02/02/2026
Ahimsa (geweldloosheid) en Satya (eerlijkheid) naar de buitenwereld vinden we vaak vanzelfsprekend, maar naar jezelf toe is minstens zo belangrijk. Eerlijk tegen jezelf zijn, je eigen grenzen bewaken en aan jezelf toegeven dat het vandaag best iets minder kan, maak je menselijk en sterk. Geef jezelf even de ruimte om een paar keer rustig in en uit de ademen, dan heb je daarna de kracht om weer door te gaan.🙏🍀💕
For the strong woman who secretly cries alone, see how Buddha’s wisdom helps 💧
You turn on the shower. You let the water run loud. You sit on the edge of the tub. You bury your face in a towel so no one hears you sob. Five minutes later, you wash your face. You put on a smile. You walk out into the kitchen to make dinner.
Everyone calls you "The Rock." You are the one who fixes the messes. You are the one who never complains. But inside, you feel a heavy, quiet ache. You think: "I hold everyone else up. But who holds me when I am tired?"
You feel that if you stop being strong for one second, the whole family will fall apart.
🌊 The Dam vs. The River
Here is the perspective shift you need. You think being "Strong" means acting like a concrete Dam. A dam stands still. It resists the weight of the water. It never moves. But in nature, that which resists eventually breaks.
The Buddha taught that suffering comes from Resistance. When you hold your tears in, you are resisting reality. You are fighting a war against your own feelings. That is not strength. That is just tension.
True strength is like a River. A river does not fight the rocks. It flows around them. When the rain is heavy, the river rises. It does not apologize for rising. It simply flows until the level goes down again. Do not be the Dam that cracks. Be the River that flows.
📜 The Teaching: "Sacca" (Truthfulness)
The Buddha taught Sacca, which means Truthfulness. This means more than "not lying to others." It means not lying to yourself.
When you are exhausted but you say "I am fine," you are speaking an untruth. When you feel pain but you bury it, you are living in delusion. The Dhamma asks us to witness reality as it is. If there is pain, acknowledge the pain. If there are tears, acknowledge the tears. Hiding the truth does not make it go away. It only makes it heavy.
⛔ The Practice of "Ahimsa" (Non-Violence)
The Buddha taught Ahimsa, or Non-Violence. You know not to be harsh toward others. But you must not be harsh toward yourself either.
When you judge yourself for being human, that is inner harshness. When you force yourself to be a stone wall, that is harm. You treat yourself like a servant. But the Dhamma asks you to treat yourself with kindness.
❤️ The Meaning of "Karuna" (Compassion)
In the Dhamma, Karuna (Compassion) means "The quivering of the heart in response to suffering." It does not say "suffering of others." It just says suffering. That includes your suffering.
If your daughter was crying in the shower, would you tell her to "toughen up"? No. You would hold her. Why do you refuse to hold yourself?
True strength is not ignoring the pain. True strength is having the courage to acknowledge it without judgment.
🍵 Your Gentle Practice
Next time you feel the pressure building in your chest, do not run to the shower to hide. Try this instead.
1. Find a quiet chair. Sit down. Put your hand on your heart.
2. Practice Truth (Sacca). Say: "I am carrying a lot. It is heavy."
3. Practice Compassion (Karuna). Say: "It is okay to feel this. I will not judge myself for being human."
You carry the world every single day. Put it down for a moment. You are allowed to rest.
You never know who on your friends list is silently crying today. Share this to be the sign they were waiting for. 🕊️
Words by: ✍🏻 Sahan Vishvajith
Image Courtesy: 📸 Walk for Peace
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