Helen Shale - Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Life Coach

18/03/2025

17/02/2025

This is so true from the wonderful work of Charlie Mackesy x

10/02/2025

Thought for the week: Love this quote from Caitlin Moran, journalist and author of best seller 'How to Be a Woman'.

"When a woman says 'I have nothing to wear', what she really means is, 'There's nothing here for who I'm supposed to be today'."

Often, as women (and men) we have so many personas which is fine, as long as we still have a solid grip on what makes us unique and a clear view of our 'North Star', ie, what we want out of life.

What do you think?

02/02/2025

Love this. Have a great week everybody.

27/01/2025

Thought for the Week:
Morning,

As we brace ourselves for whatever 2025 is going to serve up, I thought it was important to remember the importance of frivolity, and uniqueness. As they say, ‘everybody else is taken’. 😊

20/01/2025

Thought for the Week
“Worry is interest paid on a trouble before it’s due.” I love this quote from a Glen Innes church billboard.
“I am a worrier” is something I hear quite often from clients. This “self-brand” means they often feel troubled or anxious about what is or might be happening. It’s also expressed as part of their identity, sometimes seen as inevitable, particularly when mothers/fathers are/were also “worriers”.
It’s really important that this is consciously managed and that worrying is understood ie, recognising that it’s just your brain trying to make sense of a real and present danger. Worrying when your fears are actionable makes sense as it prods you into doing something about it to address your concerns. Worrying also only involves your mind, and is usually specific, grounded in reality, and temporary.
On the other hand, anxiety is more serious and is most often more generalised, persistent and can amplify the risk. And given it affects both your body and your mind, can compromise your ability to function where you can get into a struggle.
If you worry excessively, or are regularly experiencing anxiety, here are five steps likely to help:
1. Make sure you have 5-10 minutes (ideally 20 minutes minimum) each morning to practice mindfulness. Tune into yourself using calming breaths and peaceful self-supporting thoughts.
2. Turn off the news as it can increase feelings of stress. You can catch the main events in a short time and use the rest of the time to decompress from the day.
3. Challenge the negative thoughts. Is what I’m worried/anxious about actually true? Is it helpful? This can help you reset.
4. Pinpoint the actual emotions you are feeling and unwrap the possible reasons. This ‘gentle unpacking’ can reduce the intensity and help you approach things more rationally rather than emotionally.
5. Distraction. If you’ve decided there isn’t anything you can do about the situation, let it go. You can use a visualisation such as putting the anxious thoughts into a balloon and letting it float up and away. Then fill the gap by switching your mind onto something else that is more positive and that will take your full attention.

Remember, no one can make us worry, anxious or feel inferior without our permission. We are at the controls. If you have more deep-seated anxiety, life really doesn’t have to be that way. I can help.

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05/01/2025

Last year’s mantra was ‘simplicity in everything’. This year, I’m building on that with ‘chill and prosper’. I know my best work happens when I have balance in all things.
Have a great year, everybody. Amazing opportunities abound, let’s reel them in 😊

15/12/2024

Given the time of the year, I thought I’d deliver this take on New Years Resolutions from Brianna Wiest:

“You don’t change in breakthroughs; you change in micro shifts. Breakthroughs do not happen spontaneously. They are tipping points. Revelations occur when ideas that were sitting in the margins of your mind finally get enough attention to dominate your thoughts. These are the “clicking” moments, the moments when you finally understand advice you’ve heard your entire life. The moments when you’ve habituated yourself to a pattern of behaviour for long enough that it becomes instinctive.

Let Go. Activate. Amplify. Automate. If you want to change your life, you need to make tiny, nearly undetectable decisions every hour of every day until those choices are habituated. Then you’ll just continue to do them.”

Happy holidays everyone!

14/07/2024

This is a fave quote and I thought, timely, from Albert Camus 😊

“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there's something stronger – something better, pushing right back.”

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04/07/2024

Loved this from the Inside Out 2 movie:
Joy is an emotion that pushes us to notice what’s good for us, and to create more of that. All emotions are energy: Joy’s energy is to expand, to step forward, to celebrate what’s wonderful and healthy in our lives.
Do people feel more anxious and less happy as they get older? For many of us this seems to be true. We can be more intentional about finding moments of humour, wonder, delight and joy in the everyday. But we have to practice. Pay attention to what brings you joy and seek out more time for that.

26/05/2024

Feeling stuck?
Why not start up a conversation with your highest potential future self?
Step 1: Sit down in a quiet place with a notebook or journal. Make sure you’re doing it at a time when you feel relaxed and open. Close your eyes and take a few moments to breathe deeply and centre yourself. Imagine sitting down at a comfortable table in a well-lit room, somewhere that you are happy and feel at peace. Then, invite your highest possible version of your future self to come and sit with you and talk.
Step 2: Notice how your future self looks. What do they look like? How they behave? What do their facial expressions communicate? You want to clearly envision the most ideal version of yourself so that you know how your own life needs to grow, shift and change. See what they wear, how they feel, what they do each day. These will be the keys to your own ‘becoming’.
Step 3: Ask them for guidance. Keep yourself open to whatever this person wants to share with you. The messages should be positive, uplifting, affirming and helpful so that you feel confident and at peace and feel guided in a positive way.
Step 4: Imagine your future self handing you the 'keys' to aspects of your future life now. Imagine them handing you the keys to the home you live in, to the relationship you'd love, or anything that is a part of your highest possible future life.

At any time, your future self can step in and remind you of all that is possible and empower you to live with certainty, self-confidence, clarity, and grace.

Adapted from an excerpt from the book “The Mountain is You” by Brianna Wiest.

If you felt fear during this exercise this only indicates that you have some 'inner child' work to do. Equally you can go back in time and give your earlier self the keys to feeling more confident, safer and reassured that everything is going to work out okay. You deserve to feel joy today and every day. I can help.
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