28/07/2025
Codependents usually seek help only when they hit “rock bottom.” This is when their lack of self-love and boundaries begin to take a toil on their emotional, mental or even physical well being. That’s usually when they finally burnout or are completely disillusioned with their relationships, often feeling resentful, taken for granted and unappreciated.
They realised again they are abandoned by those relationships that they have invested so much in. It may usually be at this point, then the codependents will usually realise they need help for their codependent issues.
As you can see, the codependent being made responsible for the needs of others when they were young, usually had no one who considered their needs, so they also learnt to abandoned their own needs.
Learning to draw boundaries would require them to be intentional in asking themselves, what do they really want and what do they really need and to gain more awareness why they do certain things. Is it out of fear or insecurities that they can’t say no? Would the decision lead them to take care of themselves or abandon themselves?
Setting boundaries is self-care, and self-care is the first step to cultivating a healthy self-love! We hope this post is helpful to give some tips for those of us who want to learn how to set boundaries for self-care! Stay tuned for more on Boundaries coming up.
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