16/11/2025
Part 1: A message on the effects of narcissistic abuse, manipulation, power and control.
Part 2: The unspoken story that was left suppressed for far too long.
📣 We need to speak up about the struggles in our lives so that others can learn from our mistakes and so that others don’t have to suffer the same way that we did.
🕊️Don’t ever let fear hold you back from moving forward with peace and purpose!
To those who are dying to hear the full speech, written during the Speakers Institute bootcamp… Here it is:
🐺Hands up if you’ve ever experienced a wolf in sheep’s clothing?
🥺 And who here, has ever felt so deceived, betrayed, controlled, or manipulated.
🖤 You are not alone. I’ve found that it can sometimes make us feel like the one black sheep in a crowd of a thousand white ones.
🧠 I have also found that Narcissistic abuse such as love bombing, gaslighting, stonewalling, and deflection can affect our brains significantly.
📒 Research from the National Library of Medicine tells us that between 30 and 60 percent of those who have been betrayed, go on, to experience depression, anxiety or PTSD.
🚨 Repeated manipulation can also keep us in a constant state of hypervigilance, triggering fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses.
☝️The good news is… that Neuroscience proves… that the brain can rewire itself.
💪 NLP therapy helps to calm the nervous system, so we can rise again with awareness, discernment, and courage… to embrace the Black Sheep within.
🐑 Because remember — being different makes a difference. Like a black sheep, we are all unique, set apart for a purpose.
🪨 I had to hit rock bottom before I realised
… it was okay to be the black sheep. It was ok to be different and to speak up when something didn’t feel right.
🖼️ Picture this…. And brace yourselves...
It’s December 11th 2018. I’m sitting at home with my 7 month old daughter, trying to juggle baby, housework and property businesses and do all of the things. I felt so overwhelmed, tired and burned out.
🚪Next minute… my abuser comes crashing in through the door. “What have you been doing all day? You haven’t done this and you haven’t done that, if you can’t look after yourself, how can you look after a baby?”
📞 He picks up my girl, tells me “you’re crazy”, calls the doctor. Tells them “she’s mentally ill” and takes my baby… and leaves.
😵💫 I start to think, “am I crazy? I do feel crazy! What’s wrong with me?”
🕊️ It was such a relief to hear from my psychologist. “You’re not broken. You’re being controlled.” I was introduced to the Power and Control Wheel diagram, information on NPD and Narcisisst assesments, which helped me to understand what had been happening for the past few years.
🤦🏼♀️ I was in denial for a while, until I realised… I really needed to leave.
🧑⚖️ But Leaving wasn’t the end. It was the beginning of a long, exhausting journey.
I spent over six years and over $200,000 in the family court system — fighting for my daughter and the home I bought from my grandparents.
😔 I felt completely defeated but something inside me… refused to give up.
🌸 Fortunately, I was able to get my daughter into a 50/50 shared care arrangement with a firm Parenting Order in place which stopped the post-separation abuse in its tracks. And I have recently been given good news about the progress being made to save my home from a forced sale.
🤍 Through all of this, NLP therapy was my saving grace…. Piece by piece, I found peace… and my purpose… and I was able to …embrace the black sheep within.
🌈 Now, I’m no longer just surviving — I’m thriving. I became an NLP practitioner and founded Black Sheep Retreat, interactive accommodation to help others turn their pain into purpose too. So others can also … embrace their black sheep within.
✏️ Today, I’d like to give you some homework.
📖 Everyone get your pens. Journaling is so important in the healing process.
🖊️Everyone got your pens? Now write…
🌟 How can I… embrace the Black Sheep within? What makes you unique?
〰️Your black wool isn’t a flaw — it’s a feature. because — being different makes a difference.
It makes you the light, that helps others find their own way home too!
🌍 Imagine a world where all of us, were able to embrace the black sheep within. Knowing that we are perfectly and wonderfully made.
⛓️💥Together, we can break those chains and lead the way. Let them be them and let EWE be EWE!
😌 I’m Samantha Jane.
Founder of Black Sheep Retreat, interactive accommodation.
And I invite you to Come rest.
Come re-connect.
Come find peace, purpose and identity.
Because black sheep…
YOU have been appointed “for such a time as this”.
🕊️ Always remember that being different makes a difference.
🕊️ Always remember to embrace the black sheep within.
Thanks to Speakers Institute for the rollercoaster rides! 🎢
