BCIDP Marriage & Family Center Institute Philippines

26/06/2025

Nagpasya ang na ang kawalan ng kakayahan ng isang asawa na mahalin ang kabiyak o magkaroon ng emosyonal na koneksyon sa kanya dahil sa isang personality disorder ay maaaring ituring na ebidensya ng psychological incapacity at maging batayan para ideklarang walang bisa ang kasal.

Sa isang Desisyon na isinulat ni Senior Associate Justice Marvic M.V.F. Leonen, kinatigan ng Second Division ng Korte ang naunang pasya ng Regional Trial Court (RTC) na nagdeklarang walang bisa ang kasal ng mag-asawa dahil sa psychological incapacity ng lalaki na gampanan ang kanyang mga tungkulin bilang asawa.

Nagkakilala ang mag-asawa noong 1999 at palihim na nagpakasal noong 2002. Hindi sila agad nagsama dahil nagtrabaho ang lalaki sa Saudi Arabia. Kinasal sila sa simbahan noong 2004 nang umuwi ang lalaki pero umalis ulit ito sa Pilipinas. Bumalik sa bansa ang lalaki noong 2005 at silang mag-asawa ay nagsama paminsan-minsan at nagkaroon ng dalawang anak — isang lalaki noong 2007 at babae noong 2012. Nagsama lamang sila ng halos limang taon at ang pagsasama ay puno ng paulit-ulit na pagtatalo at hiwalayan.

Noong 2016, nagsampa ng petisyon ang lalaki para mapawalang-bisa ang kasal. Nagsumite sya ng diagnosis ng isang psychologist tungkol sa kanyang Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder na naging dahilan para mahirapan siyang mapanatili ang kanyang malalapit na relasyon.

Pinagbigyan ng RTC ang petisyon pero binaliktad nito ang naging desisyon matapos umalma ang Office of the Solicitor General dahil sa due process. Kalanaunan ay isinantabi ng Court of Appeals ang apela ng asawa.

Pero nagpasya ang Korte Suprema pabor sa lalaki at sinabing napatunayan nito ang kanyang psychological incapacity.

Sa ilalim ng Article 36 ng Family Code, ang kasal ay walang bisa kung ang isa o parehong mag-asawa ay hindi kayang gampanan pyschologically ang kanilang mga tungkulin sa pag-aasawa kahit pa ang kundisyon na ito ay lumantad lang pagkatapos ng kasal.

Ang kawalan ng kakayahang magmahal ay dapat na malalim na nakaugat sa karakter ng tao at dapat na umiiral bago pa ang kasal.

Sa kasong ito, sinabi ng Korte na ang emotional detachment ng lalaki ay dahil sa strikto at emotionally distant na pagpapalaki. Bagamat kaya niyang tustusan ang kanyang pamilya, nahirapan siyang tugunan ang emosyonal na mga pangangailangan ng kanyang asawa.

Basahin ang buong press release sa https://tinyurl.com/2zjba472.

Basahin ang buong Desisyon sa https://tinyurl.com/8e67mcme.

Basahin ang Dissenting Opinion ni Associate Justice Jhosep Y. Lopez sa https://tinyurl.com/56e9rs43.

Sumunod sa Credit Attribution Policy ng SC PIO: https://sc.judiciary.gov.ph/credit-attribution-policy/.

25/06/2025

The has reiterated that a victim’s admission of being in a relationship with her abuser does not imply consent to s*x. Clear and convincing evidence of consent is still required.

In a Decision written by Associate Justice Jhosep Y. Lopez, the SC’s Second Division affirmed the conviction of accused Jhopet Hernandez Toralde for r**e of a 14-year old girl.

In 2017, Toralde showed up at the victim’s house unannounced and forced her to have s*x, threatening to show her family a video of them kissing if she refused. Out of fear, the victim gave in. She then reported the incident to the police.

During trial, the defense claimed that Toralde did not force the victim to have s*xual in*******se as he and the victim were in a romantic relationship—a defense known as the “𝘀𝘄𝗲𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗼𝗿𝘆.”

The SC, however, rejected Toralde’s sweetheart defense and declared him guilty of r**e under the 𝘙𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘗𝘦𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘊𝘰𝘥𝘦, citing that all elements of the crime were present, including the use of threats and intimidation to force s*xual in*******se.

The SC rejected Toralde’s sweetheart defense, affirming that being in a relationship does not grant the right to force s*x. The SC stressed that proving a romantic relationship is not enough—there must be clear evidence of consent.

Toralde was sentenced to suffer the penalty of 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘭𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘱𝘦𝘵𝘶𝘢, or a maximum of 40 years in prison, and ordered to pay the victim PHP 225,000 in damages.

Read the full text of the Press Release at https://tinyurl.com/nvpvv9fm.

Read the full text of the Decision at https://tinyurl.com/6tzma4tx

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22/06/2025

13/06/2025

❝𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲! 𝐊𝐚𝐲𝐚 𝐬𝐚𝐠𝐨𝐭 𝐤𝐚 𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐀𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐦 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡.❞

Ang Metro Manila Center for Health Development ay may mga LIBRENG gamot na maaaring makuha ng lahat ng mga taong may updated prescriptions. Ang kopya ng updated prescription ay maaaring ipadala via email sa: mentalhealth.dohncr@gmail.com, at maghintay ng kompirmasyon.

Narito ang mga gamot na maaaring makuha sa MMCHD:
- Paliperidone Palmitate, 150mg
- Escitalopram, 10mg
- Lithium Carbonate, 450mg
- Quetiapine, 200mg
- Risperidone, 2mg
- Clozapine, 100mg

Para sa listahan ng iba pang Mental Health Access sites sa NCR, i-scan lamang ang QR code.

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WHAT ARE THE ACCEPTABLE RULES ON INVITING ESTRANGED FAMILY MEMBERS (or parents mo na nag-ober da bakod na) ON YOUR WEDDING DAY?

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Paliparan III, Dasmarinas, Cavite

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15/05/2025

Arguing with your spouse in front of your children can have several effects on them, both short-term and long-term. Some potential impacts include:

1. **Emotional Distress**: Children may feel anxious, scared, or confused when they witness arguments between their parents. The stress of seeing conflict can affect their emotional well-being.

2. **Feelings of Insecurity**: If children see their parents arguing frequently, they may start to feel insecure about their family dynamics, leading to concerns about the stability of their home environment.

3. **Modeling Behavior**: Children often learn how to handle conflict by watching their parents. If they see their parents arguing aggressively or disrespectfully, they may mimic these behaviors in their own relationships or interactions.

4. **Impact on Relationships with Parents**: Witnessing unresolved conflict may create a sense of distance between the child and their parents. They may feel torn between loyalty to each parent or worry about the relationship.

5. **Decreased Self-Esteem**: Children may internalize the conflict, thinking that it’s somehow their fault or that they are not being heard or valued. This can affect their self-esteem and emotional health.

6. **Long-term Effects**: Children exposed to regular conflict may struggle with relationships later in life. They may have difficulty trusting others, expressing their emotions, or managing conflicts in their own relationships.

While disagreements are natural in any relationship, it’s important to handle them in a way that shields children from the negative emotional fallout. Modeling healthy communication, resolving conflicts behind closed doors, and showing mutual respect can help minimize these harmful effects.

08/05/2025

NAGTATAKSIL ANG ASAWA MO DAHIL "NASISIYAHAN" SIYA SA GINAGAWA SA KANYA NG 3rd PARTY NYO

Why? Because when you enter "marriage", your mentality should be making your partner totally happy. You should have done making yourself happy and have truly loved yourself before entering "marriage" or unmarried relationships. Only then it qualifies you to "give yourself to others".

So to improve your situation, re-direct your focus to your partner's own happiness. Study your partner's whole being by checking the areas where you could do something to make him / her happy.

It is only until you change your mentality that any relationship can prosper and be beneficial to both of you.

- DR. ANGELO E. BASE, Ph.D.
Dean, School of Marriage & Family Laws
Pearl of the Orient Theological Seminary & Colleges, Inc., Dasmariñas, Cavite