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09/04/2026

So when our fight, flight responses are activated and there is no real life threat, it's important to understand we can be activated, "triggered" by association or 'similar to' events, e,g certain smells, songs, people, situations real or imagined can have much the same response.

Our minds have learned to look for confirmation bias in many cases, and an emotional somatic loop is created and played over and over, keeping us in heightened states of fight/flight. Neuorception has kicked in and it does NOT have to be factual in it's evidence from it's unconscious surveillance. It misfires.

Imagine the effect on our body when we have adrenalin coarsing through our veins for hours at a time, that's gonna make us pretty damn exhausted and highly dysregulated.

I'll put some immediate use tools in the comments we can apply when required.

09/04/2026

Taking care of yourself doesn’t always mean grand gestures. Sometimes, it’s the simple things: a deep breath before a big moment, a walk to clear your head, a real conversation that lifts the weight off your shoulders.

In a world that often tells us to tough it out, choosing to look after your emotional well-being is an act of quiet strength. What’s one thing you’ve done this week to take care of yourself?

Your small step might inspire someone else to take theirs. Let’s share and support each other. 👇💙

06/04/2026

Our autonomic nervous system (ans) fight, flight, freeze, fawn responses are ingeneously adaptive in actual dangerous situations, it becomes quite problematic when activated by non life threatening stressors in our day to day circumstances.
Chronic activation of our sympathetic (fight, flight etc) can lead to physical and emotional strain, sickness, pain.
Calming ourselves in the heat of the moment is imperative and our highest priority when we have had major difficulties in our lives, triggered by events that are NOT life threatening, but FEEL as if they are.
This is really common in relational trauma.

01/04/2026

This for me is a most profound sculpture, it speaks to me in an impactful way.
The disagreeing, even fighting adults, the inner kids, just wanting to play and be together.
The couple who are "turning thier backs on each other" but truly wanting to connect.
"Looking in opposite directions in life, yet still supportive and having each others back to lean on"
This is what it's like when our communication is not speaking from the 'I'.
We say
"you don't"
"You never"

Instead of
"I feel"
"I want to"

I have done much work around this in my life and others

Reach out if you'd like to have a real conversation about this

Send me a pm.

22/03/2026

A new diploma to add to the package that I am developing to be able to deliver to people as a somatic practice, to enable speedy recovery and regulate our sympathetic nervous system, using this and other tools I am gaining to package together for a fun and affective pathway to empower us to full embodiment of who we be...., calm, whole, safe, confident, joyfully aware in our divine and authentic Self.

17/03/2026

10/03/2026

. Last weekend I had the beautiful experience of attending this festival.
It was a smaller festival with high emphasis on

It was so beneficial and pleasurable for me because usually, in the past, I would need to have an alcohol or drug buffer to attend. My sympathetic nervous system would be heavily activated and I would require multiple to my tent to be small, shrink, hideaway or "have my own space" effectively hide away, but I would spin it as recalibrating or integrating.

The past 8 mths have seen a massive growth period for me, emotionally, mentally and spiritually and in my underlying 'vibe'
More so in the last 2 mths as I have proactively set out to regulate my highly sensitive and dysregulated nervous system which was nearly always in fight, flight, freeze, fawn.

This specifically and was within intimate relationships and closely linked with and various other addictions.

We dont have to wait for the crisis to strike to use these powerful somatic techniques.
I experienced the whole festival without much 'practice' or use of my daily routine to be able to know presence and internal peace, safety, and inner awareness.
The daily exercises leading up to the event were more than enough to 'carry me through' the experience with confidence, and loving awareness of myself and other.
Today I celebrate this with you for those interested. Because well,....I'm effin proud of myself and claim the win!!
Shoot me a message if you'd like to chat about any of this. Please note I wont interact with 'anonymous' dm's.
I offer a safe place to land and chat with compassion and understanding.

24/02/2026

09/02/2026

Hi!! Here's the latest youtube video I created today for those who wish to listen to it.

Enjoy the videos and music you love, upload original content, and share it all with friends, family, and the world on YouTube.

12/11/2025

After having attended this and dealing with some of the really biggies, shame and worthiness, I highly recommend this workshop to all men, young and old. Deep gratitude.

https://www.facebook.com/share/1P1p1HgLGd/

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