Grief support- Embrace Your Future

Grief support- Embrace Your Future Offering compassion, non judgemental support and a safe space to explore your emotions
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20/02/2026

14 years ago we arrived in NZ, unaware that our future would be childless.

But this country gave us something we didn’t even know we needed: space to be seen as ourselves, without having to justify our story.
Sometimes distance from what shaped us is what allows healing.

This life full, meaningful, and joyful was reimagined here.
If your journey looks different to what you expected, know this: it can still be rich and rewarding💛

17/02/2026

In the depths of my childless grief, I didn’t believe I had much to offer, I spoke about myself as though I wasn’t enough, as though my presence didn’t add value, as though I wasn’t really worth choosing to spend time with.

When that belief shifted, I no longer saw myself through the lens of grief, I could see joy again, and connections follow naturally from that.

Grief often quietly erodes our sense of worth, and grief support helps us reclaim it.

This is the work I do, supporting women to process grief and reconnect with their sense of value.

17/02/2026

One of the unexpected joys of processing my childless grief has been how my social world has expanded.

People began seeking me out, and I felt more included, having connections felt natural again.

I used to think I was terrible at making friends, and now I see that in the depths of grief, I was simply surviving, and most likely I was unintentionally pushing people away.

As I became more connected to myself and more open to the future, others felt that shift too.

Grief work doesn’t force connections, it makes a place for them to happen.

This is the work I do.

17/02/2026

Loneliness doesn’t disappear just because the room is full.

Grief can make us feel isolated even when we are surrounded by people who seem happy and carefree, while we feel like we’re watching from the outside.

I noticed later on that I only began forming new friendships once I had processed much of my grief.
Before that, I likely gave off the energy of someone who was sad and unable to be light hearted or fun.

Now I understand why people didn’t necessarily gravitate toward me. Not because I wasn’t worthy, but because my grief was speaking louder than I was.

This is why I do grief work, loneliness isn’t a personality flaw, it’s a normal human grief response.

17/02/2026

One of the secondary losses of being childless not by choice is friendship.

I drifted apart from peer groups, and I felt like I no longer belonged. Loneliness that was always in the background crept in, and making new friends felt almost impossible.

Looking back, I can see I wasn’t in a place where I even liked myself very much, I was lacking joy, and life was muted.

If I couldn’t see the good in me, how could others?

This isn’t about blame, it’s about understanding, new friendships come with healing.

If you recognise this, you’re not alone. 💛

11/02/2026

This morning I had the joy of being a guest on a podcast with Sharna Southern — Trauma-Informed Pregnancy Loss Specialist and creator of The Pregnancy Loss Recovery Method 🤍
We talked about the time that so often isn’t discussed…
the gap between when a fertility journey ends and when a childless not by choice life begins. That in between stage can feel confusing, lonely, and incredibly emotional. You’re no longer trying, and you’re not yet sure who you are now, living a future you didn’t imagine.
Our conversation gently explored:
• the emotions that can surprise us
• the paths we may journey through
• the grief, humour, resistance and relief that can coexist
• and how joy doesn’t vanish, it simply takes a break
What stayed with me most was the reminder that colour and joy do return, when we give ourselves the time to process emotions, without rushing to fix ourselves, or bypassing grief.
So grateful to Sharna for creating such a compassionate and honest space for this conversation to take place.

10/02/2026

Anticipatory grief is not a weakness, it is a natural response to uncertainty and anticipated loss.

Many of us were raised not to talk about grief at all, so we lack the language and struggle with compassion.

When grief stays taboo, people suffer silently.

When we normalise the conversation, we normalise being human.

Follow for more honest conversations about grief

I’ve created a gentle resource to support people living with grief and uncertainty link in bio.

09/02/2026

Grief doesn’t feel like resilience, it feels like vulnerability, being lost or stuck.

If you’ve been told how strong you are, but you don’t feel it, that’s okay. Resilience is something that grows later.
Not something you have to find now.

💛 If today feels like walking through quick sand, my Coping Mechanisms download offers simple ways to ground yourself. Link in bio or below 👇

09/02/2026

We rarely talk about the grief that comes before a loss. Whether it’s fear, embarrassment or shame, or perhaps the feeling of “I should be coping better than this.”

Anticipatory grief is real, and it’s far more common than we realise. If this resonates, you’re not alone, and you’re not failing at grief.

The Weight of Grief offers a gentle way to understand the many layers of grief we carry, often without naming them, and to begin treating yourself with kindness and compassion, instead of judgement.

Link in bio or below 👇

05/02/2026

This surprised me this week…

Sometimes on the CNBC journey it can feel like the emotions we carry are ours alone.

I was reminded this week that “losing yourself” isn’t unique to childlessness, it’s a common human experience.

Hearing a mum in an over 50s group say she no longer knew who she was beyond her children sparked something in me. Not comparison, but perhaps a sense of connection.

For a moment, it lessened that sense of being an “other”.

Our journeys are different, but the feelings can overlap. And sometimes recognising that brings a small measure of comfort.

💙 If this resonates, you’re not alone.

Does this feeling sound familiar?

04/02/2026

CNBC adds another layer to this fear.

When you’re childless not by choice, anticipatory grief can feel more acute and more isolating. The fear isn’t just “What if I lose my partner?”
It’s also “Who will I be then?”

“Who will witness my life?”

“Who will I grow old alongside?”

There’s often shame felt in admitting these fears, especially when the world assumes that we are stronger because we have already endured so much.

But these fears are logical, as they come from love, loss, and a life that hasn’t been lived as imagined.

If this resonates, please know this is a safe place to be vulnerable and acknowledge those fears, you are certainly not alone. 🤍

02/02/2026

So many of us experience grief before anything has even happened.
The fear of losing someone we love.
The unsettled feeling we don’t quite know how to name.

What often keeps this hidden is embarrassment and shame, the belief that no one else feels this way, or that talking about it somehow makes it worse.

Anticipatory grief is human and its normal, and when we share it, we feel seen and we feel validated. We remember we’re not alone.

I recorded this after visiting a lifestyle village and witnessing just how much unspoken anticipatory grief is being carried behind polite smiles.

If this resonates, my Layers of Grief guide gently explores the different forms grief can take, including the ones we rarely talk about.
✨ Available for $9 via the link in my bio.

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