Психология слова, Лермонтова 19 (2026)

25/06/2022

Why is it boring when life is full of opportunities to enjoy it and you can do it? Fulfillment of cherished desires, achievement of set goals do not cause the expected delight. Or only temporarily dilute the fresh and suffocating background in which days and years pass.

Obviously something is missing, something very important. And even if you are very smart, and you have everything, and anyone else would feel completely different. Maybe ask the searcher: "Why boring life?" And, without finding the answer, forget about meaningless internet surfing…

And the answer is yes. Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology knows well why people get bored and what kind of people they are.

Create a dream diary
Why not start keeping a dream diary and write down at least one dream every day? When you dream, you imagine the desired reality and feel positive feelings and emotions. Psychologists say that dreaming is a direct connection with your desires and passions. I am sure that everyone, especially big dreamers, sees a huge number of dreams and easily forget about them. I suggest taking a piece of paper and writing down your dreams. Later, you will have a list of dreams and desires to know what you want and how to achieve these goals and cherished ideas.

Boring to live: why and who has this condition
Each of us has his own ways, his own desires that lead us through them. Often these desires remain unconscious, and we go blind, confused, stumbling, disappointed. Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology distinguishes people by their unconscious desires and properties, dividing desires into eight groups - vectors. The question "Why is it boring to live?" most often occurs in people with a sound vector.

The lives of such people should not be filled with bread alone. What do physicists and mathematicians who want to find the Higgs boson or prove a new hypothesis want? What are the goals of writers and psychiatrists who seek answers to eternal questions? It is they, realized people with a sound vector. They are definitely not bored.

Do something new every day
In order to get off track, you have to do something new. This will help you shift your mindset and become more confident. Many people suffer from the fear of doing something unusual and deviating from the established order. If you visit a new grocery store or go to work by bus instead of the subway, you will be able to experience new emotions and get a new and interesting experience. Start a variety of hobbies and leisure. This will make you an even more interesting and versatile person. Plus, you will have the opportunity to make new friends and make new and pleasant acquaintances.

Causes of apathy and recommendations of psychologists
As a rule, one of the four causes of life fatigue. In rare cases - all together. They are as follows:

Stress. Is the most common source of this negative feeling. Getting into a stressful situation, a person usually feels depressed and helpless, as if he is being stretched in different directions. In such cases, psychologists advise to try to get rid of the source of experiences and make a difference in life.
"Black Stripe". Sometimes in life there are moments when one misfortune comes after another. Then it begins to seem that no methods work, no matter how hard you try. This can contribute to a loss of hope for improvement. Because of this there is a feeling of fatigue from being. According to experts, such moments just need to be endured, endured. If possible, you should try to solve problems and please yourself with something.
I'm tired of everything
Unfulfilled hopes and expectations. Probably everyone wants to become someone, do something or get something. Then comes the realization that it is impossible to achieve your goal and everything is not as in dreams. For example, you can't start your own business, you don't like your current job, you're tired of family life. If something does not suit you, psychologists recommend starting to change it or adjust your view of these things.
Depression. This condition usually occurs due to excessive experience. For example, divorce, sudden loss of job, death of a loved one, domestic violence, serious illness. Usually you can not cope with depression on their own, so at the first signs it is necessary to immediately consult a competent specialist.
Once the cause is established, it is necessary to begin with its elimination. This can help the advice of psychologists and life advice of ordinary people. This will be discussed below.

A difficult conversation has to take place
If you suffer from something and you can't find the time to confront the problem and deal with the situation, you will be bored, exhausted, and lazy for an eternity. No matter how awkward it may seem, but you have to screw up your courage to have an unpleasant conversation and stand your ground. Hidden negative emotions are like a cancerous tumor that kills you slowly from within. Make it a habit to find an opportunity to say everything you don't like. This approach will help you maintain and improve your mental and physical well-being.

How to get rid of boredom in life?
When it became boring to live,

23/06/2022

Personal communication with a loved one
If you have offended your spouse, relative or close friend in any way, it is better to give them the opportunity to "cool down" so that the future conversation went smoothly on both sides.

Be sure to be prepared to have an open conversation with anyone. Personal communication is more fruitful and friendly during the joint work.

Hiding "half", usually trying to avoid conversation, turn everything into a joke or, having different views on life, does not understand the essence of the issue.

Try to seriously but friendly explain that the future of your couple depends on this conversation. To be clear, ask clear and concise questions that cannot be interpreted otherwise.

communication
A closed person in the group is mostly kept away and prefers to remain silent. His contacts are usually limited to a small circle of friends and relatives. Such people are reluctant to talk about themselves, and you can often hear that information from them literally have to "pull out with ticks."

Not surprisingly, schizophrenics have difficulty communicating. Secrecy is explained by the reluctance to share their own experiences. Introverts do not feel the need for contact with the outside world, because they are quite comfortable alone with themselves. As one poet put it, they seek to "wrap themselves in the silk of their souls." On the other hand, communication is really a special difficulty for them, because schizophrenics in the process of communication feel their inconvenience and incompetence.

Kretschmer cited another vivid metaphor, where he compared a closed individual with an infusoria, carefully approaching an unfamiliar object and watching him because of the half-dropped lashes, hesitantly pushing out the tentacles, and then immediately pull them away.

character traits

Despite the natural desire to be isolated, a shy person sometimes suffers from a lack of communication. This is especially common in children and adolescents.

In what cases is it normal to be unfriendly?
► If a person (mentally healthy) is by nature an introvert and does not suffer because of his level of sociability, then this is not a problem. In that case, if he finds a job to his heart's content, enjoys life, does not cause difficulties to others and gets along with himself, then we can say that he is just like that - and he has the right to be like that.

► If a person's desire for solitude does not interfere with his social interaction - that is, if a person adapts normally in society: able to easily talk to others, make friends (yes, unfriendly also sometimes need friends and they themselves can be good friends), without fear of going to shop and work, etc., it is not necessary to call unsociability insufficient development of communication skills.

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Rules in communication
Silent people often keep a source of valuable information and are very interesting interlocutors. The main thing is to choose the right approach in communication and create conditions for them in which they will feel comfortable and get in touch.

To do this, you need to understand what caused the silence. If a person simply does not have the mood today, then, most likely, it is better not to touch him. And if it is a certain composition of character or different types of complexes that originate from childhood, it is necessary

23/06/2022

All people build walls with others, avoiding proximity. Some with colleagues, some with passers-by, some with close relatives. But some go further, and wall themselves up like a "bloody countess." Communicating with them brings only pain and internal exhaustion.

It's easy to find out: he gets in touch when he's comfortable, forgets promises, doesn't care about the details of your life, doesn't talk about himself. On the one hand, which does not concern him personally, he is active and emotional, on the other - the absolute disregard of any talk about feelings, experiences, no matter whose.

They build careers, they are sociable and open, motivated and confident in the future. But their inner world is closed, conversations about feelings irritate and irritate, give them a reason to close. And this is not a disease - this is a conscious choice. Permanent or temporary.

appearance features
A closed person in most cases is thinner than fullness, density. His face is elongated, the head is often ovoid, the nose is straight, the profile is "angular" (observed due to some shortening of the chin). The relationship between an elongated face, a slender figure and introversion is quite high. However, such a combination does not always indicate secrecy. Obese people also belong to the category of schizoids, but much less often.

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reasons for silence
There are many reasons why a person is silent, as mentioned above. As a rule, the most common of them - a certain character. Most often, people with a phlegmatic type of temperament are calm, measured, thoughtful and, as a consequence, silent.

Silent people: reasons, features of personality psychology

Also, the reasons for this behavior can be much deeper. For example, many complexes that are formed from childhood through certain psychological traumas or improper behavior of parents or the environment, create in a person shyness, insecurity and fear of communicating with others. Such people later suffer from loneliness and experience many problems in interaction with society. To overcome this factor, which significantly worsens the psychological state of man and in some way affects the quality of his life, it is necessary to seek the help of a psychologist.

Other people
Difficulties arise when these people decide to enter into a relationship, and it doesn't matter if they are friendly or in love. Global isolation is difficult for a partner to tolerate, predisposes to depression, gives a feeling of loneliness, uselessness, frequent use.

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An emotionally closed partner can claim love, but in no way show emotion, living by their rules. Most often, the relationship ends with the patience of the partner, and our hero is left alone again.

So still, who is he?
An emotionally closed person is struck by fear, with a strong cold inside, distrustful and lonely. Any manifestation of feelings causes fear of retribution for happiness. He sincerely does not believe that he can be loved just like that. It is more important for him to control everything, otherwise it is just scary.

He feels lonely, often not knowing what to do with it. After all, if you let someone into your life, you have to take a risk and get out of your comfort zone. This is how you and others are devalued.

A relationship with him is possible if you do not expect that they will melt and begin to feel. You need to understand well that you have to sacrifice warmth, and not try to change the person. It is necessary to accept him as he is, otherwise all your attempts are doomed to failure.

Basic values, interests
The inner world is the main wealth of introverts. Features of character of schizoids are such that they are constantly immersed in themselves. The opposite is hyperthymia, open to everything that happens around them. Closed people value their inner world very much, and they often do not care about the outside world, because it seems more rude and primitive than their own fantasies, dreams, thoughts.

Prominent German psychologist and physician Kretschmer compared introverts to Roman villas, whose facades are very simple, the windows are closed, and inside are rich banquets. Thanks to this colorful metaphor, he emphasized that the difference between the dim appearance of the representatives of this character and their inner world is extremely large. In contrast to hyperthymia, an unfriendly man is characterized by restraint and secrecy. According to him, we can say what "feasts" take place in his soul.

isolation
It is also important not to confuse concepts such as silence and isolation. Closedness can be called a state of man, when due to serious psychological reasons, problems with self-esteem, a person refuses to interact with society. These are slightly different, more serious problems with self-awareness, self-esteem and psychological state.

Silent people: reasons, features of personality psychology

At the same time, a simply uncommunicative person can have only mild complexes about himself, shyness or a certain type of temperament that does not

20/06/2022

Which emotions during the war are normal and which are not?

Any psychotraumatic event causes stress. The person begins to adapt to new conditions and in about a month gets used. Adaptation is normal for anyone. If there is maladaptation, ie a person can not accept the situation, he needs qualified psychiatric care.

"Any emotions are normal"
In a state of severe stress, any emotions are normal, their absence is unusual. The main thing is to learn to direct emotions, because sometimes there is too much anger that a person wants to kill the enemy. However, instead of taking up arms and going to war, she begins to get angry and annoy the people around her. It doesn't help.

Read also: Work. Cats. Volunteering. How Ukrainians overcome stress during the war
Sometimes there is an emotional aggravation. For example, a person may be in constant fear. There are people who consciously do not want to leave their home to a safe place and complain that they are very scared. They do not want to go to safety, realizing that it will be uncomfortable. That is, they are comfortable, but dangerous, and need to change to "safe and uncomfortable." It is very important that civilians consciously move to safety. It is inefficient to sit heroically in Kyiv with a constant feeling of fear. When a person is scared, instead of the part of the brain that is involved in critical thinking, the limbic system is responsible for emotions. If a person forces himself to move to a safe place, he will be able to reconnect the rational brain and be more efficient.

There is a lot of talk now about emotional fluctuations. How to earn in this case? Is it possible to somehow support yourself when you fall into the "emotional pit"?

Emotional swings are a common thing. Emotions should change each other - this is normal. A person cannot be constantly happy or sad. During the war, mood swings intensify: a person is no longer happy - she has euphoria, she is not sad - she accepts the news with horror. However, this is also normal. It is important to banish all these emotions: you want to cry - cry, you want to grieve - grieve. Emotions will consistently change each other, they are important to live and let go to stay in the resource.

Read also: Sleep and war: how to sleep enough in active hostilities
Is there a red line that will allow a person to understand that it is worth asking for help?

The norm is when a person feels emotion and releases it. For example, when she is happy, she laughs, rejoices and retains functionality, that is, can do simple things. If a person has uncontrolled laughter or tears for half a day and can't do anything, that's the red line. That is, functionality is the litmus test that shows whether a person can cope on their own, or whether to seek help.

Is it possible to help yourself in a state of stress until you cross the "red line"?

To do this, a person needs to move to a state of "here and now", because the brain is trying to capture a lot of information. For example, a man is sitting in a bomb shelter and imagining a Chechen battalion going to kill him. In fact, this is not the case, but the brain creates similar images, increasing the level of stress. To prevent this from happening, it is necessary to try to be in a state of "here and now". See where you are, when you are, what is going on around you, describe five objects, touch something. It is important to tactilely feel where you are and realize what you can do to improve the situation.

Read also: "They do not have enough centuries to wash away crimes" - Vereshchuk on war, evacuation and prisoners
Then move on. First, ask, "How can I improve myself?" Drink water, go exercise, exercise, go to a safer place and connect with people. There are now many evacuation services and psychological help contacts online. The main thing is to act, not wait.

War is a loss. Is it possible to somehow prepare yourself for them?

There are two postulates: the first - we accept that life will not be the same as before. Second - then life will only get better. The best for the peak moment in a past life. Even if you have lost someone close to you, you will be able to rebuild your life so that all the losses are not in vain. There is nothing wrong with not being the same as before. Let's be honest: not everyone was happy before the war. Still, there were people who had toxic exes, abusive partners, not very interesting jobs. Some had untidy housing and ate from ugly dishes. We will make ourselves new beautiful utensils, build a house, after all, a house is not an address, a house is something that a person creates on his own. For example, our military has very cozy dugouts with beautiful shelves, although the dugout is just a hole in the ground and wooden floors.

After the war, life will be better. The main thing is not to whine, not to whine and not to sow betrayal. The only one who can prevent you from living better is yourself, when you consciously give up a happy life. Ukrainians love to suffer, but let's consciously rejoice. The Russians will definitely not survive this.

And let's change the rhetoric: we were not attacked, they entered our territory

20/06/2022

American psychologists have named several ways to fall asleep quickly when disturbed by anxious thoughts. It is especially worth calming down 10 minutes before bedtime.

"People often complain that they are physically tired but can't fall asleep because of feelings and obsessions. There are several techniques that help you cope with anxiety and fall asleep soundly. From changing uncomfortable clothes or listening to quiet music," says James Findley, American. psychologist, a specialist in sleep problems, according to Health.

1. Make a to-do list. If you are worried about anxious, negative thoughts before going to bed, turn them into positive ones. Make a list of useful things for the next day, it can be a pleasant trip or good deeds. Writing down tasks helps clear your mind and tune in to a productive new day.

2. Get out of bed. If you have been fidgeting in bed for a long time and can't sleep, it's best to get up and focus on something else. Psychologists say that frequent prolonged attempts to fall asleep train the brain in such a way that it begins to associate the bed in your bedroom with insomnia. If you can't sleep for 20-30 minutes, get up and read or listen to calm music.

3. Read the book. It should be a paper book, because gadget screens can disturb sleep even more. When you are distracted by what worries you, you fall asleep faster. The main thing is not to choose too interesting a book, which will also be difficult to break away from.

4. Listen to the audiobook. An audiobook works just like a book, distracting from heavy thoughts and soothing. After listening, you can fall asleep peacefully.

5. Turn on soothing sounds. You can create for yourself a sound environment conducive to sleep. Some people are soothed by the noise of the ocean, others - the singing of birds or the sounds of the evening forest.

6. Focus on your breathing. Deep and slow breathing can slow the heart rate and relieve nervous tension.

7. Meditate. Meditation allows you to find mental balance and calm down. You can meditate not only just before bedtime, but also during the day. If you don't know how to meditate better, you can use special YouTube apps or videos that detail meditation techniques.

8. Download the sleep app. In today's world, there are useful smartphone applications that help you fall asleep faster. Such applications contain specially selected sounds and noises that help the brain to relax and fall asleep.

9. Taste light food. A light carbohydrate snack will help you fall asleep. These can be bread or popcorn, fruit or fresh fruit.

If no species helps to fall asleep, you should see a doctor. Sleep disturbances can be a sign of a more serious illness.

14/06/2022

If there is something with which a person alternately identifies ("I am a young man" or "I am an official"), then there must be (it seems) and something the same, which is manifested in one way or another. Or someone who identifies with something.

If we wear a mask on our face, there is still a certain person behind the mask. If we even put one or the other dress on the mannequin, then we have at least a stable mannequin behind this masquerade.

But at least a relatively stable point or at least a place that becomes one or another role - is the inner self of the individual.

The most common ideas that are our inner self, this I, are:

this is our body
these are our desires, feelings and emotions
this is our mind (option - self-awareness)
it is the core of our personality, the source of inner activity and self-development of the individual

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Ad hoc: 1. A solution intended for a specific task and not intended for any generalization. 2. jur. Rules governing the activities of temporary working groups set up to carry out special tasks. 3. international law - the establishment of one-time contacts between the parties who categorically do not want to recognize each other. 4. philosophy. A. x. hypothesis - an assumption that does not agree with the theory and is not systematically related to prior knowledge of it, but is accepted specifically to describe or explain a particular phenomenon.

Azeotropic mixture: a homogeneous mixture of liquids, which during distillation is not divided into fractions.

Allegorical: figuratively expressed.

Allegory: 1. Allegory. 2. Incarnation in a specific artistic image of an abstract concept.

Allergies: 1. Hypersensitivity of animals and humans to the effects of allergens. Manifested in the form of anaphylaxis, idiosyncrasy, serum sickness and more. 2. transfer. Categorical rejection of something, disgust.

Allopathy: An obsolete name used by homeopaths for a conventional, non-homeopathic treatment system.

Amnesty: 1. Full or partial release from punishment and its legal consequences and mitigation of punishment of a certain category of persons convicted by a court, observance and termination of the initiated criminal prosecution, as well as removal of a conviction from persons who have served a sentence or released from punishment. 2. transfer. forgiveness, pardon in general.

Amoralism: an ethical principle that justifies selfishness, individualism; negative attitude, denial, to universal moral values.

Archegonia: a group of plants in which the female ge***alia are archegonia.

Archegonia: female ge***al organ of moss-like, fern-like and gymnosperm plants.

10/06/2022

Dictionary of psychological terms
Adaptation (from Latin adaptatio - adaptation) - the process and result of effective interaction of the individual with the environment, which establishes a correspondence between the general level of current needs of the individual and the current (future) level of satisfaction of these needs, which determines the continuous development of personality.

Affect - a short-term, violent human experience (anger, rage, horror, despair, sudden joy), which occurs, as a rule, in response to a strong stimulus. In the state of astronomy, a person's ability to comprehend the meaning of his actions and to control them decreases.

Despair is a mental state of despair, hopelessness, despair of one's abilities, loss of positive hopes for the present and the future.

Sensation is a mental process that involves the brain's reflection of certain properties and qualities of objects and phenomena of the objective world, as well as the state of the body under the direct influence of stimuli on the relevant senses.

"It" in Freud's theory is the unconscious part of the psyche, which contains biological innate instincts, urges (sexual, aggressive).

Anger is a mental state of a person, the physiological mechanism of which is the dominance of excitation processes in the cerebral cortex caused by certain negative stimuli. Mentally, genius is manifested during negative emotional states and is accompanied by a weakening of volitional and mental control over consciousness and behavior.

Depression is a decrease in mental activity caused by fatigue or negative psychogenic effects. Signs of depression are despair, passivity of behavior, increased anxiety, a sharp decrease in self-esteem, blocking life prospects.

Euphoria is a psychological state of high spirits that is not justified by reality, objective reasons. E. is also called the state of uncritical pleasure (causeless joy, carefreeness, excessive cheerfulness).

Extraversion (from the Latin extra - outward, versio - direct) - orientation, due to the organization of nervous processes, feelings, experiences and interests of the individual to the outside world. People who are characterized by extroversion are called extroverts.

Emotions are a special class of mental processes related to needs and motives, which reflect in the form of direct sensory experiences the importance of human phenomena and situations.

Empathy - understanding the emotional states of another person; mental process that allows to understand the experience of another person (mechanism of cognition); the action of the individual, which helps him to build a special way of communication (special kind of attention to another person); ability property, the ability to pe*****te into the mental state of another person (human characteristics, ie empathy).

Enthusiasm - a mental state of great elation, mental impulse.

The placebo effect is a change in the physiological or mental state of the subject after taking a placebo-neutral substance (pill) intended as a potent drug.

General psychology - studies thorough psychological laws, formulates theoretical principles and principles of psychological science, its conceptual and categorical apparatus, systematizes and summarizes the empirical material of psychological research.

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