04/11/2026
No one really talks about this part.
The part where you miss them.
You miss the way they could make you laugh.
The way they knew your coffee order.
The moments where things felt safe, easy… even good.
And then that thought creeps in—
“If I miss them this much… was it really that bad?”
Yes. It was.
And two things can be true at the same time.
You can miss the good parts of someone
and still recognize that relationship as a whole was not healthy for you.
Missing them doesn’t mean you made the wrong decision.
It means you’re human. It means you loved. It means your heart is trying to make sense of something that hurt.
Healing isn’t just about letting go of the pain—
it’s also grieving the version of them you wish was real all the time.
So if you feel the urge to reach out… pause.
Not because your feelings are wrong,
but because your healing deserves more than a moment of loneliness.
You’re not going backwards.
You’re just in the middle of unlearning what hurt you
and relearning what you deserve.
Keep choosing yourself. Even when it’s hard. 🤍