07/11/2025
A Story of Reconnecting To The Healer within
By Suniya Dar
We continue to abandon ourselves for others. We let ourselves become "doormats" as long as we hold onto the belief that our salvation, happiness, and peace will come from the outside. We wait for a prince, princess, savior, or a perfect circumstance to arrive and rescue us from our pain, grief, and helplessness.
This belief is what disconnects us from our true essence and from the inner healer that resides within us.
In truth, the challenges we face both internal struggles and external circumstances appear in our lives for a reason. They come to guide us back to the self we lost in the fight for survival. They come to reconnect us with the power of our own consciousness and the healing spring that flows within. Every experience, no matter how painful, ultimately aims to bring us back to ourselves.
Until this reconnection this inner meeting happens, our mental distress does not truly subside, nor do our emotional wounds fully heal.
Just like in psychotherapy, where speaking about a painful experience isn’t just an act it’s a doorway. A doorway that brings us back to ourselves, breaking down the walls that for years have separated us from our true being.
We grow up watching films, reading novels and stories filled with romantic fantasies about external saviors. Someone else comes, rescues us, loves us, and makes us whole.
But for me, the most beautiful love story has always been the one where you meet your own inner healer.
And fortunately, my own love story follows that very same plot.
Recently, I received a beautiful and heartfelt message from a client that felt like the most precious gift because it was a true love story of meeting the self. I share this with you, with her full consent and with great care to protect her confidentiality not the exact words or screenshots, but the context of her journey.
This client came to therapy after experiencing the sudden death of her husband last year. She was thrown into deep emotional, mental, and financial turmoil. Not only was she left alone, but with her children, she had to depend on people who turned out to be emotionally abusive and exploitative.
In surviving this abuse, she became completely disconnected from her own strength and capabilities. A deep sense of helplessness overtook her rooted in the belief that change was only possible through external means, and that enduring this exploitation was necessary for survival.
Despite her youth, higher education, and immense potential, she found herself trapped in fear, despair, and a constant battle with her circumstances.
But one thing sustained her: a determination to discover herself and work through her difficulties.
With sincerity and perseverance, she committed to the therapeutic process. Slowly but surely, she rose above the wounds, the helplessness, and the external hardships and reconnected with the hero within her. She met her inner savior.
As her therapist, I was fortunate to support her in breaking down the walls that separated her from herself. We listened deeply to her pain, honored her process with honesty and care, and walked beside her on her journey.
And today… Masha’Allah!
She has not only removed herself from that abusive environment, but has also tapped into her potential to build a new life one marked by emotional and financial independence, dignity, and empowerment.
So, I leave you with this gentle reminder:
Let us remember the silent heroes and heroines around us those who, with quiet focus and deep courage, are walking the path of self-awareness, healing, and inner connection.
They are the lamps.
And it is by their light that the world will be illuminated.
Note: The context of this story has been shared with the client’s full and conscious consent.
