Tasaduq.Writes

26/09/2024

Sometimes, we embrace labels because they help us to understand ourselves better, for instance one can be an introvert, anxious, strong or even hot-headed.

Having this awareness helps, because acknowledgement is the first step towards any acceptance and growth.

However, sometimes we forget that these labels were only a way to helps us, to help us perhaps—find our tribe. to helps us understand ourselves better.

The challenge arises when these labels start to anchor us down, when these labels become such strong identifiers, we cant shake them off, they become the center of our being

That is when we must ask ourselves, where did our being go? - did we forget ourselves and let these labels overpower our being.

Some people grow up believing they are the provider for the family, and that is the label they know, forgetting that they have desires and wishes to be fulfilled.

Our jobs for instance, are such strong labels we wear, doctors, engineers, all of us must reflect and develop a capacity to detach from our labels.

Letting go of labels doesn’t mean abandoning who we are or the experiences that shaped us. It means recognizing that we are fluid, ever-changing, and so much more than a single word or role.

When we release the need for a label, we create space for growth, for exploring new parts of ourselves, and for becoming what we didn’t even know was possible.

Letting go allows us to step into our true, multifaceted nature, to live more authentically, unbound by the expectations tied to our labels.

It’s about reclaiming our identity from the labels and embracing the freedom to redefine ourselves, again and again.

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21/09/2024

In the journey of healing, progress often looks like allowing ourselves to be loved again.

15/09/2024

If you know you have had traumatic past, you would know that developing relationships comes with its own challenges, or perhaps you may not be aware of it. But it does come with its challenges none the less.

We develop alot of walls (defences) to navigate through difficulties that were given to us in form of that trauma. and our minds and bodies adapt to that trauma using these defences.

But we eventually reach a point that these walls dont serve us, specially because as human beings we crave connection and the ability to live a communal life. (something that the modern world has robbed us of)

But here are some ways that you can start your journey for letting the walls come down slowly:

Healing is a journey. It requires patience and honoring your boundaries and your body's limits. With every small step you take, you’re accessing parts of yourself that trauma has suppressed from you. Remember, it’s okay to take your time. Each step forward is a victory!

13/09/2024

Trauma changes how we perceive the world and the people in it. After experiencing pain or betrayal, our brain naturally tries to protect us from further harm. This often leads to hypervigilance and mistrust, even towards those who are genuinely caring and supportive.

When we’ve been hurt, our nervous system may stay in a state of high alert, causing us to question people’s intentions, and making it hard to feel safe again. This is because trauma rewires the brain, pushing us to avoid vulnerability at all costs. The walls we build are a way to protect ourselves from reliving that pain.

But while these walls may keep pain out, they also block out connection, warmth, and healing. Understanding this dynamic is the first step towards dismantling those walls and letting people in again.

Therapy room is a conducive environment, where you learn to bring down these walls slowly and open yourself to genuine connection.

07/09/2024

The most frightening aspect of trauma is how it builds walls, even against genuine people.

06/09/2024

Listening to your body is an essential part of self-compassion, it helps us recognize how our mental and physical states are connected. When we practice self-compassion, we aren’t just tending to our emotional needs; we’re also positively affecting our physical health.

When we treat ourselves with kindness during stressful moments, we reduce the body’s stress response. This reduction leads to physical relaxation, less tension, and an overall sense of well-being. Understanding this connection reminds us that caring for our mental state directly benefits our physical health.

I often encourage my clients to pay attention to how they talk to themselves and to consider the words they use. If they could reframe their inner dialogue with the same compassion and curiosity they would extend to a loved one, how might their bodies respond?

By approaching themselves with this gentle curiosity, they often notice shifts not just in their emotions but in their physical responses as well. This practice helps break patterns of harsh self-criticism and promotes a more compassionate relationship with self, opening ways to be in the present moment and cultivate a mind and body connection.

04/09/2024

The mind-body connection is a profound concept that helps us understand how our thoughts and emotions affect our physical health. In therapy, we often explore how stress, anxiety, or emotional pain can manifest in the body, leading to symptoms like fatigue, muscle tension, or even chronic illness.

What we feel shows up in our bodies. When we experience prolonged stress or overwhelming emotions, it can disrupt our bodies, creating discomfort and tension. Listening to our body and conversing it is an essential part of identifying body’s needs.

When we feel threatened or stressed, our nervous system can shift into fight, flight, or freeze modes, which affects both our mental and physical states. This response might show up as a racing heart, shallow breathing, or a sense of being disconnected from our bodies.

On the other hand, when we feel safe and connected, our nervous system can shift into a more relaxed state, promoting healing and well-being. In therapy, we often work on recognizing these patterns and finding ways to help the body and mind return to a state of safety and calm.

The mind-body connection also reminds us that our daily habits, like movement, breathing, and rest, play a key role in our well-being.

Activities that help regulate the nervous system, such as gentle exercise, deep breathing, or mindful relaxation, can help restore balance when we’re feeling overwhelmed.

Slowing down is an essential part of facilitating the mind and body connection. We can explore this slowing down specially in guided meditation, something we will talk about next.

02/09/2024

Self-compassion, I’ve learned, is not about excusing ourselves from accountability, but about acknowledging the depths of our humanity. It’s about holding space for our imperfections without judgment, realizing that the mistakes we make do not define us. There’s a softness in this approach that I never knew I needed—a softness that whispers to me, “It’s okay to feel, to stumble, to not have it all figured out.” It’s the tenderness of recognizing that we are not machines meant to be perfect; we are beings with complex emotions, histories, and scars that need tending to.

I spent so much of my life believing that self-criticism was the only way to grow. If I wasn’t hard on myself, how would I improve? But now I see that harshness only built walls within me, separating me from the parts of myself that needed love the most. Self-compassion has shown me that I can be both a work in progress and worthy of love at the same time. That my struggles are not a sign of failure but an invitation to slow down, breathe, and offer myself the same kindness I would offer to a dear friend.

In practicing self-compassion, I’ve realized that healing is not linear. There are days when the storms inside are quieter, and days when they rage uncontrollably. And on those stormy days, I remind myself that it’s okay to seek shelter, to rest, and to be gentle with myself. It’s in these moments of softness that I find strength. The strength to continue, the strength to forgive myself, and the strength to believe that I am deserving of compassion, not just from others but from within.

31/08/2024

When we are not ready, we are unable to receive compassion even if it comes knocking on our door.

30/01/2024

11/10/2023

I had posted this on my stories, but I felt it needed space here beside the post about why we put our happiness in others' hand.

Because this post is my raw-self doing the exact same things.

Therapy doesnt exempt us from behaving like human beings. Because we will continue to feel pain and joy and suffering, because all of it is human.

Therapy helps us to navigate through it better, it teaches us the tools we need and the knowledge that will set us free.

My job on this page is to start a conversation, and yours is to take it forward, we are in this together. 💛

25/09/2023