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Tatafo Nurse, Uyo (2025)

14/07/2025

Let’s talk about money.

Shall we?

When I was practicing nursing back home, I use to think that nurses in the abroad are living on easy street financially.

I hear it all the time and I also say it😂😂

“She’s a nurse in the UK, she must be loaded.”

Now, I know better.

Let’s break it down.

Yes, it’s true that nurses in the UK earn in pounds, while those in Nigeria earn in naira.

Abi?

And because of the exchange rate, it looks like nurses in the abroad are all millionaires over here.

But the truth is deeper than just the currency.

See the reality👇

The same way a nurse in Nigeria earns in naira, spends in naira, pays rent, buys fuel, pays children’s school fees, and still ends up with little savings, that’s the same way a nurse in the UK earns in pounds, spends in pounds, pays rent, council tax, transportation, energy bills, childcare, and sometimes ends up with little savings too.

The main difference is that the value of the currency is stronger here.

So if I save, let’s say, £300 in a month, and you convert it to naira, it might look like two or three months’ salary for a nurse in Nigeria or even more.

That’s where the illusion comes in.

But let me tell you where some people make a big mistake.

When they look at their savings only in naira terms, they feel rich. I mean those who save pounds in naira, right?

Saving in pounds and getting richer in pounds requires blood and sweat.

I’m spending pounds, not naira.

My bills are in pounds.

Groceries are in pounds.

Transport is in pounds.

And don’t even get me started on rent, it can swallow half of your salary if you’re not careful, and it’s monthly parole😄

So yes, we might save more than what we could save back home, but it doesn’t mean money is overflowing in the abroad.

There are people working back-to-back shifts just to survive and send something home.

The stress is real…damn real.

Everything is structured and tracked.

If you don’t pay your bills on time, your credit score suffers, and that affects everything from getting a mortgage to buying a car. It’s not like back home where you can negotiate with your landlord for an extra month or skip a bill here and there.

I saw a video saying people in the youkay are stingy, I watched it with a big smile, because I would say same two years ago. I know better now.

People see us earning in pounds, they believe we have endless money to send home. They don’t understand that what looks like “small change” in pounds is a big deal for us because it can be the difference between paying rent or falling into debt.

Another thing is, some people abroad live above their means just to look good to those back home. Buying big cars, sending pictures of shopping bags, living in houses they can’t really afford all for the gram. Meanwhile, some are drowning in debt quietly.

Here’s my honest advice👇

If you’re planning to migrate, come with a realistic financial plan.

Understand that your expenses will be in pounds, not naira.

Don’t fall into the trap of endless conversions that make you feel rich, you’ll overspend and end up in debt.

Be disciplined, save, invest and plan for the future.

And if you’re back home, please have empathy, those abroad are not plucking money from trees.

At the end of the day, the UK offers better systems, better opportunities, and a chance for financial growth but it’s not automatic wealth ooo.

It comes with sacrifice, long hours, and plenty of bills.

I say let me put this out here✌️✌️

14/07/2025

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People say a lot about marriages breaking abroad.

But there’s so much they don’t talk about.

I’m speaking as a married woman with three kids who lives in the UK, and i want to tell you some truths from my heart.

Relocating as a family sounds very exciting, new opportunities, better life for the children, stable system.

But let me tell you this, migration will test your marriage in ways you might never expect.

Take it from me.

From the moment you land, the anxiety starts.

In my case, I came and then my family joined after almost a year.

Everything will be different.

I mean everything especially with children involved.

Even simple things like school runs, registering with the GP, finding your way around, it will all feel like work.

There are days you’ll lie beside your spouse in bed, wide awake, asking yourselves, “did we really make the right decision?”

And quarrels abroad? Hmm!

They hit differently.

Back home, you quarrel and it ends.

Here, it’s deeper.

Because underneath every argument, there’s exhaustion, frustration, and silent fear.

You’re both stressed, trying to figure out life, trying to give the children stability while dealing with your own worries. Small issues suddenly feel heavy.

The financial pressure too is real.

People think it’s greener abroad, but sometimes the grass is brown in the first year and even extends for few years for some.

Bills pile up, rent, council tax, electricity, transport, childcare or minder if you use one.

Money flies out faster than it comes in. Read that again.

And if you and your spouse are not on the same page financially, hmmm, it can cause serious problems.

You have to agree on your financial goals and communicate constantly. Otherwise, resentment will grow.

Childcare abroad is another story entirely.

It’s expensive, and you’ll find yourselves working odd shifts just to make ends meet. There are days you and your spouse may barely see each other.

Just three weeks ago, my husband and I didn’t see each other for a whole day despite living under the same roof.

I was coming home from night shift as he was leaving for work. That same evening, I left for another night shift.

We later sat down and promised ourselves never to let that happen again. Because time together is crucial.

Another thing people don’t talk about is the loneliness. Back home, you could drop your kids with family, visit friends, or attend events.

Abroad, it’s just you, your spouse, and the kids.

The isolation can be intense. Very intense except you know how to sprinkle fun here and there.

Also, please, avoid comparing your journey to others.

It’s easy to look at other migrant families and feel like you’re failing because they’re buying houses, driving nice cars, or appearing settled.

But trust me, social media only shows you the highlights, not the hidden struggles.

Focus on your own journey.

Move at your own pace. Pressure will only strain your marriage further.

Let me say this clearly, love alone is not enough to keep your marriage abroad.

You need understanding, patience, and the ability to talk about everything.

You must be intentional about your marriage. Find ways to spend time together, no matter how busy life gets. Even if it’s just sitting together for fifteen minutes before bed.

Have the same goals.

Plan together.

Support each other.

And never underestimate how stressed the other person might be feeling.

Because this period what I call the acclimatisation stage is real.

It’s tough.

But it does get better with time.

Slowly, you’ll find your rhythm.

Things will begin to feel familiar.

Life will start to balance out.

So if you and your spouse are planning to “jakpa” with your kids, prepare more than your passports oo.

Dont say you didn’t know.

Prepare your mind, your marriage, and your plans.

Don’t let the stress of starting over abroad destroy the love you built back home. Instead find ways to make it stronger.

What is ahead of you both, you cannot see it while preparing back..na when you land. Hold your spouse tight.

At the end..it’s just you two and the kids.

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14/07/2025

Happy New Week💕💕

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10/07/2025

The photo on the right?

That was me a few months after I arrived in the UK, eating like there was no tomorrow 😅.

Same cloth, same face.

Everything is cheap, accessible, and let’s be honest, stress was high. I was coping the way I knew how..food.

Sometimes I’d eat 2 to 3 whole chickens in one week. Yes, chickens, not wings o 😭.

All the clothes I brought from Nigeria? They stopped fitting. My face was rounder, my energy was low, and I quietly told myself, this is not life.

I’ve always been someone who likes to maintain her shape, not obsessively, but I love feeling comfortable in my body.

So I made small changes.

I started watching what I ate, often skipping breakfast and being more mindful. Only eat during lunch time at work and snack to bed when home, plus 12 hours shift stress. I slowly began returning to my original weight… until depression crept in between September and December of last year, that’s a story for another day.

Why am I sharing this?

Because three weeks ago, I noticed I was back to eating four full meals a day, plus snacks 😅. I checked my weight and boom 3kg added.

I don’t have the strength for gym routines or invasive weight loss methods.

I want to keep people confused about my age for ever😂

So here I am again, resetting.

What will I do now as my kids and hubby mouth be moving upandan in this house😅

Or should I just join them and leave weight matter for Mathias?

10/07/2025

Thank you everyone for your kind words, prayers and wishes.

You all made my day on my birthday.

God bless you and keep you🩷🫶🫶

📸 Koli

09/07/2025

Dear Franca Eke Nyambi

Happy Birthday.

Today, take a deep breath and pause.

Phewww..you have come a long way.

From Nigeria to the UK.

From a young girl with dreams…

…to a wife, a mum of three, a nurse, a writer, a speaker, an author, a founder, a podcaster, and a career and visibility coach.

You’ve built a life that inspires others.

You’ve carried your family with love, even in unfamiliar places.

You’ve stayed strong, even when life got hard.

You’ve shown up for others, even while figuring things out for yourself.

You’ve helped nurses find direction.

You’ve helped women step out of the shadows.

You’ve shared your motherhood journey with grace and truth.

And you’ve used your voice online and offline to teach, encourage, and uplift.

So today, remind yourself.

You are allowed to rest.

You are allowed to grow slowly.

You are doing enough.

You are becoming everything God created you to be.

This new year of your life, choose joy.

Choose peace.

Choose purpose.

Choose visibility.
.and above all, keep choosing YOU.

There’s still more ahead.

Bigger doors.

Greater impact.

More stories to tell.

I am so proud of you.

Keep going, Franca.

You are light.

You are love.

You are purpose walking.

Happy birthday.

With love,

From
Your
Dear
Self.

9/7/2025

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08/07/2025

My name is Franca, and tomorrow, by God’s grace, I’ll be celebrating another year of life.

As i count down, I’ve been writing letters to the girl child, letters i wish someone had written to me when i was younger.

Yesterday, we spoke about owning your body and understanding s*x.

Today, as i wrap up this journey, i want to talk to you about something practical, powerful, and life changing.

Learning a Skill.

Dear Girl Child,

Let me tell you something.

“No knowledge is wasted.”

I didn’t fully understand those words growing up.

But as i grew older, i realised, skills will feed you when degrees can’t.

Skills will open doors when connections fail.

Skills will give you confidence when life tries to shake you.

In this life, my dear, it’s not enough to just “go to school and get good grades.”

Yes, get your education.

But also, learn a skill.

Something with your hands.

Something with your mind.

Something that can become a stream of income, a creative outlet, or even a career.

Learn how to👇🏻

Bake a cake.
Sew a dress.
Code a website.
Speak another language.
Do digital marketing.
Edit videos.
Write content.
Make hair.
Sell products online.
Do graphic design.
Manage money wisely.

I can do 9 out of the above.

Make your own list and learn.

The world we live in now is changing.

People are making a living from skills that didn’t even exist 10 years ago.

Don’t ever look down on your hands.

They can create wealth.

Don’t ever think only “uneducated” people learn trades or crafts.

Some of the richest women today are women who dared to turn their skills into businesses.

My dear girl child,

A skill will help you.

Stand out in a crowded job market.

Earn money while studying.

Build your confidence.

Solve problems for people around you.

Gain independence, so you don’t have to beg anyone to survive.

I love this saying.

“Person wey get skill no dey suffer reach person wey no get.”

Meaning, a person with skill will never suffer as much as someone who has none.

So today, I leave you with this.

Dare to learn something new.

Dare to keep growing.

Dare to put your gift to work.

Dare to be the girl who knows how to create, build, and earn.

Because one day, that skill might become the very thing that changes your life and your family’s story.

I’m rooting for you, always.

With Love,

Tatafo Nurse

05/07/2025

My name is Franca, and in just 4 days, I’ll be adding another year to my life’s story.

As i count down, I’m writing these letters to every girl child out there, because the world needs girls who dare to live boldly, and who also know what it means to build character from the inside out.

Yesterday, we spoke about friendship and letting go.

Today, i want to talk about something deeper.

Virtues.

Dear Girl Child,

Listen to me carefully today.

Beauty will open some doors.

Talent might get you noticed.

But it is your virtues that will sustain you and set you apart.

In this world, they’ll teach you how to look beautiful.

How to pose for the camera.

How to dress like a “slay queen.”

Nothing wrong with looking good, my dear.

Look good.

Smell nice.

Be confident.

But remember this, a beautiful face without beautiful virtues is like a flashy wrapper with nothing inside.

So, build virtues.

Kindness👇🏻

The world is hard enough. Be the reason someone believes in goodness again.

Integrity 👇🏻

Let your yes be yes, and your no be no. Let your word mean something. Don’t live a double life online and offline.

Humility 👇🏻

Don’t confuse humility with low self-esteem. Humility is strength under control. It’s knowing who you are but not needing to shout it from the rooftops.

Discipline 👇🏻

Talent is good, but discipline is what makes talent shine consistently. Wake up.

Show up.

Do the work, even when you don’t feel like it.

Empathy 👇🏻

Learn to feel what others feel. The world needs more women who can listen without judgement.

Courage 👇🏻

Speak the truth, even when your voice shakes. Stand up for yourself and for others.

Gratitude 👇🏻

Learn to say “thank you.” Gratitude opens doors and keeps your heart soft.

Virtue is not old-school, my girl.

It is timeless.

The world may call it boring. They may call you “too strict” or “too serious.”

But hear me.

Virtues will protect you from mistakes. They will guide you in choosing friends, partners, jobs, and decisions. They will give you peace at night.

There’s an old Nigerian saying “Good character is better than gold.”

It’s true.

Money can come and go.

Beauty fades.

Fame is fickle.

But character?

It leaves a legacy.

So today, I leave you with this, dare to be a girl of substance.

Dare to build virtues like treasures.

Dare to live in such a way that when your name is mentioned, people say, “She’s a good person.”

Because in the end, my dear girl child, true greatness is not just what you achieve, it is who you become.

I’m rooting for you, always.

With Love,

Tatafo Nurse

04/07/2025

My name is Franca, and in 5 days, I’ll be celebrating another year of life.

Every day as i count down, I’m writing from my heart to the girl child, because too many of us were left to figure life out alone.

Today, i want to talk about something that shapes us deeply, for better or for worse.

Friendship.

Dear Girl Child,

Let’s talk.

Nobody really teaches us how to do friendship.

Especially as women.

We grow up being told to “play nice” and “be loyal,” but nobody tells us how to handle the pain when a friend becomes a stranger… or a competitor.

Here’s what I’ve learned with time.

Some friendships are for a reason.

Some are for a season.

Some are for a lifetime.

And knowing which is which will save you a lot of tears.

You will have friends who clap when you win and you will have some who go silent.

You will have friends who support your growth and some who secretly wish you’d stay small.

You will have friends who challenge you to become better and some who compete with you like life is a game.

My dear girl, let them go.

Let go of the ones who can’t be happy for you.

Let go of the ones who only show up when it benefits them.

Let go of the ones who get uncomfortable when you shine.

Let go of the ones who turn everything into a silent competition.

Friendship should feel safe.

It should feel like home.

It should not feel like you’re constantly auditioning to be loved.

Keep the friends who don’t compete with you.

Keep the ones who fix your crown in private.

Keep the ones who pray for you behind closed doors.

Keep the ones who call you out with love when you’re going off track.

Keep the ones who carry your name like honour, not gossip.

And most importantly, be that kind of friend, too.

Because the older you get, the more you’ll realise that peace is better than popularity.

Don’t force yourself to stay in friendships that drain you, just because of how long you’ve known each other.

Sometimes, God closes certain chapters because that friend can’t walk with you into the next level.

It’s not bitterness.

It’s growth.

So today, i leave you with this.

Dare to let go without guilt.

Dare to choose peace over performance.

And dare to keep only the friendships that make your soul feel safe.

You don’t need a crowd, girl.

You need a circle.

And sometimes, that circle is small but sacred.

I’m rooting for you, always.

Tatafo Nurse

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