Rob Robertson - Emotional Fitness

25/06/2025

Such powerful words “I am sorry…..”

18/06/2025

The following post is an inspirational story about believing in who we are. People may say we cannot do it but by following our dream we can let the magic unfold!

“They told me I was too ugly to be a leading man… and too dumb to write comedy.” 🎭💔

I was only 22 when I first heard that. My whole teenage life, I dreamed of making people laugh, but the first to laugh at me were the casting directors. One of them even said straight to my face, “You’ve got a face for radio, not for movies.” I went to the bathroom, cried quietly, and then came out smiling like it didn’t hurt. No one saw my pain because I hid it behind a joke. But inside, I was falling apart. 😞🎬

My first big break in television was Saturday Night Live, but even there they told me I wasn’t funny enough. I got fired. Just like that. One day I showed up on set and they told me they didn’t need me anymore. I walked through New York alone, wondering if maybe I wasn’t meant for this. But instead of giving up, I grabbed my notebook and started writing my own story. 🗒️🌃

I financed *Billy Madison* with my own savings. Everyone said it would flop, that nobody wanted to watch a guy like me make a fool of himself. But when it premiered, people didn’t just laugh… they cried with laughter. For the first time, I felt like the world got my humor, that my insecurities could be part of something beautiful. After that, every movie I made wasn’t just a comedy—it was a comeback. 📽️🔥

My dad died before he ever saw me succeed. That broke me. He was the one who always told me, “Make people laugh, even when you’re sad.” That’s why every time I make a movie, I feel like I’m honoring him. A lot of people don’t understand my style, but you know what? I don’t make movies for the critics—I make movies for the person who needs a smile when life gets tough. 🎙️👨‍👦

“You don’t need everyone to believe in you. As long as you never stop believing in yourself, you’ve already got an advantage.”

— Adam Sandler

12/06/2025

This information from Dr. Jim Doty seems useful for me to take a next step.

Trust is my major journey and while proud of my progress, I am experimenting with music to reinforcing new levels of trust/belief.

I have never liked repeating affirmations as a tool but specific words in music I am finding can have that effect!

More on this soon as I see it I fold.

30/04/2025

I love this:

“Even though things didn't work out, they worked out!!!”

03/04/2025

The following story I found inspirational, a reminder not to judge whats on the surface, without really understanding the truth of people:
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I Fired a Single Mom for Being Late, then Found Out Why and Begged for Forgiveness..........
2 weeks ago

For nearly six years, I’ve been a manager, always convinced that I was fair—strict, yes, but fair. Rules are there for a reason, and if I start making exceptions, where would it end? That’s the reasoning I used when I let Celia go last week.

She was late again—her third time this month. Our policy was clear: three strikes, and you’re out. When I called her into my office, she didn’t argue. She just nodded quietly, grabbed her bag, and left without a word.

Later that day, I overheard two coworkers talking. “Did you hear about Celia’s son?” one of them asked. “Yeah,” the other responded. “She’s been sleeping in her car with him.”

That’s when I learned the truth. Celia had been evicted weeks ago. Her ex-husband was long gone—no child support, no family to turn to. She and her six-year-old son had been living in their car. The reason she’d been late? Every morning, she had to drive across town to a church where they could shower before taking him to school.

I was overwhelmed by guilt. I hadn’t just fired someone for being irresponsible—I had punished someone who was struggling to survive.

The next day, I tried calling her. No answer. I texted her. Nothing. Determined to make things right, I began searching—calling shelters, food banks, any place that might have helped her. Most places couldn’t share information, but one woman at a downtown church hesitated when I mentioned Celia’s name.

“She was here two nights ago,” she said. “Picked up some food and blankets.”

Just when I was about to give up, I spotted an old sedan in a grocery store parking lot. The windows were fogged, and from beneath a blanket in the back seat, a small face peeked out.

I knocked softly on the window. A moment later, Celia sat up in the driver’s seat, her expression guarded. When she recognized me, her face went blank.

“I’m so sorry,” I said quickly. “Please, let me help.”

I offered her the job back, no conditions attached. More than that, I wanted to help her rebuild. My cousin managed an apartment complex, and there was a vacant unit. No deposit was needed, and I knew of programs that could help with food and childcare.

She glanced at her son, then back at me. Her shoulders trembled.

“Okay,” she whispered.

The weeks that followed were a blur. My cousin got her into the apartment. The company approved a small pay increase for her, and I did everything I could to connect her with assistance programs. It wasn’t a perfect fix, but it was a start.

One afternoon, she walked into my office. “I just wanted to say thank you,” she said. “Not just for the job—for seeing me.”

She smiled, and for the first time, it truly reached her eyes.

That night, I sat in my car, reflecting on how close I had come to making an unforgivable mistake. It’s easy to get caught up in rules and forget that people aren’t just names on a spreadsheet. Everyone has a story, and sometimes all they need is someone to listen.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that kindness shouldn’t come with conditions. And sometimes, the right thing to do means breaking the rules.

**By the way...... This is a true story............

20/08/2024

Such amazing skills, an inspiration next time we think we cannot!

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/hDAM9Ap7BLjQ1Ke5/?mibextid=YlDasU

05/08/2024

Nice prospective on anger from Lorie Ladd in this video.

I have found as we grow into new layers of emotional trust we don't judge emotions as good or bad we feel them as our full heart expression 🧐💜🙏

21/06/2024

I love this Fable. A powerful reminder of choosing our energy focus!

The Fable of the Donkey and the Tiger

The donkey said to the tiger:
- "The grass is blue".
The tiger replied:
- "No, the grass is green."
The discussion heated up, and the two decided to submit him to arbitration, and for this they went before the lion, the King of the Jungle.
Already before reaching the forest clearing, where the lion was sitting on his throne, the donkey began to shout:
- "His Highness, is it true that the grass is blue?".
The lion replied:
- "True, the grass is blue."
The donkey hurried and continued:
- "The tiger disagrees with me and contradicts and annoys me, please punish him."
The king then declared:
- "The tiger will be punished with 5 years of silence."
The donkey jumped cheerfully and went on his way, content and repeating:
- "The Grass Is Blue"...
The tiger accepted his punishment, but before he asked the lion:
- "Your Majesty, why have you punished me?, after all, the grass is green."
The lion replied:
- "In fact, the grass is green."
The tiger asked:
- "So why are you punishing me?".
The lion replied:
- "That has nothing to do with the question of whether the grass is blue or green.
The punishment is because it is not possible for a brave and intelligent creature like you to waste time arguing with a donkey, and on top of that come and bother me with that question."
The worst waste of time is arguing with the fool and fanatic who does not care about truth or reality, but only the victory of his beliefs and illusions. Never waste time on arguments that don't make sense...
There are people who, no matter how much evidence and evidence we present to them, are not in the capacity to understand, and others are blinded by ego, hatred and resentment, and all they want is to be right even if they are not.
When ignorance screams, intelligence is silent. Your peace and quietness are worth more.

12/06/2024

"You’re going to realize it one day — that happiness was never about your job, or your degree, or being in a relationship. Happiness was never about following in the footsteps of all of those who came before you, it was never about being like the others. One day, you’re going to see it — that happiness was always about the discovery, the hope, the listening to your heart and following it wherever it chose to go.
Happiness was always about being kinder to yourself, it was always about embracing the person you were becoming. One day, you will understand. That happiness was always about learning how to live with yourself, that happiness was never in the hands of other people. It was always about you. It was always about you."

Bianca Sparacino

01/05/2024

This is super powerful article writing about consciousness relationships. It feels so true. I only wish I wrote it 😎 🥰🙏

Anybody agree?

✨ CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIPS ✨

"We are approaching a period of time when relationships are ready to go through a major redesign. The current paradigm isn’t working. People are unsatisfied in love; people don’t know how to make relationships work.

And, believe it or not, this isn’t a bad thing. Because when systems break-down, that’s when they change. I believe that’s what’s happening in the area of intimate partnership. The break-down is forcing us to move towards conscious love.

So what exactly is a conscious relationship?

It's a romantic relationship in which both partners feel committed to a sense of purpose, and that purpose is growth. Individual growth. Collective growth as a couple. Growth that makes the world a better place.

As of now, most people get into relationships to satisfy their own personal needs. This might work for a few years, but eventually the relationship fails us, and we end up unsatisfied as a result.

But when two people come together with the intention of growth, the relationship strives towards something much greater than gratification. The partnership becomes a journey of evolution, and the two individuals have an opportunity to expand more than they could alone. Deep satisfaction and long-term fulfillment arise as a result.

So if you’re someone who feels called to take your experience of romantic love to the next level, below are four qualities that characterize what being a conscious couple is all about. Welcome to the path of the conscious relationship. This is next-level love ...

1. The conscious couple is not attached to the outcome of the relationship - growth comes first.

Not being attached to the outcome of the relationship does not mean you don’t care what happens! It also doesn’t mean that you don’t have fantasies about how the relationship will turn out.

What it means is: you’re more committed to the experience of growth than you are to making the relationship “work.”

The reality is, we’re here to grow. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When growth stops, we automatically feel like something’s gone wrong. Because it has. Without growth, we aren’t fulfilling our soul’s purpose.

Unfortunately, relationships today tend to stifle growth more than enhance it. This is one of the main reasons we’re failing at romantic love.

We want our partners to act in a certain way, we repress ourselves to please others, and soon enough, we feel small, oppressed and puzzled about who we’ve become. This, inevitably, makes the relationship feel like a cage that we want to break out of. But the unfortunate truth is: we’ve caged ourselves.

The conscious couple values growth more than anything else because they know this is the secret to keeping the relationship alive. Even though growth is scary (because it takes us into the unknown), the couple is willing to strive towards expansion, even at the risk of out-growing the relationship. Because of this, the relationship maintains a natural feeling of aliveness, and love between the couple does, too.

2. Each person in the relationship is committed to owning their s #*t.

Conscious couples know that we all have wounds from the past, and they understand that these wounds will inevitably be triggered, especially in a relationship. In other words, they expect to feel abandoned, trapped, rejected, overlooked and any other sh*tty feeling that arises when we bond closely with another person.

Most of us still believe that relationships should only feel good, and when bad feelings surface, something has gone terribly wrong. What we fail to see in this situation is that these sh*tty feelings stem from our own faulty patterning! These issues are not caused by our partners; they’re caused by our beliefs.

The conscious couple is willing to look at their past and current issues in relationships because they know that by facing these beliefs systems, they can evolve into a new relationship-reality. Dysfunctional patterns will dissolve, but only when we take responsibility for them, first.

3. All feelings are welcome and no internal process is condemned.

In a conscious relationship, there’s room to feel anything. Not only that, there’s room to express those feelings and fantasies to your partner. This is edgy territory… it’s not easy to do. But it’s also one of the most healing things we can experience in a partnership.

It’s rare to be completely honest about who you are, and to stretch yourself to let your partner do the same. You may not like what you hear; in fact, it may trigger the hell out of you. But you’re willing to be triggered if it means your partner can be authentic.

Like I already said, we’re used to molding and changing ourselves to please people we love because we don’t want them to stop loving us! This stifles the love out of our connections.

The only option is radical honesty: revealing parts of ourselves that are hard to share, and letting our partners do the same. This leads to feeling known, seen and truly understood — a combination that will automatically enhance your love.

4. The relationship is a place to practice love.

Love, ultimately, is a practice. A practice of acceptance, being present, forgiveness, and stretching your heart into vulnerable territories.

Sometimes we treat love like it’s a destination. We want that peak feeling all the time, and when it’s not there, we’re not satisfied with what the relationship has become. In my mind, this is missing the whole point of love.

Love is a journey and an exploration. It’s showing up for all varied nuances of your relationship and asking yourself, What would love do here?” The answer will be different every time, and because of this, you’ll get to grow in ways you never have before!

The conscious couple is fiercely committed to being the embodiment of love. And through their devotion and practice, love shows up in their lives and relationship in ways they would’ve never imagined before."

~ Shelly Bullard, MFT

25/03/2024

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His journey has taken him from the heart, releasing the emotional blocks to allow full trust in his heart - the high-performance powerhouse. His life has transitioned from abuse, anxiety, and self-doubt to achieving healthy self-esteem and full inner trust; he now lives with passion and purpose.

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26/01/2024

A friends social media post had these words "Life Is Too Short To Be Unhappy" which I don't totally agree with!

In the following video, I discuss I different approach which is too embrace the full spectrum of emotions. This is how we feel fully our heart by going beyond the pursuit of constant joy. To embrace our shadow and feel all emotions, including negative emotions. This is the path to real deeper inner growth and greater long term happiness.

Let's dive deep into our hearts, acknowledging and embracing ALL emotions – even the shadows. To feel and understand every part of who we are. 🌱💪 🌈