08/18/2025
Women will swear they donât want s*x to be transactional, yet quietly hand over their bodies in exchange for the hope of being seen, wanted, and heard. The cruel twist is that many do this while lying next to a man who continually make them feel invisible, unwanted, and unheard. That contradiction isnât randomâitâs born out of deep, unhealed trauma. When you grow up starved of love, you learn to trade yourself for scraps of attention. You confuse being chosen for being valued. And you call that sacrifice love, when itâs really abandonment of yourself.
The problem is men see this wound and take advantage of it. They know youâre desperate to feel wanted, so they dangle affection like a carrot and demand your intimacy as payment. You end up negotiating your worth through your body, thinking if you give enough, heâll finally love you the way you need. But men who operate like this arenât looking to loveâtheyâre looking to consume. And every time you comply, you teach him youâll settle for less, while teaching yourself youâre not worth more.
The way out isnât found in proving your worth to himâitâs in breaking the pattern within yourself. Healing means facing the trauma that conditioned you to believe intimacy is the only currency you have. Itâs reclaiming your voice, your body, your right to be wanted without earning it. Because true connection canât be bought, traded, or bargained forâit has to be given freely, from someone who sees your worth without you having to beg for it. Until then, youâll stay locked in the same cycle, mistaking bargaining for love.
