02/05/2025
Our inner critic speaks to us the way our closest ones once did.
It’s not your true voice.
It’s the echo of shaming parents, abusive teachers, and an indifferent environment.
In adulthood, this voice leads to chronic guilt, shame, and fear.
It can also result in social withdrawal and depression.
Moreover, if you were taught to suppress anger and not set boundaries,
your inner critic may be especially persistent and ruthless.
In such cases, “peaceful” conversations with it and gentle explanations are unlikely to help.
You need to stand up for yourself.
In the way no one may have ever stood up for you before.
In the way you would defend your own child—firmly and clearly.
“F* off! I no longer believe your lies!”
“Shut up! I won’t let you destroy me!”
Such strong language helps reclaim your power, authority, and agency.
This language is not violence.
It is an act of love toward yourself.
It is a way of reframing your relationship with yourself—from the role of a victim of internal terror
to the role of your own defender.
It’s also a chance to realize that you are no longer that powerless little girl with no choices.
You are a grown woman.
With continued boundary-setting, the voice of the critic weakens,
and in its place, the voice of the inner caregiver emerges.
Until then, if you notice your inner critic taking the wheel—interrupt it.
Firmly.
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Zofia Anna Rybczak
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