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I help individuals heal from eating disorders, improve their body image and relationship to food.

20/05/2026

As a therapist, one of the most important things I want people to understand is this:
Eating disorders rarely develop “just” because of food, weight, or appearance.
For many people, the eating disorder became a way to cope with emotional pain, vulnerability, overwhelm, rejection, helplessness, shame, or an environment that did not feel emotionally safe.
Controlling food or the body can temporarily create a sense of safety, relief, predictability, comfort, numbness, achievement, or protection.
In that sense, the eating disorder often functioned as a coping mechanism — a way to protect vulnerable parts of the self when healthier emotional support, regulation, or safety were not available.
This is also why recovery is about much more than simply changing eating behaviors.
Healing involves understanding:
“What emotional needs has this been helping me cope with?”
Because once we understand the function behind the behavior, we can begin building safer, healthier, and more compassionate ways to meet those needs.
You can acknowledge that the eating disorder once helped you survive while also recognizing that it is now causing harm.

Together, we can work on understanding the emotional roots beneath the ED, building safety within yourself, and helping you develop a calmer, more trusting relationship with food and your body. Reach out via the link in my bio 💌

12/05/2026

The noise started long before the binge eating, overeating, or feeling out of control around food.
It started in all the small moments where you stopped treating your body like something safe to listen to.
At some point, hunger stops being just physical hunger. It starts representing something much deeper: your relationship with your own needs, and how safe it feels to actually listen to them.
So hunger becomes something to judge. Suppress. Delay. Compare yourself over. Feel ashamed of.
And then later, when you feel consumed by thoughts about food, crave things intensely, or feel out of control once you start eating, you blame yourself for “lacking discipline”… without realizing how disconnected from yourself you’ve had to become just to function.
This is rarely just about food.
For many people, the pattern runs much deeper: learning to disconnect from your needs automatically.
To question yourself before listening to yourself.
To override discomfort instead of responding to it.
To believe your needs are too much, inconvenient, embarrassing, or unsafe.
So of course food feels emotionally charged.
You’re trying to meet needs with a body you no longer fully trust.
Healing is often thought to be about becoming more controlled around food. Ironically, it’s the opposite.
It’s about learning that your needs are not the problem.
They are not dangerous.
They deserve space.

Let’s work together to quiet the food noise and help you feel calm, connected, and free around food. Reach out via the link in my bio 💌

29/04/2026

What feels “out of nowhere” usually isn’t.
You wake up and scroll, sometimes before you’re even out of bed, or while brushing your teeth.

And straight away you’re seeing people being more productive, eating “better,” looking a certain way. Like there’s already a standard set for the day, and you’re behind it.
Maybe it doesn’t hit you right then. But it registers.

And if you’re already carrying unmet needs—feeling behind, not good enough, needing rest, reassurance—it doesn’t land neutrally. It sticks to whatever you’re already believing about yourself, insidiously feeding what will later hit as “bad body image”.

Then it’s more scrolling—on the toilet, during breakfast, in between work.

Same messages, same comparisons (to the WHOLE world), just building in the background.

So by the time you “suddenly” feel bad about your body, it’s not sudden at ALL. It’s accumulated.
All the content that’s literally speaking to your insecurities and feeding the same beliefs you’re already carrying.
Your feed is just activating what’s already there. Your brain seeks out info to confirm these schemas, insecurities, which is why your feed is curated that way.
That’s the work.
Unmet needs, schemas, your relationship with food and your body.
It’s what I help people work through in 1:1 sessions (ED recovery + schema therapy).
If this hits, you can reach out to book an intro call💌

17/04/2026

A part of you knows you want to stop binge eating.
That it’s not helping.
But every time you reach for food, another part takes over.
The one that won’t let you stop.
The one that just needs it right now.
And underneath that…
there’s a more vulnerable part.
The part that feels alone.
That’s scared of having no one, nothing to turn to.
The part that learned to cope the only way it could.
So the question isn’t just “how do I stop?”
It’s:
how do I stop leaving that part of me alone…
even without the food?
This is exactly what we explore together in therapy.
You don’t need to have a “typical” eating disorder to deserve support.
If you’re stuck in a pattern of emotional eating you can’t break, you don’t have to do it alone—you can find more info or book a session through the link in my bio 🤍

29/03/2026

It’s not lost on me how hard this is.
We live in a world that still praises thinness, normalises under-eating, and constantly tells you that being smaller will make things better.

Of course it’s SO hard to step away from that.
That’s why I don’t take it lightly when my clients:
eat more regularly — whether that means eating enough, or not swinging between restriction and bingeing,
question those beliefs,
and start building something more stable within themselves.

Different bodies exist, some larger, some smaller. Beauty trends come and go.
But recovery is about no longer needing to chase what the world says is “enough.”

I have spots opening up for individual therapy sessions, reach out via the link in my bio 💌

03/12/2025

You don’t wake up one day “healed.”
It usually starts with a quiet thought: “I can’t live like this anymore.”
Listening to that voice is the first real step.
If it’s showing up for you… don’t ignore it.

If that voice is showing up, I’m here! Book an intro call with me 💌

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26/02/2025

I asked, you answered on my stories. Here are some powerful messages from those struggling with eating disorders, as it’s ED Awareness Week:

• “It’s not so much about food or my body, it’s about coping with difficult things.”
• “Comments about how healthy you are and how you could never eat that little doesn’t help.”
• “This is not a social media trend. This is my life.”
• “I didn’t choose this struggle. Don’t get mad at me—just be there for me.”
• “It’s not as simple as ‘just eat more.’ It’s not a choice.”
• “My eating disorder is real, and it’s not something I want.”

These are just a few of the heartfelt truths shared by those with eating disorders. It’s crucial that we listen, support, and understand without making assumptions or offering unsolicited advice. 💗 - Zeynep .body.therapist

Let’s take that step toward healing together. Connect with me through the form in my bio or on realisticbodytherapist.com

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