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Spring For many people including those who define themselves as suffering with Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD,Sprin...
07/05/2024

Spring

For many people including those who define themselves as suffering with Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD,Spring is a welcome relief. From dark, often gloomy days, to lighter mornings and longer evening……the accompanying change in mood and out look can be extreme.
Many people who have not defined their Winter mood, as SAD, also are aware of a shift in mood and outlook as the weather changes.

I have been talking to many people lately, both those who define themselves as SAD sufferers and those who don’t. The purpose of this short article is to use knowledge gained from others and to add my own ideas, in order to support those who are extremely affected by the Winter months.

FOOD

It can be easy to overeat or even binge eat when suffering from seasonal or any other kind of depression. Using food to change mood can cause problems for those who binge on sugar, junk food, or who drink to much alcohol.
Making a consious effort to buy and cook meals which contain healthy ingredients can make a real difference to mood.
Fish, meat , vegetables and pulses can be used to form the basis of a healthy and ‘feel good’ diet. Cooking a healthy and nutritious evening meal does not need to take up a great deal of time. Include herbs and spices to baked chicken or fish for example, can transform a simple dish into something special.
I am not a particularly proficient cook, so won’t attempt to share recipes….but like most people who are short on time, I can be aware of the health and taste potential of various foods. The sense of achievement gained by preparing and eating a meal which is both delicious and healthy, can be enormous.

LEARNING.

Winter can be a great time to learn a new skill. For those who live near an adult education institute, the potential for this is great.

For those who don’t have access to classes or who prefer not to attend them, learning a language, attempting to develop craft skills ( those that don’t reply on special equipment) can offer enjoyment and a sense of accomplishment.
For me; someone who is doesn’t possess very many practical skills; putting together book shelves and a chest of drawers…..from a pack, was very rewarding.

INDOOR PURSUITS

Reading, renting and watching films starring a favorite actor/actress, listening to music can turn a drab evening or weekend into a satisfying one. Combining these with healthy food can transform a dull day or couples of days.

PEOPLE

Isolation can be a feature of the Winter months. Those whose mood is affected by the cold and darkness, may be reluctant to go out. People have described a sense of ‘wrongness’ being the odd one out when socializing with friends.
Firstly, a preference for ones own company; in Winter or at any other time, is a reasonable choice.
If one has a sense of isolation, particularly, those people who dislike the early darkness and cold of Winter it maybe enjoyable to plan evenings with friends which include serving a meal.
Inviting a friend to participate in learning a new skill can be a good way of transforming a dull Winter evening into an enjoyable one.

The ideas above are tried and tested by many people, including myself, who find Winter hard. Making an effort to make Winter celebrations ( including: Christmas, Halloween, Guy Fawkes, Hanukah etc) can also provide some focus during the Winter months. These do not need to be expensive to celebrate. Inexpensive gifts, a bonfire, homemade Guy and food ( like potatoes) cooked over a bonfire, can provide a sense of occasion.
I know that there are Winter celebrations associated with many different nationalities…..but I have only used examples that I am familiar with.

For those whose Winter depression, is deep, and for whom the ideas above are difficult to even contemplate; may want to consult a doctor, or other practitioner, in order to deal with the dark and cold months. Acupuncture, and Reiki have proved effective for many. Yoga can alter mood as well as fitness. The same can be said for most ‘keep fit’ activities.

A short word about therapy. I have worked with people whose difficulties with Winter stems from childhood. The problems of being part of a family, which did not recognise or enjoy celebrations.
Those with alcoholic or violent parents, or those who were kept isolated from their peers, those whose lives were affected by an acrimonious divorce; often report a difficulty in celebrating.
Therapy can be useful to understand and work through these issues.

I am going to keep this article short as promised. I am available for support, therapy, or any kind of feedback; at chrissy@thelifechangepeople.com

My website is: www.thelifechangepeople.com I should mention that the site is being developed so not everything is up to date.

Thank you for reading…..I would love to hear from you.

Chrissy Richman

Award winning Life Changing Retreats by dedicated professionals who have been working together for more than 20 years. We offer Counselling Retreats, Couples Therapy Retreats, Online Counselling in the UK and Thailand

Spring For many people including those who define themselves as suffering with Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD,Sprin...
07/05/2024

Spring

For many people including those who define themselves as suffering with Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD,Spring is a welcome relief. From dark, often gloomy days, to lighter mornings and longer evening……the accompanying change in mood and out look can be extreme.
Many people who have not defined their Winter mood, as SAD, also are aware of a shift in mood and outlook as the weather changes.

I have been talking to many people lately, both those who define themselves as SAD sufferers and those who don’t. The purpose of this short article is to use knowledge gained from others and to add my own ideas, in order to support those who are extremely affected by the Winter months.

FOOD

It can be easy to overeat or even binge eat when suffering from seasonal or any other kind of depression. Using food to change mood can cause problems for those who binge on sugar, junk food, or who drink to much alcohol.
Making a consious effort to buy and cook meals which contain healthy ingredients can make a real difference to mood.
Fish, meat , vegetables and pulses can be used to form the basis of a healthy and ‘feel good’ diet. Cooking a healthy and nutritious evening meal does not need to take up a great deal of time. Include herbs and spices to baked chicken or fish for example, can transform a simple dish into something special.
I am not a particularly proficient cook, so won’t attempt to share recipes….but like most people who are short on time, I can be aware of the health and taste potential of various foods. The sense of achievement gained by preparing  and eating a meal which is both delicious and healthy, can be enormous.

LEARNING.

Winter can be a great time to learn a new skill. For those who live near an adult education institute, the potential for this is great.

For those who don’t have access to classes or who prefer not to attend them, learning a language, attempting to develop craft skills ( those that don’t reply on special equipment) can offer enjoyment and a sense of accomplishment.
For me; someone who is doesn’t possess very many practical skills; putting together book shelves and a chest of drawers…..from a pack, was very rewarding.

INDOOR PURSUITS

Reading, renting and watching films starring a favorite actor/actress, listening to music can turn a drab evening or weekend into a satisfying one. Combining these with healthy food can transform a dull day or couples of days.

PEOPLE

Isolation can be a feature of the Winter months. Those whose mood is affected by the cold and darkness, may be reluctant to go out. People have described a sense of ‘wrongness’ being the odd one out when socializing with friends.
Firstly, a preference for ones own company; in Winter or at any other time, is a reasonable choice.
If one has a sense of isolation, particularly, those people who dislike the early darkness and cold of Winter it maybe enjoyable to plan evenings with friends which include serving a meal.
Inviting a friend to participate in learning a new skill can be a good way of transforming a dull Winter evening into an enjoyable one.

The ideas above are tried and tested by many people, including myself, who find Winter hard. Making an effort to make Winter celebrations ( including: Christmas, Halloween, Guy Fawkes, Hanukah etc) can also provide some focus during the Winter months. These do not need to be expensive to celebrate. Inexpensive gifts, a bonfire, homemade Guy and food ( like potatoes) cooked over a bonfire, can provide a sense of occasion.
I know that there are Winter celebrations associated with many different nationalities…..but I have only used examples that I am familiar with.

For those whose Winter depression, is deep, and for whom the ideas above are difficult to even contemplate; may want to consult a doctor, or other practitioner, in order to deal with the dark and cold months. Acupuncture, and Reiki have proved effective for many. Yoga can alter mood as well as fitness. The same can be said for most ‘keep fit’ activities.

A short word about therapy. I have worked with people whose difficulties with Winter stems from childhood. The problems of being part of a family, which did not recognise or enjoy celebrations.
Those with alcoholic or violent parents, or those who were kept isolated from their peers, those whose lives were affected by an acrimonious divorce; often report a difficulty in celebrating.
Therapy can be useful to understand and work through these issues.

I am going to keep this article short as promised. I am available for support, therapy, or any kind of feedback; at chrissy@thelifechangepeople.com

My website is: www.thelifechangepeople.com I should mention that the site is being developed so not everything is up to date.

Thank you for reading…..I would love to hear from you.

Chrissy Richman

Award winning Life Changing Retreats by dedicated professionals who have been working together for more than 20 years. We offer Counselling Retreats, Couples Therapy Retreats, Online Counselling in the UK and Thailand

HappinessThis article came about in response to the following questions:Rather than spend anymore time on definitions, I...
11/06/2023

Happiness

This article came about in response to the following questions:

Rather than spend anymore time on definitions, I'm hoping to look at the following questions often discussed in counselling sessions in this article.

1. Why can't I be happy?

This is often asked by people who are in the middle of a relationship breakup or other traumatic event, bereavement for example.

Often the support of a good friend can be helpful, and is sometimes all that is needed.
In a relationship breakdown this maybe more complicated. Friends who have known both partners take sides rather than offer constructive support and suggestions. This may feel superficially good to the favored partner but often doesn't have long term use when deciding how to move forward.
Counselling is a useful possibility at this stage. A counselling professional, such as myself, who specializes in relationship counselling can be useful at this stage.

2. How can I create happiness for myself?
The answer to this can be complicated, often necessitating a change of situation . In the case of divorce or separation of couples living together. Material situations must often be sorted out before dealing with the emotional aftermath of a relationship.

This can often result in disagreements of a practical nature, needing to be sorted out before dealing with the emotional fallout from a relationship. Where finances are involved legal help or using the services of a financial advisor are often essential.

Following this, again often with the help of a counsellor a period of reassessing pleasurable activities can be enormously useful....I have often supported people in looking back, sometimes even to childhood, to activities, which gave them pleasure, perhaps sports, dancing, cycling or any past hobbies. This is often a useful time to try something new. Building self esteem by learning a language, taking part in a sponsored walk or run...…or indeed anything which sounds enjoyable or presents a new challenge, can be an essential step towards recovery in the aftermath of a relationship.
When grieving a loss, professional support is often essential to act as a guide through the stages of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance.

3. What is the difference between happiness and contentment.

Happiness is often an 'active' emotion, characterized by feelings of joy, elation and often pride as a result of an experience or activity.

Contentment on the other hand is a more long lasting state accompanied by a sense of peaceful satisfaction. This may have been previously experienced and have been damaged by a traumatic event, relationship breakdown bereavement.
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18/02/2023

Don’t make ‘unhappy’ your default position. At least 90% of people can make real and lasting life changes with the proper support.

I offer relationship counseling, counseling for anxiety, depression and stress, as well as work on traumatic past issues.
My mission is to help people change their lives.
Please contact: chrissy@thelifechangepeople.com to arrange a complimentary Zoom session to explore your needs.

It is so exciting and I feel very privileged to help people change.
Do get in touch.
I can provide testimonials if you would likex

I an a therapist with many years experience working with people for who food is a problem.Perhaps you don’t take pleasur...
12/02/2023

I an a therapist with many years experience working with people for who food is a problem.

Perhaps you don’t take pleasure in eating at all.
Perhaps you see certain food as threatening?
Do you restrict or binge on food that you are uncomfortable with?
Do you hide eating or hide not eating.
Do you have feelings about food which include guilt, stress, revulsion.
I have worked with people who have uncomfortable relationships with food for many years and would like to hear from you. I am happy to offer a complimentary Zoom session to discuss your needs with no obligation to continue..
Contact me at +447931558577 or chrissy@thelifechangepeople.com

I can also offer support with relationships, anxiety, stress, depression, childhood issues, problems with childre.

Award winning Life Changing Retreats by dedicated professionals who have been working together for more than 20 years. We offer Counselling Retreats, Couples Therapy Retreats, Online Counselling in the UK and Thailand

Life Change People offer a complete range of online counselling services, so you can resolve whatever problems life is t...
22/09/2022

Life Change People offer a complete range of online counselling services, so you can resolve whatever problems life is throwing at you from anywhere in the world.
We have been delivering Online Counselling and Coaching for the past 15 years.

Our online counselling services include:

• Online Relationship Counselling
• Online Individual Counselling and Coaching
• Online Counselling for Anxiety and Depression
• Online Counselling for Teenagers and Children
• Online Counselling for Addiction
• Online Counselling for Loneliness
Since we launched our unique Life Change Counselling Programmes in London in 2005, we have helped thousands of people change their lives and improve their relationships. We are pleased to offer these same unique counselling and life coaching programmes online.

We can be completely flexible and build your online counselling service and subsequent online coaching programme around you..

We help you make changes fast. Wherever you are based in the world.

You will work with your own dedicated and highly experienced counsellor from our full time counselling team who will take you through the complete programme.

Each programme includes:

Complimentary Trial Session
Each programme starts with a free, no obligation trial session for you to use however you wish.

Assessment
Each programme has an online assessment which you can access anywhere in the world and work through at your own pace. This will provide you with invaluable information about you and the problems you are facing and also help with goal-setting.

Clinical Personality Profile
As part of the assessment you will have your own clinical personality profile which will provide you with detailed information about your personality, self esteem, confidence, susceptibility to lifestyle problems, personality traits and much more. We believe this is essential to really understanding you and being able to really help you.

Counselling and Coaching Programme
Each online counselling programme is built around you and your needs. You work at your own pace with your own counsellor and can organise your own timetable. We draw upon Motivational Therapy which is specifically designed to produce rapid changes, but also use proven elements of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Everything we do is evidence based. If it hasn’t been proved to work, we don’t use it. You can read more about the programme at About.

Change Plan
By the time your programme comes to an end you’ll have successfully drawn up a Change Plan which details what you will be changing and how. This will be your map for future success which we will help you establish.

Follow On Support Counselling
Although your programme will last 16 or 20 hours you will have unlimited access to your counselor.We don’t abandon you after your programme has finished. We’re there for as long as you need us.

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chrissy@thelifechangepeople.com

Award winning Life Changing Retreats by dedicated professionals who have been working together for more than 20 years. We offer Counselling Retreats, Couples Therapy Retreats, Online Counselling in the UK and Thailand

Here are 10 little life changing ideas that will make a big difference for the year ahead.For all of us, the past year h...
09/09/2022

Here are 10 little life changing ideas that will make a big difference for the year ahead.

For all of us, the past year has been filled with so much pain and heart ache that many of us have re-evaluated our lives and are ready to make some big (or small) changes.

So here are 10 new day to day life changing ideas which will help to change your life, no matter who or where you are.

Have fun!

10 Quick and Easy Life Changing Ideas
News Unplugged

Have you noticed the news has changed?

In the hopelessly misguided belief that we are all getting more stupid and suffering with increasingly short attention spans, news media is steadily but surely becoming more sensationalist and unnerving. Rather than drowning in endlessly sensationalised hysteria, listen to the headlines, understand what’s going on in the world, and then turn it off and move on. Don’t allow yourself to be sucked into the weird 24 hour world of new style news.

With the imminent arrival of another Fox News style channel lined up to hit us some time soon, things will only get more deranged, biased and unsettling.

Turning off the news is just the first of many small but important life changing ideas that will have an immediate and positive impact.

Nightwalking

One of my current favourite life changing ideas is Nightwalking.

Before the arrival of social distancing and the dreadful pandemic, nightwalking was the preserve of bat enthusiasts, owl spotters and weirdos. But now, nightwalking has become a real thing and everyone is doing it and realising the joys of being out at night and simply walking around enjoying the night air.

Walking at night is quite different from walking during the daylight hours. The darkness adds a different dimension to everything, you’re out when most people are inside sitting comfortably around the telly. The sounds are different, the temperature is colder and things often seem more still.

Venturing outside at night, on a regular basis, will change your life, and who knows, you could even develop an interest in bats, or owls or on the other hand you could simply become a weirdo.

Food For Thought

Lige Changing Ideas
Life Changing Ideas from The Life Change People
The French gastronaught, politician, writer and all round odd bod, Jean Brillat Savarin wrote the immortal words, “show me what he eats and I will show you the man.”

There is undeniably truth in this simple idea. We are what we eat, and changing the food which we eat will affect how we feel, and according to Mr Savarin, who we actually are.

I’m not going to blather on about eating more broccoli and less doughnuts, as many other life changing ideas articles have already done, but just flag up that one of the quickest ways to start to feeling better and to change your life is to change what you eat, and the best way to start this process is to keep a food diary.

A good way to start your food diary is to keep it simple. Just record, on a daily basis, what you are eating and I’m sure you will be able to work it out from there.

After a few days read your diary back and ask yourself if you are filling up on any old junk, or actually taking some pride in what you eat and consequently who you are? It’s a big question which also relates to our self esteem and the way we think about ourselves. Eating rubbish makes us feel rubbish, so let’s stop treating our bodies like dustbins. It’s as simple as that.

Declutter From Social Media

Unplug yourself from the relentless backdrop of social media and start to de-clutter your brain.

Facebook and social media are all okay in their place. The problem is that we haven’t yet quite worked out what that place is.
I’m no social media expert but I’m fairly sure that having our lives revolve around an endless barrage of inconsequential junk is not the right way to be going.

Sherlock Holmes famously referred to his “mind palace” where he stores all the essential information which he needs to solve every criminal case on the planet. We seem to be doing the opposite by using our mind like a massive spare room to fill up with any old junk.
Improve your life by unplugging from social media for at least a major potion of your day.

Wake Up Run Out

I hate running and jogging and all that self conscious fitness malarkey, but I can’t deny the instant benefit of getting your heart pounding at least once every day, especially early in the morning before the day has begun.

The trick is to do it regularly, ideally everyday, or at least a few times a week. The good news is that you don’t have to do it for long. Run for as long as you can, until your heart is pumping away like a diesel train piston, and then go home and have a nice cup of tea.

If you wake up early, and quickly, you can be out pounding through the streets before you’re properly awake and know what’s going on. After a little while it becomes a comfortable part of the morning and need only take up 10 or 15 minutes.

As well as feeling stronger and more healthy you can also gloat over your new regime and let everyone know in a smug, self satisfied, “I’m better than you” kind of way. This will improve your self esteem no end.

So in one massive double whammy of change you can get fit and increase self esteem. Where do I sign up. Get that alarm clock at the ready.

Cut Loose

One of the best, and immediate life changing ideas is to cut loose people who get you down and hold you back. It will make the world of difference to you. Free yourself now from the shackles of all the negative friendships and relationships which you have built up over a life time. You are not obliged to be friends with anyone, so look at your life, make a list of people who make you feel down and cut them loose.
Life changes, and so do people, and sometimes it’s important to re-evaluate your friendships, to move on and not to be afraid to change friendship groups. It’s not a crime, and will make you feel fresher and freer.

Coping With Anxiety

Perhaps, unsurprisingly ,anxiety is one of the most common problems in the modern world.

More people seek help from their local doctor for anxiety and depression than all the other mental health problems put together. So what’s the answer?

One of the best ways to reduce anxiety is to keep a Worry Diary. It’s simple but effective, and forms a main element of many therapies designed to reduce depression and anxiety.

A Worry Diary works like this:

During the day we will experience all kinds of worries and anxieties and rather than spend time and energy worrying about them as we go along, write them down and review them later on, usually around 5pm or 6pm, or the end of the working day. The idea is that by writing them down and storing them away, we are able to carry on with our day, and when we return to them later, often they have diminished in intensity, and because we have given ourselves a little space, we can think a little more clearly about them, rather than panicking and adding to the anxiety.

Many people keep Worry Diaries. It’s a surprisingly common and affective way to cope with anxiety. A simple little life change idea, but it works.

These are useful sites for coping with anxiety:

https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/free-therapy-or-counselling/

The Power of the Natural World

Life Changing Ideas by The Life Change People
The power of the natural world can help to change your life
There is overwhelming evidence that being near the sea or countryside is beneficial for our general wellbeing. Somehow the gentle lapping of the ozone waves and the gentle breeze through the trees soothes our frayed and tattered nerves. I always think that just thinking about it makes you feel slightly better.

Wherever you live and whatever you do, try to engineer time, as much as you can spare, either by the sea or in the countryside.
If the roaring ocean or the wide rolling countryside is not on your back doorstep seek out the nearest park, garden or common. Anywhere that offers a little relief from the hurly burly of post industrial modern life.

Life Changing Ideas in a Book

Books do change peoples lives. How often have you heard someone talking enthusiastically about a book they have read? It happens fairly often, and always reminds me of the power of reading. When I think back, I can, with hand on heart, recall a number of books that have changed my life.

Reading great books is one of many simple life changing ideas which is accessible to all of us. The books that come to mind as I write this are, in no particular order:

The Old Man and The Sea (Which we read at school and subsequently knocked my socks off.)
Great Expectations (Which we also read at school, and I have re-read several times since)
Arial by Sylvia Plath (the most important poetry book ever)
Sense of an Ending (Julian Barnes masterpiece)
Jude The Obscure (The opening section must be the most profound of any book)

I should stop there as I feel I could go on for some time.

Reading exposes us to new ideas, foreign lands and different ways of thinking of things. It also teaches empathy which in turn increases emotional intelligence, which in turn will make you a better person which in turn will change your life. There is a reason why English, along with Maths continues to dominate school curriculums the world over.

So, if you do nothing else from this list of little life changing ideas, make sure you read a great book.

Fast and Furious: Don’t Eat Breakfast

Another one of many great life changing ideas is to fast at least once a week. There is now a massive body of evidence to suggest that not eating for at least a full 16 hour period is extremely beneficial and linked to all kinds of wonderful life changing benefits, such as longevity and weight loss.

Many people from many different cultures consciously fast on a regular basis, but increasingly, fasting is becoming popular purely for health benefits.

There is also a well established diet which revolves around not eating from 8pm through to 12 midday the following day, even avoiding milk in tea or anything with any calorific value. A friend of mine did this for 2 weeks every day and ate and drank whatever he liked during the time he wasn’t fasting and and miraculously managed to lose a significant amount of weight. Give it a try and see what you think.

So, one day a week don’t eat after 8 in the evening and nothing before midday the following day and see how you feel. Basically, don’t eat breakfast.

If it doesn’t feel good don’t do it, but if it makes you feel better and improves your life and helps you lose weight and stay healthy build it into your new years life changing regime.

If you feel you need more help to make the changes in your life you want to make do get in touch with us or have a look at our online counselling programmes:

How to access free psychological therapies (talking therapies) like cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), counselling and guided self-help on the NHS.

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As an experienced counselling team, we have been using online counselling as a way to work with our clients since 2006, so we were very prepared when lockdown hit. Read our article below for more information about this 'new' way of supporting you during difficult and emotional times.

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