The Art of Sacred Relating

11/01/2026

30/12/2025

Exciting Announcement Loves! Read the Post below for more info 🥰

Exciting Announcement! 🥰

Hey dear friends

I would like to unveil a new Free online workshop that i have designed for couples or individuals who wish to be in a committed relationship, called Sacred Foundations. ☀️ *January 6th 2026 * 6:30pm Eastern European Time

Some of the topics we will cover include:

*Shadow work and embodiment of the authentic self.

*Inner child healing and nourishment

*A variety of communication tools designed to build trust and respect

*Active listening, conflict resolution and developing empathy

*And more...depending on the groups needs

Experience a mentorship that nurtures relationships so you can feel truly seen, safe, and deeply loved.

Align with your authentic self to radiate joy and undergo transformation that lasts throughout your life.

This is a live Free Workshop with limited space as i will also be offering some live coaching during the session, click the link to signup now. subscribepage.io/asrm *January 6th 2026 *

A client i am currently working with shared recently, "I can feel how this transformation will influence all areas of my life." 😍

PS - I currently have one space available for a client who wishes to take advantage of the 2025 rates before they disappear forever! 🙏

Blessings Divine Ones 😇

30/12/2025

Exciting Announcement! 🥰

Hey dear friends

I would like to unveil a new Free online workshop that i have designed for couples or individuals who wish to be in a committed relationship, called Sacred Foundations. ☀️ *January 6th 2026 * 6:30pm Eastern European Time

Some of the topics we will cover include:

*Shadow work and embodiment of the authentic self.

*Inner child healing and nourishment

*A variety of communication tools designed to build trust and respect

*Active listening, conflict resolution and developing empathy

*And more...depending on the groups needs

Experience a mentorship that nurtures relationships so you can feel truly seen, safe, and deeply loved.

Align with your authentic self to radiate joy and undergo transformation that lasts throughout your life.

This is a live Free Workshop with limited space as i will also be offering some live coaching during the session, click the link to signup now. subscribepage.io/asrm *January 6th 2026 *

A client i am currently working with shared recently, "I can feel how this transformation will influence all areas of my life." 😍

PS - I currently have one space available for a client who wishes to take advantage of the 2025 rates before they disappear forever! 🙏

Blessings Divine Ones 😇

09/11/2025

PLEASE Stop wasting your life playing it PLEASE Stop wasting your life playing it small!!

Feeling so blessed after a deep breath work session where someone held space for me for a change cuz I'm normally the one holding space for others in this way. What came up even though I know I'm doing my my work in this life is how I'm still playing it small and it brought up this deep sadness and at the same time I thought of other people that I know more people that I know are really playing it small, it's not to say better or worse but I feel like most of us are living in these little bubbles of comfort and we're not living our true essence bringing our gifts our Magic being our warrior for the light.

The world needs you, this is not some thing I read or something someone else said that I'm repeating to you I'm telling you straight up we need you if you're playing it small livin somewhere in a situation you don't absolutely love, in a job that you don't absolutely love you're playing it small PLEASE stop that! There's no more room for that can you see what's happening in the world around you?

This is the time to really trust your gut your heart your intuition if someone or something is controlling the way you live your life then you've given away your power! Please take some time to really reevaluate your life and realize that we only have one day in this life and that day is today that time is now there is no room for playing it small you need to expand into the giant that you are, take up space, make yourself known, without the ego!

Most people's lives are controlled by fear doubt and worry and they move through their day in a hurry with very little awareness about their effect on the planet as a whole never mind their affect on the people and places that surround them.

May we stop this insanity this narcissistic self indulgent boring f****** life style and step into our true essence especially as men!

I am hosting some online workshops & putting out a new course in the near future based on Art of Saceed Relating mentorship program, so that more people can access the gifts that I have to share, Visit https://www.artofsacredrelating.com

Blessings
Christo
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02/11/2025

I had a moment of clarity during a coaching call with a brother recently as I was explaining what the embodiment of the four masculine archetypes (the king, the warrior, the lover, and the magician) looks like. I realized how we need all of them in order for any of them to function properly. One of our most powerful & authentic expressions is through our s*xuality, our most intimate creative expression.

I recalled how in the past I would compartmentalize each of these archetypes in different areas of my life. I had this yearning to show up as the king when I was in a leadership role or the lover when I was involved with my romantic partner . That is not the way it works though, to be a good King you must also embody the other three archetypes.

A healthy King is a harmonious combination of a responsible leader (King), a strong protector (Warrior), a wise transformer (Magician), and a passionate, sensitive partner (Lover). This means a man embodying the King will also draw upon and integrate qualities of the other three archetypes to be a complete and balanced leader.

Think about the image of a mandala and if you only have three quarters of the image it doesn't make a complete mandala. Similarly a person's challenges are usually rooted in one or two of these areas, but the entirety of the human being is affected, in Essence making them feel incomplete and therefore they struggle because they are unable to show up for life with a healthy, balanced & authentic expression.

In the end this is what my work in this life is all about creating healthy, happy, and whole human beings, which are then able to create healthy harmonious relationships & family units. The fabric of our society is created by the threads of all its individuals. So if we do not do our inner work & reclaim the abandoned or traumatized parts of ourselves we are like an instrument with a broken string, our range becomes limited and we really struggle in all areas of life.

Wish to reclaim the parts of yourself that are causing you to struggle, then let's talk. You can learn more about my work The Art of Sacred Relating Mentorship @ https://www.artofsacredrelating.com/

Blessings

Christo
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27/10/2025

Intimate Sharing: Men Loving other Men begins w/ Self-love & Self-realization  

I have sometimes found myself attracted to men of real authenticity & integrity, even though i do not desire to have s*x with other men, I have thought about kissing another man, it is a blessing to be able to feel love other men. It feels that i have healed my relationship with the universal masculine in learning to truly love myself in a respectful, kind & unconditional way, but it wasn’t always that way.  

I was born & bred into a toxic society, taught to be in competition with ‘the other’ & wasn't taught about empathy or self-love growing up. “Men don’t cry” was a popular phrase that i heard in society growing up & the result was building protective layers or shells, which insulated me from the outer world. Mostly what remained was my inner world, which was so filled with unexpressed emotion, that it demanded drinking & drugs to be able to be intimate & enjoy life. Eventually there was no longer anybody to connect with intimately or to play with in an authentic childlike way, unless we were intoxicated & that became quite lame over time.  

The bottom line is that in toxic environments / relationships, people feel unsupported, unvalued, and disconnected from their true nature.  For example, the hustle culture is harmful as it promotes the idea that you must constantly work hard to be successful. This can lead to a tremendous amount of stress, often causing severe physical / mental health issues, damaging your relationships, & other important aspects of life. This is further exacerbated when leaders / parents don’t take responsibility for creating & maintaining a culture of belonging, based on vulnerability, empathy, & clear communication, ultimately creating a toxic work or home culture.  

Are you in a toxic relationship or environment, but you can't figure a way out, the awnser lies Within. I'm inviting men or couples who are in a committed relationship to book a free call to see if we're a good fit. My mission is to build healthy families, beginning with healthy individuals, & healthy relationships. Learn more @ https://www.artofsacredrelating.com/ 

Blessings 

Christo
💖

25/10/2025

Building Trust in Relationships.

One of the greatest lessons that i have learned, on the journey of life, is what builds relationships up and what tears them down. And nothing ends a relationship faster than when the trust is broken, as the dutch proverb goes “Trust comes on foot and leaves on horseback.” 

There are many models for building trust, one of my favorites is call the Four C’s of Trust Building (Consistency, Compassion, Competence & Communication). I’ll dive into each so you can see the value of each & how they are connected: 

Consistency is equated to predictability — in any interaction there is a degree of vulnerability that occurs, and being predictable reduces the uncertainty of the interaction. This is often extended to concepts such as reliability or integrity which are absolutely foundational for trust to emerge.   

Compassion relates to genuine empathy and understanding. “We don’t care how much the other person knows, until we know how much they care.” Compassion is often perceived to exist when there is a meaningful response to a person’s unique needs. Research makes it clear that for trust to occur, the compassion must be perceived to be genuine and sincere. Faking it does not cut in this regard.   

Competence is a key element of relational trust building in that it shows that being reliable & kind is insufficient in building trust – you must be able to get the job done & show that you are capable, if you want to be trusted. 

Finally, communication is the thread that connects consistency, compassion, & competence. Research on trust shows that the highest leverage area is receptive listening, which is an underappreciated act in our fast-paced society. Maintaining confidentiality is another critical consideration, but above all open, honest, & transparent communication is crucial for building trust. 

Do you wish to deepen the trust & the bond in your relationships? ..but can’t seem to get out of your own way. Perhaps you lack the tools necessary & can use support. Reach to setup a free call to see if we are a good fit in working together or visit https://www.artofsacredrelating.com/  

Blessings 

Christo James 

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21/10/2025

Intimate sharing on how Yoga & Tantra changed my life & my lo******ng  🌺

Learning to work with my s*xual energy & my relationship with s*xuality began by learning how not to do it. My hypers*xual drive was mainly brought on by the frequent need to release stress & tension rooted in fear. My beliefs around s*x stemmed from my societal programming; friends, television, porn & what I witnessed around me. I would say that the s*x I engaged in was mostly surface level, in the sense that it was mainly aimed at satisfying me & most of what i did in the bedroom was a performance of sorts, trying to mimic what i witnessed in porn, movies, or how i witnessed others speak & behave.  

In practicing kundalini yoga & Tantra i learned the importance of moving energy from the lower chakras to the higher chakras using breath, sound & movement. These practices helped me to not only relieve the underlying tension that i felt, but it also helped me to identify the root cause. Now i regularly circulate my energy, to not have stagnation & raise my frequency.   

Approximately 80% of male bodied beings are engaging in regular consumption of pornography & many of them approach s*xuality in a way that is ego driven, objectifies women & primarily aimed at self-gratification. Many women will no longer stand for this level of connection, some would prefer to be alone or pleasure themselves, protecting themselves from enduring more unfulfilling or traumatic experiences. 

Being creative & playful in the bedroom is a wonderful thing, but there needs to be a balance. Ta***ic practices like shared breathing & eye-gazing build connection, followed by focused exercises building sensory awareness through mindful touch or kissing, & even mantra chanting helps to bring about spiritual focus, which is what really sets the Ta***ic way apart. These practices help ground you in the present moment, raise your energetic connection with your partner & invite the divine into the ceremony of making love.   

Wish to take your lo******ng to the heights your heart knows are possible? 

Lets have a call to see if we are a good fit. Learn more @ https://www.artofsacredrelating.com/ 

Blessings 
Christo
💖

17/10/2025

Moving from Projection to Reflection

If you have noticed yourself reacting to someone but you're not sure exactly why because they didn't really do anything "wrong" perhaps you're projecting your inner pain or insecurities on others. An example is someone who is triggered by those who take good care of themselves or that appear to have more abundance, and because you don't take good care of yourself or imagine that you have less, than you're bothered by that mirror and lash out.

What does projecting your pain onto another person really look like? Projection is where you unconsciously attribute your own undesirable traits or feelings to someone else. Essentially projection is the defense mechanism of pushing your own flaws onto another person. I think we can all agree that that's a pretty immature thing to do and not very helpful wouldn't you agree?

A much healthier option is to practice reflection, the conscious process of looking inward to understand your own thoughts and feelings, often by using interactions with others as a mirror to gain self-awareness / insights. Of course, this is a muscle / practice that we must develop over time, using it over and over again in order to make it strong.

When we take the time for reflection we often are able to see our side of the equation and then approach the situation from a place of empathy and compassion for self and others.

Check out the video for more on this topic 😉

Blessing for a wonder filled now 🙏🏽
Christo
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14/10/2025

Feeling super grateful for life ☀️

Stepping fully into my work as a relationship coach has been so rewarding....

For about 7 years i fought against my inner current when it came to rediscovering myself and my finding my life path as a healer

Now after having gotten my feet wet i feel like a f**k to water and the best part is that i have also healed my relationship with money, s*x and power along the way. It has Not been easy and i times i wasnt sure if i would survive the journey. Hit rock bottom financially about a dozen times, grateful to my family and friends who always showed up in the "Kairos' moment with just the help that was needed.

Here is a little testimonial from a couple that i helped totally flip their relationship script in 1 opening session. My work is actually quite simple for me and that's how I know it's what I'm born to do in essence I point out your blind spots and help you see how you are selling yourself short and perhaps projecting your pain onto others in an unhealthy way. It's always involves some Shadow work because we'll never feel truly whole when there are parts of us that are hidden away and abandoned especially our inner child.

Luna writes:

•Couple's session review with Christo James•

My partner and I only had one session with Christo, but that was already very healing and touched a lot of important bases.
Christo held space for us in a deep and connected way, and asked the right questions, pointed out the foundations of some issues and gave some short but helpful guidance (all that one session can take😅).
My personal experience was quite positive and clarifying, and I am very grateful to Christo for that! Thanks a lot 😊🙏

If your ready for a relationship that is alive, juicy and vibrant lets make it happen. Book a free relationship rewire call or visit https://www.artofsacredrelating.com/

Blessings
Christo
💖

22/09/2025

Men: Do your womans emotions terrify you? Do you run for cover, ignore her, downplay her feelings or simply remove yourself from the space? Do you think she's over the top or too much?

A woman's emotions are not something to fear or avoid. Perhaps it's something you were taught as a man, which is to fix the problem, but what if there is nothing Wrong. What if you started to embrace her mood swings, not trying to fix her but simply being with her, perhaps pushing your belly into hers, grounding her with your presence and meeting her where she is..she is not broken she is sensitive and her moods will test you beacause she will not trust you if you are not in your truth and integrity, as a conscious man.

Too often as men we have been programmed to fix save and Rescue, but it is a codependent Behavior and in the end there's nothing to fix. The feminine can naturally move through a variety of emotions in a short period of time and a woman who is in touch with her emotions and can express them authentically is a gift . It is your masculine presence, which if if you know yourself and are living your truth, is unwavering. Your presence helps her to trust you and to surrender to your guidance, to open her heart and her body to Love's bliss and to welcome you into that space.

In the end it will always be a dance that we need to learn to embrace and to participate in what is alive, in each moment, this is a practice that will make you unshakable..she will guide you, sometimes fiercely, when you lose your way or if you are not living in your truth and integrity, she will let you know about it. When you're able to meet her where she is, no matter what, she will learn to trust you with all her heart and open herself to you, so that the gifts of the divine feminine flow through her and permeate the space and everyone in it.

In working with men and in my own journey, I have found that we are often behaving like little boys and always wanting to be cared for and nurtured, looking for mommys care, but as adults we need to discover our own path, our own truth and live and breath it in each moment, calm, patient, & present. We become a safe harbor with our maaculine presence.

22/09/2025

Men: Do your womans emotions terrify you? Do you run for cover, ignore her, downplay her feelings or simply remove yourself from the space? Do you think she's over the top or too much?

A woman's emotions are not something to fear or avoid. Perhaps it's something you were taught as a man, which is to fix the problem, but what if there is nothing Wrong. What if you started to embrace her mood swings, not trying to fix her but simply being with her, perhaps pushing your belly into hers, grounding her with your presence and meeting her where she is..she is not broken she is sensitive and her moods will test you beacause she will not trust you if you are not in your truth and integrity, as a conscious man.

Too often as men we have been programmed to fix save and Rescue, but it is a codependent Behavior and in the end there's nothing to fix. The feminine can naturally move through a variety of emotions in a short period of time and a woman who is in touch with her emotions and can express them authentically is a gift . It is your masculine presence, which if if you know yourself and are living your truth, is unwavering. Your presence helps her to trust you and to surrender to your guidance, to open her heart and her body to Love's bliss and to welcome you into that space.

In the end it will always be a dance that we need to learn to embrace and to participate in what is alive, in each moment, this is a practice that will make you unshakable..she will guide you, sometimes fiercely, when you lose your way or if you are not living in your truth and integrity, she will let you know about it. When you're able to meet her where she is, no matter what, she will learn to trust you with all her heart and open herself to you, so that the gifts of the divine feminine flow through her and permeate the space and everyone in it.

I have found that as men we are often behaving like little boys and always wanting to be cared for and nurtured, looking for mommys care, but as adults we need to discover our own path, our own truth and live and breath it in each moment, calm, patient, and present. In this way we bring our masculine presence to the space & become a safe harbor. ❤️