Bekah Marie Weideman • Holistic Therapist & Executive Coach

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👉🏻If someone asks you for a favor, politely decline.

Taking your time might offer you the opportunity to consider the request and determine whether or not it is something you really want to spend your energy on.

Even a little pause before making a decision improves decision-making accuracy, according to research.

Practice saying no, even if you want to say yes. This is to get it familiarized, and allow you to be comfortable saying “no”.

Happy to all you mommas out there!

I count myself extremely blessed to be the momma of two amazing daughters, and one amazing pup!

Hope you get to celebrate with people you love most! 💗

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Avoid Blaming Others for Your Failures

In order to say "no" effectively, you need to be clear and concise.

Don't create excuses for why you can't participate because of other commitments.

Refrain from going into excessive detail about your argument and speak with a firm voice.

It is important to keep in mind that the word "no" means "no”. PERIOD.

This will be hard. You’ll want to walk back your boundary: 🤷🏻‍♀️ You’ll struggle with all kinds of negotiable emotions around saying no. After all, it goes against the core of people pleasing.

What you have to remember though, is people pleasing is a coping mechanism. It is NOT WHO you are.

Refuse to walk your boundary back. Sit in the uncomfortable feeling. Say to yourself, “I feel uncomfortable because….” And that makes me feel…” and that must mean…..”

DIG DEEPER.

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How is your self-esteem?

Lack of self esteem often shows up in the types of relationships we find ourselves willing to stay in.

The types of conversations we allow to be had towards us.

The way we show up in our work, parenting, friendships and really all of life!

Do you feel your is ??

Self esteem struggles stem from childhood experiences that somehow had us believe we,
• Are not lovable.
• Are unworthy of connection.
• Are not wanted.
• Are not accepted.
• Are not valued.
as a few examples.

Do you identify? How is your self-esteem on a scale of 1-10? Would you like to change it? Schedule your call today! 📱 Linktree.com/BekahMarie

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Set Goals and Priorities for Yourself👀 YUP. I said it.

Take action if something is draining your resources or taking up too much of your time.

By learning to say no to things you don't want to do, you'll free up time for the things you do want to accomplish.

Practice different ways of saying no, without giving excuses. Be ready to say no, so you make it comfortable.

I’ve told you mine!!!


So tell me…


What is YOUR dream? 🤩

What’s standing between you and your dream right now?



What is one action you can take TODAY to make that dream closer within grasp?



We don’t get there in one fell swoop.


We get there one step at a time.

🤩


I love that song. 😇 I think so often we get side tracked with what others want us to be sidetracked with. We walk away from OUR dream into someone else’s.

This is an invitation to and

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Can I tell you a secret? 😉

This is my dream. 🤩 (when my kids are out on their own)

Living on a small island in Florida, able to hook up and travel the Keys, work from the beach, and live life in the SUNSHINE! 😎 ☀️ 🌊 🌴 Fuji would work too. You know, that clear blue water and seashells galore?

I’ve stayed in tiny houses in my travels. One of my favorites was in Hawaii, with an outdoor shower and bathroom. Only downside was the giant apple snail 🐌 who about scared me TO DEATH when I went to the bathroom at night in the rainforest jungle. 🤣

I’m also not a fan of the GIANT spiders in the rainforest of Hawaii. 🕷️ 😝 I much prefer Florida.🤣

I absolutely love owning very little, and living life outdoors on the beach. The less we have, the easier life is. It’s like that with our stuff, and even MORE so with our MENTAL STUFF.

Imagine if you could rid your mind of that ginormous semi truck you pull behind you everywhere. Imagine your mind was as tidy and clean of a space as this. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

The habit of living simple starts with our mind. Clearing out the decades of junk beliefs, and making space for new ones. And heck, if your dream is to live in a 16 bedroom house, one room for each of your deepest darkest secrets, great!👋🏻

But if your dream like me is to live life untethered, let’s dive in. 🙌🏻 Let’s let go of those beliefs keeping you stuck, weighing you down, and inhibiting your FREEDOM. 🫶🏼

I’m all about and that unlocking of LIFE and LIVING! 🙌🏻

And babe, once you start living, really living, you are going to lose people, who were comfortable with the version of you that was only existing.
Those were never your people.
Stephanie Bennett-Henry

How can you show your body some love today?
What does your body need right now?

It sounds easy.

It’s actually not.

Today’s tip is about really
deciding to honor your thoughts.

Give them the attention they need.

If you find yourself thinking about things that are t bringing you joy, go deeper.

Why are you thinking about this?

What can you do about this situation?

Who could you reach out to to talk about it, and maybe gain some perspective?

When we start paying attention to our thoughts, we can really start changing our life!

DECIDE what you want to focus on.

This is your life. Nobody gets to get in your mind without your permission! So, don’t let them!

***Setting Boundaries ***

For the this is much easier said than done. Because somewhere deep in your subconscious, you do t actually believe you are worth of boundaries. Or, you feel they are mean.

The truth is, establishing clear boundaries and then communicating those boundaries is essential to establishing and maintaining a healthy environment. within your work and personal life. It is important to be precise and detailed about the things you are ready to do. Let them know if they're asking for too much and that you aren’t available for it.

This will take practice!!!! Give yourself grace as you are learning to walk in your

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How are you prioritizing your emotional wellbeing?

Look at the space around you.

How is it supporting your wellbeing?

What are THREE things you can commit to doing this week for your ?

I’ve realized in life we very often hold onto things because we don’t know if we’ll find something we like to replace it, even if we realllly don’t like it.

I think about a blank umbrella. It works. It’s useful for what it is. There’s nothing wrong with it. But black and rain ☔️ always makes me remember a funeral I went to. It was pouring that day. So for me, I made it my job to find an umbrella I loved. 🥰 And, I got rid of the black one!

Raincoats are always heavy and insulting, and I’m usually hot. I found one I loved in my favorite sea mist green that is breathable. 🌧️

I got rid of what didn’t bring me joy, what felt uncomfortable and constricting, and I brought in color and JOY! 💗

People Pleasing is a

People pleasers create an understanding wt an early age. The feel excluded, so a way they remedy it can often lead to a life spent trying to make EVERYONE else happy, at the expense of their own happiness.

See, we are hardwired for connection. 👀

We crave connection like it is the air we breathe.
It’s part of being human. Somehow, we got the message that we weren’t part of something, maybe on the playground, or even with our parents. Feeling “there must be something wrong with me”. 😣

So, the to the rescue!
Belief created: If we are included, that means we belong. If we belong, we are loved.

People pleaser meet your maker! 🤝
The desire to be loved, accepted, connected.

Some find other coping mechanisms.
But for you, this was yours.

This mm*seems* to work… until it doesn’t.

You find yourself in toxic relationships, ☠️ where they just take take take take.

You find yourself burnt out from always being the one to make it all happen for everyone else.

👉🏻👉🏻Your self esteem struggles deepen as you find yourself unable to be to your own desires, wants, and needs while taking care of everyone else in your life

sets in. Your self esteem takes an even bigger hit. 🤜🏻👩🏻 You feel and to others unless you are the one doing all the work. 🤦🏻‍♀️

You take a step back and see the one sidedness.

You realize you stayed way too long in relationships, and places were your value was only what others could get from you.🙇🏻‍♀️

This is a time you have a crisis of confidence. Unsure of who you are, as you see clearly you’ve only ever been what others wanted you to be.

You don’t know where to go, or what to do, but you know this isn’t working for you anymore.

So, you seek out talk therapy. 🗣️👤
Where you proceed to talk about the problem weekly, for 10+ years. 📆

After waking up in a fog, you think ‘what the hell is happening….this can’t be my life’ and you somehow found this post. 💕

The good news is, I’ve been there myself.
You can heal your heart. Link in bio

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I came back and I was no longer the girl I used to be, but a whole new woman, who learned a lot from the darkness, but mostly, I learned who I was, and who I will never be again.
Stephanie Bennett-Henry

Mark Hyman, MD

The question often comes up in my work on how soon do clients see the changes after their sessions.

Healing is different for everyone. But these are the most common ways I see clients see results.

1. **Immediately** changed. This happened to me personally when I was doing my own healing work. I’d not slept in 15 years at night due to sleep trauma. The night of my session, I slept. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

2. **Cumulatively** we find this especially with clients suffering with self esteem issues. These changes happen over time as we do more work together, and more layers are peeled away. It’s through the looking back one can see profound change, however it happens little by little. I tell clients, “you look back six months later, then you can REALLY see the changes”!

3. **Retrospectively** I would actually agree that the retroactive may be the most powerful, as it is the profound and inconspicuous change that has completely taken root to the point that old thought patterns and experiences seem almost alien. You find yourself in conversation, having responded one way, discovering your response to be a 360 degree difference!

Sometimes we only see we have changed when we look back and say
“Wow I haven’t had a panic attack for months “
“I’m so much happier now“
“I don’t have anxiety before meetings anymore “
Still, it’s often other people pointing out the difference that makes us look back and see it retrospectively.

Another thing I’ve noticed as I’ve done this work for myself is beginning to reinterpret incidents differently, seeing them in a different light. In a light thar is more inclusive, more tolerant that considers different aspects. I’ve seen things are not really about me most of the time.
They were about others wounds.

I love love love my job. I love seeing lives radially transform. Sometimes that means multiple months of work to get all those feelings worked through. But, sometimes it’s a single month that is all they need. Whatever it is, it’s the profound, powerful, all pervasive changes that ROCK my world!!

➡️➡️The battle for your mind is the war everyone is trying to win. ⬅️⬅️

Retailers are trying to convince you you need their products, influencers are paid to promote this “you gotta have it or you’re not fulfilled” kind of message.

Everywhere you go, it’s a world saying “you’re not enough”. You see these underlying messages everywhere. 😤

You see this subliminal messaging of “this will make you happy, if you just buy that, look snatched, perfectly toned, wear these b***y huggin’ leggings”….etc🥱

My love, we’ve all played that game at some point. It’s only when you decide to get honest with yourself, and work on your mind 🧠 that the game changes. ↪️
People do this with negative beliefs, and positive ones too! ⬇️

➡️Confirmation Bias 🧠 is the tendency to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories.

When you allow emotions to rule your life, your life is being steered by a driver under the influence. 🚘
Our emotions go up 🔝 and down ⤵️ and can change on a dime. 🔀 This produces massive anxiety, fear, guilt and analysis paralysis!

I work with the mind, in ways that are super unique in the industry. We focus on the goal, and what is standing in your way. We then start the work of dismantling the old beliefs and patterns keeping you in a holding pattern of life, instead of propelling you into your dreams! ⭐️

Are you ready to rewrite your the contract you have with your mind? You can be pitiful, or powerful!

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