FJ Lapera

16/07/2025

🔥 WHY I AM STILL STANDING STRONG 🔥

Whenever my family, friends and even strangers ask me why I'm standing strong despite my dark past and why I keep my passion of helping women like I was, my heart's answer is always pretty simple.

It's all because of these...

💙I am passionately loving God resulting to love for everyone around me even if minsan feeling ko di na sila ka mahal2x.

💙I have deep compassion and understanding towards others even to those people whom I feel like offended, insulted and belittled me.

💙I am doing my best to do, think and act what is right and beautiful things to please my audience of One even when nobody sees it.

💙I am faithful to God's instructions to me and obey His will even when it's painful at times and even when a few people misunderstood me.

💙I strive for excellence always to gain God's favor and TRUST even when others may think I am not the best.

💙💙💙I am an imperfect woman, mom and parent which means I do commit mistakes.

But with these core values and clarity on my life's purpose, I know I'm thriving.

And in the end, I trust that my biggest CROWN is waiting for me. 😇🥰😊

What about you sis?

Let me know in the comments what you stand for.

What are your values and principles in life?

Would love to know it if you wouldn't mind it. 😄

To your peace and joy,
FJ Lapera

16/07/2025

God is rebuilding you right in front of people who broke you. You don't need revenge. You need FAITH. 💙

16/07/2025

15/07/2025

Anong relationship advice ang lagi mong binibigay… pero di mo rin ginagawa?

15/07/2025

🌧️💔 “𝐌𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐨𝐫 𝐑𝐚𝐢𝐧” 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐖𝐞 𝐇𝐢𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐚𝐢𝐧 💔🌧️

This morning, I heard Meteor Rain again on my feed… coz finally, after 24 years, this legendary Taiwanese boy band F4 made a rare reunion, opening Mayday’s 25th anniversary concert at Taipei Arena with their classic hit “Meteor Rain.”

And just like that, I was in elementary again.
Naalala mo pa ba, sis?

📺 That iconic intro…
🎶 That slow, emotional beat…
🖤 That moment when Dao Ming Si looked at Shancai like she was his whole world—pero lagi siyang nasasaktan...

And suddenly, it hit me:
Meteor Garden wasn’t just a love story.
It was a reflection of the heartaches many of us have lived through in silence.

🎬 Shancai was all of us.

Loving someone who didn’t always treat us right.

Forgiving even when we were shattered.

Staying hopeful even when it hurt.

Because that’s what we do when we love too deeply, isn’t it?

We tell ourselves:
"Maybe this time, he’ll change. Maybe this time, he’ll choose me for real."

Sis, if you're still healing from betrayal or heartbreak, this post is for you.

💔 You don’t have to shrink just to be loved.
💔 You don’t have to wait for a man to “finally realize” your worth.
💔 You don’t need to chase closure from someone who broke you.

Because unlike the drama, this is your real life.
And you deserve more than a love story that only looks good on screen.

🌈 Let Meteor Rain remind us not just of kilig and heartbreak,
but of our strength to walk away, rebuild, and become whole again.

Healing isn’t always loud.

Sometimes it begins with a quiet whisper:
“I choose myself this time.”

If this post hit you in the heart, know that you're not alone.
You’re seen. You’re strong. And you’re slowly rising again. 🌱

💬 SHARE THIS if you still remember F4 and Meteor Garden... and if you know someone who needs this reminder today.

10/07/2025

Anong ginagawa mo secretly para hindi ka mabaliw sa healing journey mo?

10/07/2025

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗱... 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗲𝘁𝗹𝘆 𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲.

I saw the recent issue about Elias and the tension between his live-in partner Abigail and his manager. And as someone who walked the painful road of , I can’t help but speak from both truth and grace.

Because this is not just a celebrity story.
This is 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘯’𝘴 𝘴𝘪𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳 when their man becomes too close to someone else—especially when power, fame, or emotional access is involved.

💔 𝐓𝐨 𝐀𝐛𝐢𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐥…
Your jealousy is valid.

You're not crazy.
You're not overreacting.
You're not “insecure.”

You’ve stood beside Elias in the shadows, long before the stage lights and screaming crowds.
You saw him in his low moments. You protected his peace. You watched him grow.

And now that other people are part of his success—including women he might confide in, laugh with, or lean on—your heart whispers… “Is there still space for me?”

Sis, I feel you. Because I’ve been there.
I’ve loved someone who entertained other women behind my back, all while telling me, “Wala lang ‘yun.”
Until “wala lang” almost destroyed me.

But here’s what I learned from that pain:

𝐉𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐥. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚 𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐚𝐥.
It tells you there’s a boundary being crossed, an emotion being neglected, or a connection slowly breaking.

So don’t just shout.
Don’t just cry.
𝐒𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤.
Calmly. Kindly. Firmly.

Tell him your fears. Your pain. Your hope.
And also listen. Not to defend, but to understand.
You deserve that.

But most of all, Abigail, pray.
Because no fame, no manager, no band can give you peace like God can.

Whether you marry Elias or not—𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘥𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘯 𝘎𝘰𝘥'𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵.

🙏🏼 𝐓𝐨 𝐄𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐬…
You are blessed.
Not because of your rising career or loyal fans,
but because you have someone who loved you before you were Elias J TV.

Abigail stood by you when the world didn’t know your name.
That loyalty is rare.

And it’s your responsibility now to 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭 the way she protected your dreams.

That doesn’t mean cutting off people.
But it means drawing 𝗰𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿, 𝗚𝗼𝗱𝗹𝘆 𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀—especially with other women in your circle.

Your manager? She can be professional, excellent, and helpful.
But 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝗮𝗳𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗲.

Your female fans? They can cheer.
But you must remain 𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗿𝗲𝗱.

Because too many men fall in love with the attention and forget who stood by them during the silence.

And please… don’t wait until Abigail explodes to finally listen.
𝗕𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲.

Check in with her. Pray with her. Fight for her security.
Because no tour is worth it if your home life is in shambles.

Now to you na mala Elias or Abigail rin ang buhay...

𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗚𝗼𝗱’𝘀 𝗥𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗬𝗼𝘂:
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” - Proverbs 4:23

You need to protect each other’s hearts.
Not just your image, your brand, or your future.

Remember that hearts BREAK SILENTLY.
Guard them before it's too late.

And to you who have been following me who’ve been cheated on, I know watching this kind of story can stir up memories—“𝘚𝘢𝘯𝘢 𝘯𝘰𝘰𝘯 𝘱𝘢 𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘨, 𝘯𝘢𝘨𝘴𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘢 𝘢𝘬𝘰.”

“𝘚𝘢𝘯𝘢 𝘨𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘢𝘯 𝘳𝘪𝘯 𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪 𝘺𝘶𝘯𝘨 𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘸𝘢 𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘬𝘰.”

Let this be a reminder:
✅ You deserve honesty.
✅ You deserve clarity.
✅ You deserve to be chosen again and again—even when no one's watching.

Let’s pray for Abigail and Elias.
And let’s also pray for ourselves—that we love with wisdom, not just emotion.

Because love should never make you feel like a background character in someone else's spotlight.

𝗟𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗹𝘆, 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘆𝗮𝗹?

𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗼𝘄…
Let your story and voice be heard. 😇

09/07/2025

𝗤𝘂𝗶𝗲𝘁 𝗦𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻, 𝗚𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗦𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻.
𝗜'𝗺 𝗕𝗮𝗰𝗸! 🌷

Hi mga sis… I just want to say sorry for not being as consistent lately in posting healing advice or heart-to-heart content here on my page. 🥺

I've been receiving some messages and pangangamusta, and I really appreciate your concern. 💌

It made me realize I owe you a little update on why things have been quiet here lately.

Truth is, I needed to take some space to breathe, grow, and realign—both as a woman continually healing and as someone stepping into new responsibilities.

Aside from counseling and my HAC advocacy, I’m still adjusting as a full-time solo mom and a newly licensed AIA Financial Advisor.

My time has been stretched between working, parenting, and being hands-on with my son.

Also, we're still currently fixing and upgrading my website, since my email system glitched and didn’t send properly.

Kaya pasensya na rin if you signed up and didn’t get any updates yet.

But I’m here, and I’m slowly rebuilding my rhythm again. 🎯

Starting tomorrow, I’ll be sharing more healing reflections, stories, and updates to guide and inspire you on your journey. 💙

Thank you so much for sticking around, learning and healing with me and... for your patience.

Your quiet support means so much to me. 🙏✨

20/06/2025

"Sabi nya lagi sa akin na s*x lang yun at bihira lang naman nilang gawin. Wala daw silang relasyon kasi alam ni girl na mahal nya ako coz kapitbahay nga namin.

👉Pwede or meron ba talagang ganoon - nagses*x ng 2-3 years na walang relasyon? Dapat ba akong maniwala ?

👉Sabi nya ay more or less ay 10 times lang naman nilang ginawa.

👉Parang binabayaran lng nya naman.


🚩Hiwalay sa asawa/ka live in si girl. Di ko nga nagawang sugurin kasi ayaw ko ng eskandalo pero alam ko na alam na din ng mga nasa paligid namin kasi si girl pa ang nagkukwento sa kanila ng mga ginagawa nila (proud pa na sya ay kinakalantari ng asawa ko).

🚩Noong di ko pa alam ay lagi kaming magkakasama (barkada) at lagi silang nag iinuman at nag vivideoke dito sa bahay namin at naririnig ko naman talaga na sinasabi nya na mahal na mahal nya ako kaya tulungan daw ako para di mahirapan (kasi nga bagong lipat kami).

🚩Ipinaglalaba , ipinagluluto at ipinaglilinis ako ng bahay. Isinasama ko rin sa mga lakad- pamamasyal at pamimili.

Kaya ang sakit sakit ng matuklasan ko kasi nga ay harap harapan pala nila akong niloloko.


🔥🔥🔥Ang sabi ng husband ko ay di nya naman ako niloko kasi wala nga silang relasyon at di nya kabit si girl.

Ang lagi ko ring tanong ay meron ba talagang ganoon?

Sa ngayon ay medyo nababawasan na ang sakit, siguro nga ay dahil may napapagsabihan na ako (ikaw un).

Maraming salamat."


🛑Cheating isn't only about s*x.

It starts with paglalandi.

Even in thoughts... if he's imagining sleeping with another woman or kissing that woman... he's already cheating on YOU.

Now don't be blinded.

And don't get me wrong.

But if you're also like this Depressed Cheated Woman, there's something WRONG with your husband for making a fool of you.


🚫Hindi ka trapo para gawing TANGA harap harapan.


Once is even already too much of an insult.

What do you think of 10 times?

It's valid if he may not think of her as a kabit kasi I feel like parausan ang tingin nya but...

Did you feel good knowing about it?

Naisip ka ba nya habang nakikipag s*x sa malandi nyong kapit bahay?

Now if your husband was this man and di pa rin committed na iwan ang bisyo nya...
..please WAKE UP!


To your peace and joy,
FJ Lapera

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P.S.S. Bawat tao may chance magbago as long as hindi pa physically dead. But that is if... gusto nyang magbago para sa sarili nya at TUNAY na ikaliligaya ng puso nya. :)


P.S.S.S. To any "PROUD KABIT" out there, I hear you. But I pray you hear yourself too. Wag mong hayaang habang buhay ay gawin kang parausan.

I may not know your full story why you're doing this.

But one day, you'll see and experience the same pain you caused your fellow woman - most likely sobra pa.

30/05/2025

"𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐆𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠... 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐒𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐆𝐨𝐭 𝐁𝐞𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐲𝐞𝐝"

I didn’t scream on camera.
I didn’t post Day 1, Day 2, or Day Whatever of my heartbreak.
Pero hindi ibig sabihin nun, hindi rin ako nagdusa.

When I was cheated on, something inside me quietly died.

I remember lying on the floor, sobrang sakit—asking God why I wasn’t enough.

No one saw it.

No camera. No audience. Just my soul in ruins… and my son sleeping beside me, unaware that his mama was fighting to survive the storm inside.

So when I saw Meiko Montefalco’s story—kahit hindi ako fan—napahinto ako.

If her pain is real, I feel for her.

Because trying to be “the strong one” online, tapos sabay tinaga ka sa puso?

That kind of betrayal can break even the strongest image you’ve worked so hard to protect.

And if it’s true that she passed out just like in her account's latest update, maybe that was her body’s way of saying: “Hindi ko na kaya.”

I didn’t grieve like that. I didn’t post mine.
But that doesn’t mean my pain was any less.

From what I’ve seen, she gave everything.

She planned the wedding. She stood as the breadwinner.

She even protected her partner’s image—maybe thinking, “One day, he’ll change. One day, it will all be worth it.”

And I get it.

Because so many of us loved like that, too.

We saw the red flags... but we chose to hope.
We stayed, prayed, and gave more—thinking love was enough to hold it all together.

But here's a gentle truth we all need to hear:

🌱 Love doesn’t fix what someone refuses to change.
🌱 Providing for a man won’t teach him to lead.
🌱 And staying silent for peace often costs us our own.

This isn’t about blaming her—hindi rin ito paghusga sa kahit sinong babae.

This is about learning... so we don’t keep bleeding in the same places where we once planted love.

We all heal differently.

And sometimes, the most broken are the ones who never say a word.

So to the woman crying silently in bed, pretending she’s okay while cooking breakfast or showing up to work…

To the one who was betrayed and felt like she lost everything…
I see you.

You are not alone.

Healing isn’t performance.
It’s a process.

And with God, you can rise from this—whole, wiser, and deeply loved.

If ikaw rin ay mala "Patrick" na husband and you're like "Meiko" giving it all, may you not be afraid of SHARING your pain and struggles too.

Healing with you,
FJ "Certified Survivor" Lapera

29/05/2025

FORGIVENESS doesn't make them RIGHT. It makes you FREE. 😇

23/05/2025

Today, I want you to know that you simply need to just wait and see why God needed you to WAIT. 💙

Coz what God is doing is beyond what you could ever pray or think. 😇

Stop being emotional.

Just keep grinding coz your breakthrough is on its way.

Remember, the more you complain, the more you'll remain.

But the more you'll PRAISE Him for whatever He's about to do for you, the more you'll be RAISED.

This is the power of manifestation or shall we say, the power of declaration.

Coz as per the Bible, your tongue can speak LIFE or DEATH. 💋

So choose what you declare over your life, your kids, your marriage, your relationships and... your HEALING journey.

I mean...

Do not rush things just because you badly want it.

Just DESIRE it...

Take ACTION for what you desire and...

Learn to WAIT for God's perfect timing.

God has the perfect timing for you.
Never early and never late. 💙

It takes a little PATIENCE and a lot of FAITH.

What do you think about WAITING sis? 😊

Cheering you on,
FJL