20/10/2021
🍁 Each time we let go of something, we create the space for the new to enter our life. However, it is not an easy process because we cannot escape the feeling of loss and grief by doing so. Grief is the most vulnerable emotional state; thus, many of us avoid feeling it unconsciously. For example, we may cover it up with anger, overexcitement, or numb it by being engaged in overactivity, busy life, etc.
🍁 At this time of the year, seasonal change of autumn to winter, we naturally are more susceptible to the feeling of grief and sadness; by watching the dead leaves falling from the trees, days are becoming shorter with a gradual loss of sunshine and warmth. Ageing can also trigger grief, together with the fear and worry about our and other’s health, which naturally declines as we age. The loss of someone important is probably one of the most painful experiences. It could be due to death or separation, such as breakups of relationships or loss of family members. And such loss can take considerable time and energy to process and heal. But, we cannot force our feelings to heal and move on. Our minds can make us think we can and should, but our emotions and hearts cannot. They have their own pace of processing.
🍁 No matter how much we do not want, we cannot avoid some losses in our life. Most parents will pass before us. Our children will grow and leave home. Some relationships and friendships end. At some point in our life, we may lose what we have gained, such as money and a career. But, at the same time, we will have something that stays with us. And also the new will come into our life one day.
🍁 The cycle in life is unavoidable; we need to go through the beginning and ending at each stage of our life. Each time, we grieve but also rejoice when the new starts. And sometimes, we need to end what we cannot continue or let go of what we no longer have by releasing the attachment. It is sad and painful but necessary as we move forward. However, it can be indeed a beautiful process.
🍁 Only those who complete the process of letting go and grieving (and dormancy of inertia that follows), the new can enter into their life so that they can truly embrace the new beginning. Just like, spring comes after winter (and each season follows in that specific order). Each stage contains the seed for the next and we are transforming eternally. 🙏
