, Joy, Patience, Tolerance, Self-control and Long suffering. Yes, I added that right there LONGSUFFERING and may I remind you that it is a fruit of the spirit expected from all Christians. Please note: The ‘love’ pop culture celebrates is different from the love the bible recommends to make marriage work.
A friend once told me of an acquittance that proposed to his ‘babe’ in a cinema. Like, while the film show was going on, he went to the stage and did his thing, it was pre-planned and paid for, with the bill running up to the tune of a million naira plus. There was uproar from the crowd which was mostly made of family and friends and according to him, it was such a very beautiful and grand event. However, few years into the marriage there were turbulences and the marriage hit the rock. So sad, right? Don’t be quick to judge by thinking that if they had proposed in church with the support of the pastor and the congregants the marriage would turn out differently.
If marriages conducted in the church, in the presence of God and the cloud of heavenly witnesses, Pastor and Congregants, family and friends is hitting the rock bottom, is it proposal done in church that would then solidify the marriage? Why then is this church proposal becoming a thing now? I honestly have so many questions. But I would only ask one and then make a request.
Question: can the lady say NO to a guy proposing to her in front of their Pastor?
Request: Please can you share with us your proposal story and how that impacted on your marriage. It cannot be only me that is overthinking this thing.
Love and Light
