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I help individuals heal from eating disorders, improve their body image and relationship to food.

29/03/2026

It’s not lost on me how hard this is.
We live in a world that still praises thinness, normalises under-eating, and constantly tells you that being smaller will make things better.

Of course it’s SO hard to step away from that.
That’s why I don’t take it lightly when my clients:
eat more regularly — whether that means eating enough, or not swinging between restriction and bingeing,
question those beliefs,
and start building something more stable within themselves.

Different bodies exist, some larger, some smaller. Beauty trends come and go.
But recovery is about no longer needing to chase what the world says is “enough.”

I have spots opening up for individual therapy sessions, reach out via the link in my bio 💌

16/03/2026

Read this if you binged today ❤️
After every binge, I used to go straight to extremes. I’d tell myself I needed to skip meals, be stricter, track perfectly, eat cleaner, and make up for it somehow. I thought that was discipline. I thought that was how I would finally get it together.
But the hardest part for me was never the binge itself, it was that heavy, defeated feeling like I lost everything in one moment, like all my recovery progress was gone, like there was no going back from this so the only option was to start over again.
Every time I felt that way, I pushed myself to the other extreme. I tried to fix it, undo it, make up for it.
That’s exactly what kept me stuck in the cycle: binge - feel guilty - get strict - feel out of control again - binge again.

Every binge felt like proof that I had failed, so I reacted like everything had to be reset.

What changed for me was learning not to treat one binge like the end of everything:
I had to wake up the next day and eat normally, even when it felt wrong, even when I felt bloated, even when my brain was telling me to compensate.
I had to stop talking to myself like I ruined my life over one moment.
That was the thing that slowly broke the pattern.
If this just happened to you, it doesn’t mean you failed, and it doesn’t mean you’re back at the beginning. One binge doesn’t erase your progress, even if it feels like it does. You don’t need to punish yourself tomorrow, and you don’t need to make up for today.
The most helpful thing you can do right now is the thing that feels the hardest — go back to normal, eat like you usually would, and let this be just ONE moment instead of the start of another cycle. You’re not as far off track as your mind is telling you, I promise.

Reach out to me for 1:1 therapy sessions via the link in my bio💌

11/03/2026

“Why don’t you just eat normally?”

Because when you live with an eating disorder, eating isn’t quiet. It’s a CONSTANT, relentless stream of thoughts:
you’re lazy
you’re out of control
stop eating
you’ve already failed
start again tomorrow
While from the outside it might look like “just eating,” inside it can feel like war with your own mind.

You’re not weak. And you’re definitely not the only one experiencing this. I know it’s a battle with that relentless ED voice. And that voice can be worked with in therapy. This is your sign to not let that voice win🤍

I have spots opening up for individual therapy sessions, reach out via the link in my bio 💌
❤️

09/03/2026

It’s exhausting. 🥲 The mental chatter never stops—calculations, cravings, and “what ifs” after every bite:
“What should I eat?”
“Was that too much?”
“Did I ruin today?”
“What will be on the menu?”
It leaves you drained, worn out, and sometimes trapped in disordered eating patterns you can’t seem to escape.
Food noise often makes me question if there is…
… 1) Physical restriction: counting calories, dieting, tracking, trying to eat the “right amount.”
… 2) Mental restriction: telling yourself you shouldn’t be eating, believing you need to lose weight immediately, and feeling pressure about what that means for you.

AND what it helps avoid.
Every thought, every decision, every bite becomes part of the calculation. Imagine tomorrow you wake up and all the food is “perfect”: the right amount, at the right time, every choice lined up. Would the noise stop? Maybe not entirely—there’s often more underneath than just calories and timing.
If this is your daily reality, it’s not “nothing.” The mental noise matters. Your mind doesn’t have to stay this loud forever. There is another way to relate to food and to yourself. ❤️

✨ 1:1 therapy sessions via the link in my bio!

❤️

03/03/2026

There’s a part of you that’s SO sick and tired of all of this: tired of the control, the food thoughts, the time and energy spent on your body. And then there’s another part that just keeps going: the part that keeps you stuck, the part that almost feels addictive. It’s almost like this part has its own mind.
It’s not that you’re addicted to your ED or to controlling your body.
But actually, that part is driven by a vulnerable, scared part of you, the part that just wants to feel safe. Be okay. Be accepted.
Sad thing is, everything done keeps that scared part even more deprived, even more fearful. So the part that keeps going can feel impossible to fight.

But… That scared part can be seen. They be cared for. Little You can feel safe, good enough and loved. And slowly, step by step, the part that keeps you stuck can start to let go. There is another way to relate to your body, your food, and to yourself, I promise.❤️

25/02/2026

Because underneath the negotiation is one belief: “I’m not good enough as I am.”
So the mind tries to avoid it by staying busy in the mental math:
Planning the next meal while still eating the current one.
“What should I eat?”
“What shouldn’t I?”
“Did I ruin today?”
“Will I binge later?”
“Did I eat the right thing?”

The pressure to get it right feels HIGH because it slowly starts to feel like your worth depends on it.
And that’s exhausting.
If this is your daily reality, it’s not “nothing.” And your mind doesn’t have to stay this loud forever. There is another way to relate to food. And to yourself. ❤️

03/12/2025

You don’t wake up one day “healed.”
It usually starts with a quiet thought: “I can’t live like this anymore.”
Listening to that voice is the first real step.
If it’s showing up for you… don’t ignore it.

If that voice is showing up, I’m here! Book an intro call with me 💌

❤️

26/02/2025

I asked, you answered on my stories. Here are some powerful messages from those struggling with eating disorders, as it’s ED Awareness Week:

• “It’s not so much about food or my body, it’s about coping with difficult things.”
• “Comments about how healthy you are and how you could never eat that little doesn’t help.”
• “This is not a social media trend. This is my life.”
• “I didn’t choose this struggle. Don’t get mad at me—just be there for me.”
• “It’s not as simple as ‘just eat more.’ It’s not a choice.”
• “My eating disorder is real, and it’s not something I want.”

These are just a few of the heartfelt truths shared by those with eating disorders. It’s crucial that we listen, support, and understand without making assumptions or offering unsolicited advice. 💗 - Zeynep .body.therapist

Let’s take that step toward healing together. Connect with me through the form in my bio or on realisticbodytherapist.com

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