04/13/2024
I love these words from our friends at Pecan Creek Ranch:
“Rest is a privilege of those who can access felt safety.
While we need good rest to function well, the ability to rest well isn’t guaranteed.
To be able to rest well, for your nervous system to shift into a state of rest, you must be able to feel safe physically, emotionally, socially, psychologically, and spiritually.
Felt safety is NOT the same as physical safety. They don’t always go hand-in-hand. In fact, for some people, they have never even been in the same room together.
You can objectively know you are safe, and still not feel safe. You can have all your needs met, in a comfortable environment free of threats to your physical wellbeing, in a loving, caring relationship and still not FEEL safe.
You can be objectively unsafe, yet feel safe. You could be on a chaotic rollercoaster ride of drama and emotions, where your wellbeing and livelihood are on the line and uncertain while FEELING safe.
Both of these scenarios can be a result of developmental trauma, which is a catalogue of experiences that caused your body and mind to adapt and develop in a way that doesn’t continue to work well for you when you are no longer in those experiences.
If you are having trouble resting, ask yourself, when was the last time you truly FELT safe?
What does FELT safety look like for you?
Do you know if you have ever experienced it? Is it ok or safe for you to rest?
Can you only rest when life is going your way?
Can you only rest when your life is chaotic and overwhelming?”