12/12/2024
When you know what you need, you create it.
Yes, the exhausted, sleep deprived caregiver goes and creates what she needs.
Because there is no other option.
I am a caregiver.
And in this journey I have met so many people.
People who constantly remind me to find my village.
A village with people who are like minded.
A village with people who live a similar life to ours.
I don't think I ever truly found my village.
I am a caregiver.
And in this journey I have met so many people.
People who constantly remind me to find my tribe.
A tribe with people who I can connect with.
A tribe with people who understand this life instead of judging this life.
I don't think I ever truly found my tribe.
Something to think about and maybe this only applies to me.
I am a caregiver and for this entire journey thus far I have known what I needed.
Knowing what I need was the easy part.
Obtaining what I needed was not so easy.
Until more recently in my journey of being a caregiver.
When you know what you need, you create it.
Yes, you go and create the village, the tribe, the community of all the people that will sit with you in the storm.
A few years back I was part of creating a special needs moms weekend retreat.
During the retreat everyone laughed, cried & found comfort in knowing they were not alone on this journey.
Someone asked me the other day “ Did I end up finding my village yet ?”
Truth is I didn't find my village nor did I find my tribe.
But this is something maybe no one knew.
I don't want a village.
I don't want a tribe.
I want a whole damn community.
And in this life I am a caregiver who deserves that.
I will never create a village.
I will never create a tribe.
But a community.
That is the one thing I know I need.
A community is what will get you through the best days, worst days & all the days in between.
I ended up creating a community of caregivers & it will never get better than that.
# # Journey of a special needs parent