Ndukwe Elochukwu Kenechukwu

12/07/2025

A beautiful family starts with a good man.

When a man is good to his wife,it goes down to his children & the whole family is blessed

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13/07/2023

12/07/2023

10 WAYS TO SPOT A WRONG LADY FOR MARRIAGE

1) Be mindful of a lady who does not have a relationship with God, who does not have any desire to build one; she should be avoided, unless you too do not have a relationship with Him. A woman who loves and respects the Lord will love and respect you in obedience to the Lord! She will support you spiritually through prayers and will encourage you with the word when you are down and out. She will be there to teach your children the way of the Lord. She is a home builder and not a home breaker!

2) Never get married to a woman who finds it difficult to respect her father, elder brother or anyone that represents a male-figure; she will really find it tough submitting to you. Do not forget; men perceive respect as a proof of love and it is in their nature to value and love someone that respects them. A good woman is submissive to her husband not necessarily because he deserves it but because it is her nature to do so and because God commands it.

3) Watch for a woman who is teachable, flexible and humble. An arrogant, stubborn and rigid woman is predisposed to building a bad marriage; go for her if you want a woman who will give you trouble at home. The willingness to learn is an important factor that can make any woman become better with time no matter how crude, immature or incompatible she is with you. Flexible people adapt to change and change is consistent in any marital relationship.

4) Be weary of a lady who has perfected the art of deception. She can pretend to be an angel, to love you at all cost and do everything possible to entice you and when you are married, she will reveal her true nature. When a woman is nice to a fault, everything you do or say is right, she never gets angry no matter how you treat her or what happens, I bet you, she isn't real or genuine. Some ladies behave this way because they are desperate to be married, because of poor self image or for what they will gain from the relationship e.g Money. You need to marry a woman who is so genuine that you will love her for who she is, loving her in her best and worse state. However, pretense will never lead to a lasting marital commitment rather it will result to a dysfunctional relationship.

5) Never marry a woman who loves you for your money, family background, and social status. The reason is simple;(God Forbids) when your money is gone and all your wealth is gone, she will either abandon you or she will give you a hell of trouble by nagging you to death. Money has wings and can fly away and fly back but true love endures forever.
Secondly, marriage is about the two of you alone and you will make it happen based on your character and behaviour. It is not about your extended family name and your social status.

6) Any woman who is very lazy and wants a man to provide EVERYthing for her is not worth being married to. A woman, who is always asking for money, for clothes, for call card, always demanding money and material things from you no matter how much you give, should be avoided. A woman should be self-reliant; industrious and financially independent to an extent. There is nothing wrong with requesting financial assistance and gifts from someone you love and want to be married to, however when such an act becomes a burden, a demand, a consistent pattern, it is no longer an expression of love but a mere act done to fulfil an obligation. I have observed that most women who genuinely love their men think of how to support them and not to rip them off. They are always looking for ways to support you and build you up and not to grab from you.

7) Never get married to a woman who hardly tells the truth, who has a tendency to steal out of greed or any other reason; she may steal from you or from others one day and cause you a lifetime embarrassment.
It will be difficult to vouch for or trust a liar. I heard a story of a wedding that was called off in Nigeria because, at night before the wedding, the lady who was about to wed stole some jewelry e which was bought by her fiancé’s mother for her daughter. When they started searching for the expensive jewelries es, no one agreed to have found them; the lady also denied setting her eyes on them; but in the course of the search, it was found in her sister’s box. After much interrogation, the sister confessed that she was the one who asked her to hide them.
That was how a wedding involving a young man based in the US with his family and this beautiful but dishonest lady was annulled. Anyone who has the propensity to tell lies without remorse also has the tendency to steal. May God open your eyes to see clearly!

8. Be wary of a woman who has unrealistic expectations from you as she expects you to make up for the emotional emptiness of her childhood created by an absent or unloving father.
A husband cannot parent his wife, it is the role of her father; he can only parent his own children. Only God can be a father to the fatherless or a mother to the motherless.
Marry a woman who is whole and mature who does not need to depend on any man for her sense of fulfillment in life but on God.

9) Never get married to a lady who cannot delay gratification. She always wants to buy more clothes, some more jewelries, some more shoes, a shopping freak who hardly saves money. Unless you are as rich as Bill Gate or Warren Buffet, it might be burdensome coping with her. Furthermore, avoid getting married to a lady who cannot control her sexual desire and does not place any value on her body. A virtuous woman will not want you to go all the way before marriage because she knows how to control her emotions and she exercises restraint on spending.

10) Avoid any lady who does not love your friends and family members; she does not allow you to keep in touch with friends and relatives except hers. A good lady has a large heart and would be willing to accommodate others. Marriage does not mean isolation from family but rather an integration of a nuclear family into an extended family.

There are many other factors that can help you spot a wrong lady but above all, find a woman who loves God more than you or anyone else. Her love for God will bring out the best in her and enable her love you unreservedly because she knows that being the best for you pleases God. When looking for a wife, focus on finding a woman who has the traits of a virtuous woman as listed below. However, remember that it is important to become a MR RIGHT before you go looking for a MRS RIGHT. Perfection is not a human attribute.

What the bible says about the qualities of a Great Wife.
~ A wife of noble character who can find?
~ She is worth far more than rubies.
~ Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
~ She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
~ She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
~ She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
~ She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
~ She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
~ She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
~ She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the staff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
~ She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
~ She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
~ She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.
~ She is clothed with strength and dignity she can laugh at the days to come.
~ She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
~ She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
~ Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honour her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. PROVERBS 31:10-31

May God grant you the grace to discover the right mate!

12/07/2023

*HOW TO CHOOSE A LIFE PARTNER*

Choosing a right life partner is a high stake decision and it starts with understanding what to look for in a life partner. Finding the right partner is essential for a happy and healthy marriage. So it is very crucial to choose wisely and prayerfully. In choosing a life partner, you must make up your mind to do the will of God.

Below are scriptural recommendations to consider before choosing a life partner. From my research, observation and experience, these are the basic principles a person could follow before choosing a life partner.

*1. CHOOSE AN INDIVIDUAL WHO IS IN CHRIST:*
The will of God in marriage is that you marry a believer, someone who is genuinely born-again. Someone who is genuinely converted and posses the fruit of the Spirit. Beloved, if you are a real child of God who understands the principles of the kingdom, you can’t think of marrying an unbeliever. Don’t say, I will marry so as to change him or her. It is better an unbeliever marries an unbeliever because they can walk together, they have the same mindset. Read
2 Corinthians 6:14-18.

*2. CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO YOU ARE COMPATIBLE WITH:*
Before you choose whom to marry, both of you must be compatible in purpose, vision, values, doctrines and if possible in education. When I mean compatible, I mean both of you share similar values and purpose for life. Please, before you choose your life partner, discover your purpose for existence; it is very easy to know the will of God, if you know where you are heading to.

If you are a visionary man or woman, please don’t marry anyone who has no vision or who is not compatible with you in purpose. If you want to be a minister, is good to marry someone who will support your ministry. One major reason for divorce today is as a result of division. Your marriage can be ruined if you marry someone you are not compatible with. There will be commotion, rancor, separation and eventually divorce. Read Amos 3:3.

*3. CHOOSE AN INDIVIDUAL WHO HAS GOOD CHARACTER:*
Character is not negotiable; do not joke with this principle, if you don’t want to suffer in your marriage, please watch out for good character before you say I do. "Attitude is everything". When you talk about character; it is who you are, it’s the way you think, it is your behavior etc. An individual who have bad character is dangerous to be married to. An individual who gets angry at the slightest provocation could be a time bomb waiting to explode. Nagging, stinginess, quarellsomeness, unforgiving spirit among others are bad characters. Understand that no one is perfect but please there are warning signs you must not joke with. Love with your heart and brain.

*4. CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO HAS CAPACITY:*
Before you choose your life partner, it is very important to check out if the individual has the capacity to add value to your life in every ramification. The individual should be productive and not a liability. Before you choose your life partner, make sure that individual is someone who is doing something worthwhile (no matter how small) there must be a sense of responsibility.

The person may not have a job at the moment, or may not have a car or a house now, but does the individual have the capacity to have that tomorrow? Don’t marry a lazy man or woman, marry a right thinking individual. Don't marry someone who claims to have a vision yet walking aimlessly. Marry a hardworking, focused and goal oriented individual. Read Proverbs 31:1-33.

*5. CHOOSE SOMEONE YOU HAVE UNQUENCHABLE LOVE FOR:*

Love is the will of God. Love is one of the fruits of the Spirit in Galatians 5:22. When Rebecca was asked if she will follow Abraham’s servant back as wife to Isaac, she said yes even though she hasn't seen Isaac. She loved him after hearing so much about him. The Bible said Boaz loved Ruth and Joseph loved Mary.
Love cannot be quenched no matter the ocean of waters. Love must be a driving force in knowing the will of God for you. You must have an unquenchable, unconquerable, and unconditional love for the individual.

This kind of Love is divinely imparted. You can't even explain even understand it yourself. It is neither because of the physical, material or financial capacity of the individual but a passionate and never dying Love.

I experienced this kind of Love for my wife before we got married. No matter how I tried to wave it, I could not. It was so strong like a rock that can never be moved. This kind of Love is not mere chemistry, emotion, feelings, infatuation and lust. True love never fades no matter the circumstances.

*6. CHOOSE SOMEONE YOU HAVE PEACE OF MIND AND ASSURANCE IN YOUR HEART FOR:*
The will of God is that before you marry anyone, there must be the peace of Christ that passes all understanding in your heart. Don't ever propose or accept any proposal of marriage to anyone you don’t have peace of mind for. Even after you have proposed or accepted a proposal and you lose your peace, it may be a warning sign that it is not the will of God for you.

When Isaac saw Rebecca, he forgot all his sorrows and the mourning of his mother's death. When Ruth and Boaz met there was peace in their minds before they married.

Don't jump into any marriage relationship even when the person is born-again, loving, caring among others and you don’t have peace of Mind. Though sometimes, you may not have peace initially but after sometime it may eventually be there. If it doesn’t come after a long time, please don't go ahead with the relationship.

*7. CARRY YOUR SPIRITUAL LEADER ALONG IN YOUR DECISION:*

In the multitude of counsel there is safety. The Pastor or Priest is your spiritual leader. It is the will of God that Spiritual leaders guide you on your journey to Marriage. Sometimes, God can use your spiritual leader to guide you on the right path to a successful marriage. What they see and know you may never see.

Your Pastor may be aware that a Brother is impotent or a sister is HIV positive and by consulting your Pastor before making any move, he will guide you better. Don't neglect your spiritual leaders on your choice for a life partner.

NOTE: It not your Spiritual leaders that will make the final choice for you; they are only there to guide you. Nobody should prophesy lies to you that you should marry someone or not, that is why you need to learn to hear from God personally. God can use your leader to speak to you but you must confirm it with the word of God. Have your own personal conviction.

If your pastor said don't marry an unbeliever, he is very right. But when he says the opposite, kindly reject it. What I am saying is that there are false Prophets everywhere; is not everybody you call your Spiritual leader, they must be Pastors and Priest indeed. If you have a committee that organizes marriage in your church, carry them along.

*8. MAKE SURE YOU ARE COMPATIBLE MEDICALLY WITH THE INDIVIDUAL BEFORE YOU START ANY MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP:*

This is one area most people ignore before marriage. It has cost pains for lots of marriages all over the world. To test and confirm the will of God in marriage, you have to carry out some very important medical test such as Genotype, Blood group, HIV, STD among others, in other to ascertain if you are compatible health wise. Don’t rush to propose or accept any marriage proposal when you have not done this medical test.

Even if you have proposed or accepted a proposal, you must do it to know if both of you can marry or not. If you discover both of you are not compatible, pease my counsel is don’t go ahead with the marriage except you have prayed and you are very sure God said you should go ahead. Faith is good but wisdom is profitable to direct. This is one way to confirm God’s will. Many are suffering today with children who are carriers of sickle cell anemia and other defects because they never listened to this counsel.

*9. CARRY YOUR PARENTS ALONG BEFORE YOU SAY I DO:*

Your parents are major stakeholders in your choice of a life partner. They have a say in who you marry or not. If they are godly parents, they will not want you to marry an unbeliever, and they may be very careful in accepting who you say you want to marry because they don't want you to make mistake. So choose wisely, prayerfully and graciously before approaching them.

Your parents could also help you to confirm the will of God. Sometimes you may not see beyond your nose, but God can use your parents to correct you when you are taking the wrong decision. If you are sure you made the right decision and your parents are against it, be patient and pray more, by the grace of God they will eventually key into it. Don’t abandon your parents and elope with a man that has not paid your bride price and don’t elope with someone’s daughter without performing the necessary marital rights.

Note: You must back up your desires and choice of a life partner with earnest prayers and possibly fasting. Make Jesus the foundation of your marital journey. Don't neglect the place of the Spirit leading. Make sure you are fully persuaded about the person you are led to before you say I do. Be patient, don't rush into marriage without series of confirmation from God about the person. God can use different ways to confirm to you. Just be sensitive. Avoid idols in your heart while making your choice. Have faith in God.

Trust in the Lord and lean not on your understanding.

You will not make marital error in JESUS NAME

06/07/2023

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03/05/2023

A stranger comes to you and say Bros, abeg help me with only one minute call from your phone, my phone is dead and i need to call someone.
and you, being a nice person, you say haba...no problem, take and make the call.

do you know what you have done?
if that your phone is used to call someone they want to go and kill or someone they just poisoned and when investigation starts and they had to check who call them last and your number shows up....
let me break what will happen to you down in pieces, so that you will learn something today from this page.

first of all, you will answer for it because your phone was used to make that call and it will be considered that you know the person thats why you gave the person your phone and its a known deal between you guys.

secondly, since the inception of NIN, your phone is now your personal property that you will answer for anything that happens on it..

so for this reasons, you will be arrested and kept in detention until all investigation is completed.
even if the investigation takes 6 months ehn, that means you will be locked up for 6 months over the fact that just borrow someone your phone to make one minute call.

shey you now see that your Good Heart can lead you to something bad and ignorance of the law is not an excuse.

don't be stingy with this information i just passed to you, share it will your family and friends so they can learn cos if anything like this happens to them, you will be guilty of hiding this information and GOD won't be happy with you.