20/10/2025
I have the privilege of journeying with many who struggled with emotional dependency, andI feel their pain of having a damaged, bottomless love tank. I want you to know if you struggle with ED that you are worthy of love and you are so precious.
Growing up and having experienced emotional abuse, or some other kinds of abuse, or even having to grow up with narcissistic parents who never knew who to love you, is no fault of yours. It is not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes when the people who were supposed to love us didn’t love us, it may make us wonder if it is because there is something wrong with us.
It is just sad that your caregivers were limited in their capacity to love or care for you the way you needed to be cared for and loved.
I want to encourage you that it is also possible to heal from emotional dependency. It is possible to heal the traumas you have experienced. It is possible to enjoy relationships you desire in a healthy way.
As you learn to see, hear and take care of your inner child, your inner child who has been so resilient, will heal as they receive love from you, the Adult. Have compassion for your inner child. Don’t blame your child for being needy, having needs is normal but the child needs to look to you to take care of their needs instead of others.
Will you share this message of hope with someone who needs it!
Journeying with you,
Pamela Koh
Founder of ThriveSg