Strengthening and Empowering Villages with Great Parenting

19/06/2025

Fathers teach your son(s) to toil without remorse and to do so submissively and don't forget your ultimate mission is to provide and make sure to train them early to realise that the burden they will carry as mentors, coaches, confidants, friends, brothers, sons, providers is not simple rather a treacherous journey with no promised reward from earthly relationships (1 Timothy 5 v 8). Do not expect roses, a free handout on a dull day, rain check when you need it because life brings a roller-coaster of ups and downs that go around full circle and learn how to wear it and keep on moving. Blame is coming, accusation is beckoning, taunting will become a familiar foe, disappointment appears at the stop sign of every road you have veered into but hope is what we have to spear through the smokescreen of doom and gloom.

We ask ourselves, but why is there satisfaction in hope when all may seem overwhelming and intensified in nature to provoke anyone to despair, disillusion, sadness, depression, and thoughts of self-harm. In life as a father we require a standard and we have a proven morality to uphold that separates where the principles of evil and good exist. Remember when the Lord said in Romans 12 v 22 that, “Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good” that the parallel of our preexistence before we as individuals were born and after the Adam and Eve dilemma in the garden we are currently in a fallen state where men has branded his survival on foolishness and greed. When we say evil exists in a world deepened in the throngs of pestilence, famine, wars, crime, corruption, argument, envy, drugs there must be good to contravene where we can stand on high moral ground (Isaiah 41 v10). So If evil and good exists in our world then there must be a moral law and this leads us to know that there must be a moral law giver.

Sons and fathers, there is no other yardstick to which we should hold in high regard and to model our roles as the high priest of the house then the Father and the Son who dwelt and dwell in the most divine place in heavens sanctuary (Hebrews 8 v1-2). We all should realise that his Son typified a man in flesh and came down to dwell amongst us and what he gave so that sin knew its place and death could be defeated. He made no judgement and consulted no one but listened to the instructions of His Father who so willingly gave up His Son, the ultimate sacrifice, so that our salvation would be guaranteed. Like His son we should give sacrificially and not count the amount of time we give assistance or blessings to others because God loves a cheerful giver (2 Corinthians 9 v 7). His goal and purpose was fulfilled with a promise. So to you fathers and sons I leave a challenge by which we should hold dear to your hearts and take to the darkest times and remember during your misgivings when you thought our God has forsaken you. Be reminded always that your role as Father to your sons comes great responsibility and your impact can be as far reaching to those outside your circle of influence as well as deeply impressing to those to which you have no affiliation or ties. The burden may be heavy but the reward nourishes the mind and the soul (John 16 v33). More than any man on earth could comprehend or fulfil. Which reminds me of that song I used to sing in Sunday school when I was younger that had words so profound that I find myself astonished that the reality is relevant and relatable. Sing “Jesus never fails, man of the world can let you down but Jesus never fails. (Hebrews 13 v8)”

12/09/2021

02/04/2021

Parents to be attached devotedly to children

It is the bestowed duty of parents to acquaint themselves with what makes the children ticker by pursing them wholeheartedly. We often see some parents disengaged with what the children need and the basics of life particularly communication and trust are disregarded at the expense of pure commitment and delivery to embolden and build this relationship.

Both father and mother must unite to work together in this bond to draw out from what is in the hearts of the children. This will be a valuable lesson as well to the children and leaves an indelible mark to be employed by them in their life practices from thereon. Parents must have devoted sympathy for one another if this is to function the way that it has to be.

The main important qualities to get from your children is both love and confidence. The love of your children will open doors to obedience while confidence will entrust the parents with reliance and a dependency to seek good counsel and advice. A powerful tool for regular engagement and will see their choices carve out a good course.

Hebrews 3 v4
For every house is built by someone, but God is the builder of everything

31/03/2021

Since our young enthusiasts in PNG have so much time to use technology during the lockdown, I appeal to parents to be aware of what they are watching and most importantly what they are inoculated with the mediums that are now at their fingertips. The dangers of social media and the influence it has on youth and the exposure to dangerous trends has now reached a level which is almost poisoning our young. The word on so many lips of ardent followers of Tiktok is, "I want to participate in a challenge trending on Tiktok. I want as many views and likes that I can get to strengthen my profile." The narcissist qualities that are bucked up are so evident but we leave that behind to tackle a different issue. This latest fatal movement is swiftly taking this Tiktok by storm amongst the socialites and can easily be espoused by those unsuspecting and particularly to the most vulnerable among peer groups or clubs etc. A challenge that spurs on the followers to do something to themselves until they pass out or in this instance referred to as "blackout." I am a believer in widening our knowledge and utilising different platforms to extend and impart knowledge and educate the unreachable so there is a greater means to achieve intellectual exchange which is more deeper and meaningful. This is why information with visuals are powerful and the recent near death of this child in America highlights the real danger of that we face when parents are switched off at any time to what their children are involved in online. Mind you, this child is still in a coma
Romans 12:2
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Remember life belongs to God and no one has the authority to take his or her own

1 Corinthians 6:19–20
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies”

Ephesians 5:29
“No one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church”

A Colorado family is devastated after their son was found in critical condition after participating in the “blackout challenge.”

19/02/2021

THE BUILDING AND ALL THE PARTS OF A FAMILY HOME
Dressing your place like heaven

Be adorned in the beauty that God has bestowed on this earth. Like his preparation for you, a mansion and not a shack or a house for that matter, it was instigated by his ardent love. He is filled with joy when his children busk in his beautiful creation in pockets of gifted lush and personalized sanctuary. How he accumulates these blessings as an endowment in his plan to see us surround ourselves with things that he has carved out with His hands. To s***f out that which is unnatural and blinded through the lens of temporary happiness and artificial clothing which ensues a murky environment. Psalms 33:v5 - The LORD loves righteousness and justice; the earth is full of his unfailing love. John 1: v3 - Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made

It is no secret that the countryside dwellers are built in a design to his favor. Nestled in homes fitted with a bit of grassy lawn, a few shade trees, flowery shrubbery, fragrant blossoms. This scene speaks to the people in this home. It speaks of happiness, love and strength in His love. The aura in which they deliver will render a softening, refining influence, reinforcing the deep connection to nature, bringing all those that dwell in these houses together and unsurprisingly an inclination towards God Almighty.
Romans 1:v20
For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.

30/01/2021

Lets all make it our business to be aware of how our children are using technology. Although we are taught to embrace the advancement of these systems, this can be the rise or fall of our parenting knowing that this is a diverse platform that leaves them exposed to dangerous content

30/01/2021

A FORMIDABLE UNION AT HOME THROUGH A FORMIDABLE PARTNERSHIP

The importance of creating a conducive environment at home for the family is shaped by a partnership between a strongly bonded man and woman. In all households the ultimate aim is for both parents to look at ultimately building good characters in their children. In many instances, in couples, there are clashes in personality or in their approach where one can be kind whilst the other too severe.
The role of the father and the mother are so crucial and both should work like hand-in-glove. There should not be room for the imbalance in contribution for both parties in the way there are changes and systems that will be introduced to bring reform into the home. The father should have primary control and ensure he has the respect from the children and be ably supported by the mother. Both parents should work like opposite poles in magnetic field. Everything must be done transparently where mother must not hide the misdeeds or shortcomings of the children, nor is she allowed to influence the children to do things that the father has forbidden them to do. Further on, the mother must not plant seeds of doubt in the minds of the children on how the father manages the house. This will also be applicable for father unto mother as well.
If both parties are at loggerheads and doubt should creep into this partnership then there is a high chance that there shall be a dispirited state of the home. All governing principles of the house are driven by the parents and the children must uphold the rules and regulations of the house thus building respect and confidence in their leadership. They should ensure that there is no compromise or hesitation especially for those rules that need to be applied that restrict the actions of the children but at the same time parents must mirror these conformities and why they are important to adhere to. We must be careful knowing that children are quick to sense any ambiguity of our teachings and advice. There are 2 vital means to attaining good children with a good character and good physical health. This can be done by ensuring that disciplining of the children is done mutually by father and mother and understanding that it is their moral duty to God to secure them.

30/12/2020

What is the environment that we wish to see in our homes?
“Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.” – Proverbs 17:6
Take heed of the morals and ideals that you show your children while they are within your circle of influence. Start them early and show them during the vitality of their youth and let them know that their future is so dependent on it. Be as effective as possible in your efforts giving them time and being as responsive as possible to their needs.

A society needs those that have strong upbringing in the building of their character through the behaviour that they exhibit, how the children are able to make informed decisions, disciplining themselves to abstain without compromising values. You will find that communities will function better because of the type of influence they will be. That old saying that goes, ”you are as good as the company you keep” will play hand in hand with their growth and embedding the right principles and habits paves the way for a brighter future for your family and those within your community.
Also take note that the sphere of influence extends from the child, impacts the community from your business/church/school to the household which is a component of villages that make up the nation. Society needs good parenting, and so does a healthy economic outlook for our nation, because home influences put the wheels in motion.

Personal testimony:
Going out with friends on a day out
There is always a temptation to be easy on children going to outings with friends. Make it your duty to know your children’s friends and their background. If possible, get to know their parents too because you just might find out the character of her/his friend by conversing with them. If you decide to let them go with their friends then ensure that you set expectations. Your freedom that you give should always be controlled and learn to give clear instructions to your children on timing and location of arrival, contact details of friends, and where they will be going to (Remember that our city is not a safe one at the moment).

Thank you very much for taking time out to read and I look forward to engaging with you all more often on this subject and other issues regarding parenting as well. Feel free to message me or post on the page so we can interact more. We need good parenting to take back our homes if we want to take back PNG

29/12/2020

In the next few weeks, I’d like to write some articles and briefs on the significance of a good home. The focus will be shed on parents as individuals and the essence of how you are a vital cog in the make up of the perfect model of a family to keep at your respective domains. I would like for us to unravel together what we all should be doing as parents to take back responsibility of our conduct in the household and why it is important in circumspect to be in control of this place. Having being given insight is one thing but it is also equally important that there is buy-in from you as the trainee or team member.
By way of introduction I am not a perfect father, nor did I have the perfect upbringing or make good choices in my life that were a resemblance of where I am today. Ideally if you had known me about 24 years ago and If I had it my way, I would have liked to be a pilot flying the national carrier like one of my uncles on my mum’s side. We stayed at Bautama Housing Estate just on the outskirts of the Nation’s Capital and it was just adjacent to the Jackson’s Airport. It was located almost at the end of the runway. My dad would always joke and say that her cousin would only land safely on the urging of regular signaling from manmade lighting directing him where to land that was provided by my father. He would insist and tell her that he wouldn’t be as skilled if it weren’t for his secret tutelage. Maybe it was a good idea after all that the pilot notion never worked out because an esteemed and career public servant like dad would have compromised his judgement if I were in the pilot seat. That’s for sure. These are some goals that I had earlier on in my youth and I shared with my parents as well as my wife with whom I married in 2001. I would have loved to have kicked on in sports as well in the game of Cricket but as we all know, the game at the time was an amateur sport and the additional responsibility of being a parent made that decision an easy one to forego. It was a formality at the time, as I was employed by a multinational company and the perks and privileges outweighed the social and leisurely aspect of the game. Thrown into the deep end of parenting straight after tertiary education meant finding the best for the children, my family and making sure that my wife was also given the best or else, as many women would subtly put it.
Well what can I say!! I am where I am today because of some varying factors including influences, aspirations, reactions to situations, emotionally driven courses, traditional values, slight windows of opportunities and divine intervention. I am happily married and have 5 wonderful kids who keep me ticking and hold me to account as a father and the man bestowed the title of the priest of the house (Bible reading and leading devotion). I am deeply religious and have a great love for helping people and believe that we are subject to a higher power who determines how and why we are in existence. We do not exist by chance but are predetermined and have a purpose in life. I am hopeful that all that we discuss and write about going forward will help us as parents to work collaboratively with our children and ensure that they are part of the change that we would like to impart in both the enrichment of us as parents and our team at home which is the significant in this, our children. A special mention also goes out to childless couples who will have some contributions and encouragement as well as we go along.
I would like to also qualify myself and share the fact that I am not a counsellor nor do I have any certification with life coaching but I am inspired to share my experiences and help in this topical journey with you especially in the dichotomy of modern-day approach of parenting to be reliant on technology, babysitters, timid disciplining and looking carefully at how there is a debate on pushing for law to be passed for the illegality of corporal punishment for children. We will start tomorrow with our first article on the importance creating the right ambience or atmosphere in our homes. I hope to build a lasting partnership with you all and I am sure that you will enjoy the great network that we will forge for the betterment of our society to build better individuals in our homes who will go on to be leaders of our communities and make a difference for our nation. Blessed night to you all