David C. Miller Therapy

01/08/2026

Parents!!! This is the message. When our kids are struggling, this is the message. We are NOT fixing or solving. We are NOT telling them our own stories as a teen. We are not getting angry or letting our own worry spill out all over them. WE ARE comforting them and then listening. Being curious and making them feel heard no matter what they say. THEN we instill confidence so they can feel safe. "We Got This". Eventually we move to "You Got This" but nothing else changes. 1. Be curious and empathetic. 2. Validate. 3. Instill Confidence. These are the steps that lead to their own development of this skill.

05/12/2025

If our approach is blame, the child will not learn. They will internalize there is something wrong with them and things will get worse. We really need to stop expecting our children to just magically learn skills by being born or because we told them. Children learn with the influence of many factors but mostly behaviorally from watching parents and other adults and being taught in a gradual process. Stop, breathe, and get curious to find the missing skills and then SHOW them in an age-appropriate manner. You will see a huge difference in behaviors.

04/08/2025

Keep yourself informed and educated by hearing from leaders in the field.

03/27/2025

More research on the extreme toll of phone usage for internet/social media. Get off those phones as much as you can. Life changing.

03/13/2025

We knew it was coming and it will continue with more research studies. This is so vitally important for living a life of joy and contentment because it affects mood, relationships, motivation, sleep, and on and on. NOT just the content on the phone so it applies to everything. After the reset do whatever you can to regulate phone use. You will notice big differences.

12/10/2024

Any parent would probably say “of course not” but kids internalize so much and can easily misinterpret for a variety of reasons so make sure to check in. It’s ok to teach while reaffirming love and support out loud. As always,use others to help get perspectives especially a professional therapist.

09/16/2024

Don’t forget the love part of your “tough love”. Make it obvious. It’s never too late. Find parenting help with a licensed professional.

09/06/2024

04/29/2024

10/24/2023

Stream this very important documentary for free today 10/24-10/26. Go to AnxiousNation.com. Then find providers and specialists to help you, your children, your partners and more with the “how”. It can be life-changing. anxiousnation

10/17/2023

We are all human. No it’s not rude to ask other humans how they are doing. And just listening without judgement can save lives. Norwich City FC. Watch this video!! https://youtu.be/tX8TgVR33KM?si=sTF7_XYp0ovG_T87

10/02/2023

Make mental health the priority. We can't promote toughness, resilience, fortitude, motivation and more without addressing feelings. Without empathy, listening, validation, normalizing, compassion, and teaching supportive skills we are all forced to find negative coping mechanisms like anger, sadness, substance use, abuse, and unhealthy lifestyles. And then we judge people for those negative coping mechanisms. The widespread systemic issues are still there and social media posts like this one are not the solution. Be curious. Curious with your children, your partners, your families, your neighbors, your enemies, strangers of all sizes and shapes. Curiosity will lead us to greater good.