Archer Insight

16/09/2025

Internal Family Systems (IFS) talks about "parts" or "selves".

Most of us have been in arguments where we either yelled, or was yelled at: "You're acting like a child!!".

Or we have experienced someone we thought was unshakeable suddenly become helpless like a child.

What you saw in that moment... IFS calls the activation and/or emergence of a "self". The "self" is a separate individual within the totality of YOU. Everyone is inhabited by different parts, and the parts have their own identity.

The question is: How well do you know your "selves"?

And even better question is: Why should you get to know them.

First of all, f**k "should". You can do whatever you want, if you don’t see it as valuable – f**k it – don’t do it.

That being said...

The feeling of getting to know your selves is priceless! Let me repeat that... PRICELESS. You haven't felt sweetness until you have fallen in love with your self (which is what happens when you face yourself).

Discovering and getting to know your selves changes how you feel about who you are. It brings self-worth, confidence, it gives bounce to your step! Loving yourself, feeling secure, solid boundaries, and SELF-TRUST... It happens naturally when you get to know your selves! You don't have to follow a million strategies, if you connect with yourself, the change WILL appear.

If you want to know more about parts, and how to work with them, you can reach out via email or book a session here:

https://calendly.com/gunhildarcher

15/09/2025

Becoming and being yourself is truly something else. Some would say it's the most valuable thing you to prioritize (we... We would say that)!

If you want to be guided back to your truth, sessions are available here:

https://calendly.com/gunhildarcher/1-1-session-1?back=1&month=2025-09

60 minutes @ $125

14/09/2025

A simple question to help see what you're currently struggling with and thus what you can do to support yourself (maybe you're not struggling, in that case 🥳 and 🏆 for you).

13/09/2025

New video.

Hi, and welcome to my channel.I told my story years back, but with more self-awareness (and healing) under my belt, I wanted to revisit it. I was curious to ...

11/09/2025

This kind of friendship... May it come your way.

Option 2: May you be that kind of friend.

08/09/2025

02/09/2025

~Belief work~

There are a billion ways to approach healing.

You can take a cognitive approach or an emotional approach. Both works.

Most belief work focuses purely on thoughts. You can compare a belief like a table with four legs. When you do belief work you intentionally question the belief until the legs crumble and break, and the belief falls apart. You introduce a more desired belief, find a few positive examples to back up the new belief, and there you go; you have successfully done the work.

Sometimes though, the beliefs are pervasive, they are deeply embedded because you learned them at an early age, and they can’t be approached with a purely mental approach. When you FEEL like something is true, you need to address the emotion itself to help the legs of the table weaken.

A session can look like:

(1) Direct questions aimed at the belief you want to change, or the belief you want to adopt.
(2) Feelings will surface – we make room for them.
(3) I use a curious and gentle attitude to understand your feelings.
(4) I validate all the feelings. (“I tried a thousand things, nothing works, I’m sad” ---> VALIDATION, “I want to change, but I cannnnn’t!” ---> VALIDATION, or “Why do you want me to change, F**K that!!” ---> VALIDATION.
(4) More questions, soft approach, the intention is to nudge and create space for a new belief.

The session is intended to be short and sharp and gives you a chance to see what it’s like working with me. If you are interested, or have questions about the session, send an email to gunhild.archer@gmail.com

29/08/2025

New blog post!

Some people intentionally provoke hurt to get a “gotcha” moment.  Me being hurt by what you did doesn’t mean I lose. It’s not the gotcha moment you think it is.  A heart…

25/08/2025

New session!

Send us an email if you want to set up a call.

17/08/2025

Belief work!

Do you want to bring relief and clarity to one of your beliefs?

We're opening up 30 minute slots - $30.

Questions, clarity, relief.

If you're interested, send us an email at gunhild.archer@gmail.com