04/17/2026
Im going to share an except from my next book, Discovering His Wings
I spent a lot of time in cultures where people promoted s*xual liberation as healing, breaking free from old paradigms and expanding your consciousness
Frequently in these cultures the book s*x at dawn was cited as the reason humans aren’t meant to be monogamous. I have been told that we are wired more like bono monkeys on several occasions
because I am more conservative, I frequently heard that I was feeding into the patriarchy, living in outdated belief systems, not liberated from attachment and therefore wasn’t free.
But what wasn’t talked about in these cultures is the psychic, spiritual and emotional toll that casual intimacy take on the nervous system. There are energetic, somatic and lasting psychic effects that take place long after the moment has ended. The nervous system remembers.
As an HSP with an anxious attachment system, a one night stand literally feels like death
The nervous system is wired to crave safety over Adrenaline and security over the unknown. Taking an unpredictable emotional ride is the fastest way into dysregulation
Over a decade ago burning man completely changed my life and I’m so so so grateful for the experiences there! I talk a lot about my time there in my book Discovering My Wings.
But I’ve realized the traditional Christian values that I grew up with provide a container for safety structure and discernment for emotional, physical and spiritual security.
The most interesting part…As I’ve spent my time and energy investing in Jesus, I’ve experienced more freedom and liberation than I ever knew was possible
Perhaps TS Elliot said it best
We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
Perhaps I didnt need to be liberated! Maybe I just need to embrace that values that had always brought my nervous system safety and stability
As My friend Laura Elizabeth shared -We are free when we are honoring our souls and not doing what others expect of us.
