09/12/2025
Judgement: The Silent Block Between Us and Our Kids ✨💖
One of my kids recently tried something new… and they didn’t feel comfortable telling me.
Not because I wouldn’t love them — but because once, a long time ago, they showed me something and I reacted in a way that sounded judgey.
I wasn’t expecting it, I commented too quickly… and it stuck with them. 😔
When I found out this time, I didn’t rush in.
I sat with it. I breathed. 😇
I knew I wanted to talk about it, but not from a place of accusation or pressure.
Then I realised… me trying to get them to confess was the same energy they were using to hide.
And I don’t want either of us living like that. 💭
So I chose honesty.
I told them, “I know. And I’m so sorry you felt you couldn’t tell me. I love how creative and original you are — every part of you is loved by me.” 🤍✨
And you know what happened?
They softened.
I watched their whole body relax.
The trust came back.
That night they sat with me and opened up… and it was absolutely beautiful. 🫶🌟
I hope this helps another mum or parent navigating these moments.
Instead of going straight to “you can’t do that,” maybe get curious about why they want to… and truly listen.
Make them feel seen, safe, loved and heard. 💜
Because we all deserve that.
All my love 💖✨
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