OliveTree Psychological Services

20/11/2021

A self-defeating behaviour that is guaranteed to ruin your life.

The tendency to blame others when things go wrong in life is a hallmark of self-sabotage. Blame triggers a dangerous downward spiral that leads to inaction and helplessness that just makes things worse. Blaming others feels good at first. It basically absolves you of any feelings of guilt or responsibility for the things that are going wrong in your life. However, it also reinforces the idea that your life is out of your control and that others can determine how life goes for you. This is disempowering and causes much inner turmoil. Eventually, by giving up on trying to change things, it can lead to even greater problems in your life. Your career goes nowhere, your relationship disintegrates, or your health deteriorates. It can also lead to feelings of anxiety and depression.

No one likes to take responsibility when things go wrong (even you). But are there instances where it can be beneficial for you? Find the answer inside.

17/11/2021

An interesting article.

"Trigger" buttons are such buzzwords these days. Agree with the author that when someone says "I feel triggered," it signifies a strong emotional reaction, usually followed by blame and projection.

A trigger event causes an emotional flashback, where we feel very strong emotions, often uncontrollable. Most of us assume that the trigger was caused by the perpetrator, the person who did whatever occurred that caused our negative feelings. The truth is, each one of us has triggers that originate within ourselves. Other people are not responsible for our trigger responses. The trigger response only belongs to you/us. It resides within you and has something to do with an emotional injury from your past.
The way to eliminate trigger responses altogether is to work on healing the underlying emotional injury within yourself.

Healing can and will occur if you make a concerted effort to change.

Being accountable for your triggers leads to conflict resolution, healing, and transformation that wouldn’t have been possible otherwise.

05/11/2021

Journal on...

For a FREE journal to help you cope with worry: https://thedepressionproject.com/worry-journal-how-to-cope-with-worry

27/08/2021

How do you respond when someone comes out to you as LGBTQ 🏳️‍🌈

23/08/2021

13/08/2021

Mental Health Resource

If the world has felt darker for you lately, you're absolutely not alone.In pandemic-plagued 2020, Singapore saw its su***de rates hit an eight-year high – the Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) reported that 452 lives were lost to su***de last...

08/08/2021

Timely to consider the licensure of counsellors... "Counsellors should be required to attend programmes fully certified by the Singapore Association for Counselling - SAC as training for registered counsellors prior to deployment in schools. School counsellors should also be provided opportunities for professional development and to update their skills as other certified and recognised training programmes continue to be released."

SINGAPORE - Mental health advocates and social service agencies welcome having more school counsellors in Singapore's labour-strapped mental health system.. Read more at straitstimes.com.

03/03/2021

28/02/2021

20/02/2021

It's good to be aware of these lesser-known symptoms not only as a way of recognizing signs of anxiety in yourself, but also as a way of finally understanding why you've been feeling so "off"

When you think about anxiety, you might picture some of the more common symptoms like nervousness, sweatiness, or restlessness. And while those are definitely signs, anxiety can take even more forms, including mental and physical side effects you…

18/02/2021

Facing personal issues such as doxxing, cyberbullying, harassment or contractual matters? LSPBS has just launched its Youth Community & Legal Clinic for 18-35 year olds. Register for a session of free legal advice, subject to meeting our eligibility criteria.

Register at tiny.cc/legalclinic​