Understanding The Difference Between A Hard Heart And A Guarded Heart.
If you have been betrayed. Repeatedly lied to. Your spouse been unfaithful in your marriage, or broken your trust and your heart in a big way, this might help you to understand the difference between a hardened heart and a guarded heart.
Healing from relational betrayal is tough. It takes a lot of time and work. And, that’s just your part. Restoring broken trust in order to repair, restore and heal the relationship can take even longer and be even harder.
One of the biggest obstacles is the ability to discern the difference between someone who has a guarded heart, and one who has a hard heart.
Let’s look at the difference between someone who displays a hard heart and someone who has a guarded heart.
A person with a guarded heart wants God’s will for his/her life. He/She is teachable, humble and willing to learn. He/She also knows that it is their responsibility to steward their body, soul, and spirit. When repeatedly sinned against, we not only must work through the forgiveness piece, but also responsible to walk in the truth and not pretend the relationship is repaired if it’s not.
Extending forgiveness cancels the debt but it does not automatically repair the relationship, especially when there has been no evidence of genuine repentance. Actions always speak louder than words. We are called to love our enemy but that does not imply that we have close fellowship or trust our enemy. That is why they are considered our enemy.
On the other hand, a person with a hard heart is stubborn. He or she does not hear or listen to God or wise others. A hard-hearted person is proud and unrepentant. It is wise for a godly person to guard his or her heart when they are with someone who has a hard heart so that person does not have an undue influence on one’s mind or their emotions.
Let’s be more careful as we deal with difficult relationships and try to discern and be careful not to mislabel someone who has firm boundaries or does not automatically restore broken trust as hard-hearted. That is practicing wisdom and appropriate stewardship by guarding their heart, and that is a good thing.