10/05/2026
Having a person by your side who can receive and handle all of yourself- without taking it too personally, who can carry their own emotions, their triggers, is truly a blessing 🕊️
I hear in most relationships how both, or one person, feels anxiety, fear, anger -and start to blame, claim, judge, threat… when the other shares something about their experience that evokes these feelings.
”You want to go study overseas, and leave me here?”
”You dont love me no more- right this moment?”
”You want to do that massage course, and will touch other women (and abandon me perhaps)?”
”You dont want to be with me tonight- coz you dont feel like it?”
Many many needs, or desires, of others - others true experiences that are not aligned with what we want or desire - or evoke fears in us, can makes us become really rude, mad, outraged.
In ’normal’ relationships there none of the persons really have worked with themselves, and learned how to handle strong emotions - or to communicate from the heart and not from a inner wound - will blame, threat, withdraw, attack, maybe even get violent as a defend.
This normally cause great wounds in trust, safety and their bonding 💀
If both in a relationship could find and strenghten their own inner stability in order to be able to receive others experiences and OWNING their own triggers, the painful emotions that arises, without blaming the other for it - a very beautiful freedom, and a more deep-rooted healing and a delightful softening in their bodies, could arise within them 🕊️
”I welcome you exactly as you are.
I welcome your needs and desires, exactly as they are- at the same time I am also free to disagree and having my own needs.
I am ready to let you go at any time, even it would be painful, so that you can be happy and content.”
…are a few approaches that I’ve implemented into my attitude in my relations - that has helped me to feel less ’I need to defense’ and more ease and acceptance. Able to remain soft, available and open.
Because of this I barely ever get to fight or get tensed with others. I deal everything with an open hand, and with ”I can be wrong”-attitude. And makes my relations so more easier 🌿💛