04/06/2019
People in any age, especially teenage, often feel lonely in their lives despite of some friends and somewhat normal family lifestyle. In search of the answer, they experiment with their lives; make friends from different walks of life, hang out more often, try to get in a relationship and some even resort to drugs. Out of these, I'll highlight about the ones who try to get in a relationship.
To start with, this seems to be the best answer but honestly, trying to commit to someone in times of inherent loneliness leaves you in a worse crisis, most of the times, in long run. The other person does not see the healthy version of yours and might even just lend a hand thinking you are just another part of their temporary phase in which you would just be friends for the time being. Then comes the part where you form attachment, develop feelings or expectations that are not mutual since other person was not as lonely as you were. Soon, two of them are moving in opposite directions while one of them resenting this since it felt like the answer but in reality, it was not. Thus begins the struggle to come out of a deeper pit the person has fallen in. At times, the person would just exhaust while trying as hard as it could be. Spells of depression or anxiety might go alongside this. The weight seems unbearable.
While people are almost right when they say that no one has the answer but to some extent, they can come up with their own answer. What could strengthen them in their struggle could be talking about the thing that caused them to fall in a pit, to a person they consider would value their company and this literally involves speaking out about the qualities you saw in that person with whom you wished to have been in a relationship and realising that those qualities are not unique to that person; that person was not the last person you could be with if only you dont limit your perspective and have faith in wisdom of higher power.
Lastly, working on your self like physically, mentally and spiritually, socialising with positive people and helping those in need especially with the same difficulty as yours and managing to have a state of balance between what you should do and what you can do about the progress in life, helps you stay strong enough to cope with the challenges that come along.
Thankyou to whoever wrote this. We are grateful to you for sharing and talking about an issue that is rarely discussed by our society. 🌸