Digital Addiction Coach

09/16/2025

Today's Headlines are scary:

𝗔𝗜 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝘁𝗯𝗼𝘁𝘀 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗶𝘁 𝘀𝘂𝗶𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲.
𝗞𝗶𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗽()𝗿𝗻 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝗶𝗱𝗱𝗹𝗲 𝘀𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝗹.
𝗙𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗻𝘀.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗴𝗶𝘁𝗮𝗹 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱 𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘇𝗲....𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻, 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀/𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀:

𝙔𝙤𝙪 are the best filters. Technology is just the backup...and we are going to teach you how.

This Wednesday, September 17th, I’ll be joining Clayton Cranford (Cyber Safety Cop) for an East Coast/West Coast showdown on digital safety and addiction. Clayton is a former law enforcement officer, internet safety speaker and author.

We’re tackling the big three:

1. Why phones and apps feel so addictive (hint: dopamine is running the show).
2. How to set boundaries without battles in your family.
3. What parents must do to protect young kids from unfiltered online exposure.

This isn’t theory...it’s real solutions from our experience raising kids and being on the "frontline of digital warfare" aimed at making your children "users".



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08/30/2025

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗟𝗶𝗲 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗙𝗮𝘂𝗹𝘁
💔 One of the deepest lies wives believe:
“If I were prettier, thinner, sexier, less of a nag… maybe he wouldn’t need p**n.”

🚫 Let’s set this straight: That is a lie.

P**n addiction isn’t about your weight, beauty, or worth. You could look like a supermodel — it wouldn’t stop the addiction. Because addiction is about escape, shame, and brain chemistry… not your value as a woman.

👉 Here’s the truth:
✨ His choices are not your fault.
✨ You are already enough.

If you’ve been carrying the shame of “not being enough,” it’s time to put it down. That shame was never yours to .

💛 You are not to blame. You are not broken. You are not less than.

📌 Save this post for the days when the lies get loud. And if you need a safe place to process, send me a message. You don’t have to walk through betrayal alone.

**nAddictionRecovery

08/29/2025

7 𝘚𝘪𝘨𝘯𝘴 𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘏𝘶𝘴𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘐𝘴 𝘜𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘗𝘰𝘳𝘯:💔 Part 3

For wives who feel confused, hurt, or alone — you are not crazy. You are not to blame.

Here’s what to watch for and how to respond:

🚨 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 #𝟯 — 𝗦𝗲𝗰𝗿𝗲𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗧𝗲𝗰𝗵 𝗛𝗮𝗯𝗶𝘁𝘀
Phones in the bathroom, hidden tabs, deleted histories. You notice him protecting screens more than ever.

🚨 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 #𝟰 — 𝗜𝗿𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝗿 𝗗𝗲𝗳𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀
Bring up a concern, and suddenly he’s angry, sarcastic, or shuts down completely.

𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝘂𝗹𝘁. You’re not overreacting. These are red flags — not proof of failure on your part.

📌Forward post to a friend who needs to hear this.

**nAddictionRecovery

08/29/2025

7 𝘚𝘪𝘨𝘯𝘴 𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘏𝘶𝘴𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘐𝘴 𝘜𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘗𝘰𝘳𝘯:💔 Part 3

For wives who feel confused, hurt, or alone — you are not crazy. You are not to blame.

Here’s what to watch for and how to respond:

🚨 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 #𝟯 — 𝗦𝗲𝗰𝗿𝗲𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗧𝗲𝗰𝗵 𝗛𝗮𝗯𝗶𝘁𝘀
Phones in the bathroom, hidden tabs, deleted histories. You notice him protecting screens more than ever.

🚨 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 #𝟰 — 𝗜𝗿𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝗿 𝗗𝗲𝗳𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀
Bring up a concern, and suddenly he’s angry, sarcas

08/28/2025

𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗧𝘄𝗼: 𝟳 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻𝘀 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗛𝘂𝘀𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜𝘀 𝗨𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗼𝗿𝗻

🚨 Sign #1 — Emotional Distance

He seems “off,” distracted, or disconnected. Conversations feel flat. You feel like you’re talking to a stranger at times.

🚨 Sign #2 — Decreased Intimacy

Physical intimacy becomes less forced, or if you offer...turned down. He avoids closeness, or his interest suddenly spikes in ways that feel off.

You’re noticing patterns — that’s your intuition, and it’s right.

📌Double-tap if you’ve felt this, and share with a friend who needs support.

**nRecovery

08/26/2025

𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗢𝗻𝗲: 𝟳 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻𝘀 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗛𝘂𝘀𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜𝘀 𝗨𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗼𝗿𝗻

For wives who feel confused, hurt, or alone — you are not crazy. You are not to blame. Here’s what to watch for and how to respond.

💔 Something feels off… but you’re not sure what. You’ve noticed small changes, but you keep asking yourself: Am I overreacting?

If your gut is telling you something’s wrong, trust it. Many wives sense this long before their husbands confess.

You are not crazy. You are not alone.

📌 Save or share this post with someone who needs to hear this— the next four will break down the seven signs and what you can do next.

**nAddictionHelp

08/21/2025

"💔What to Do When You Discover Your Husband Is Using P**n"

A new series of posts to provide hope, support, and encouragement to wives and partners who feel betrayed and alone due to digital addiction.

You didn’t cause it. It is not your fault. You had no control...but you can choose what comes next.

Dear Wife/Partner:

If you’ve just discovered your husband is watching p**n ...or even just suspect it, let me say this clearly:

You are not alone...and you are not to blame.

I’ve walked with many women through the exact same storm you’re facing.

Some were shocked.

Some weren’t.

But all felt confused, hurt, and unsure what to do next.

These next couple of posts are for you. Just three steps. One moment at a time.

— John, Addiction Recovery Coach & Founder of Digital Addiction Coach

07/30/2025

07/22/2025

🔥 The Word is Getting Out…

is quickly becoming the go-to referral partner for therapists, counselors, and nonprofit teams who are ready to tackle the hidden epidemic of digital addiction.

Thank you to Recovery Inside Out, Cyber Safety Cop, Ethos Recovery for Men in Los Angeles, and Sage Counseling for meeting with me.

HEADLINES for Busy Folks:

Our Difference: 20+ years of experience + R.A.D.D.is guaranteed + includes technology lock-down

✅ I'm a certified S*x & P**nography Addiction Recovery Coach (SPARC)
✅ 20+ years sober — former digital addict turned trauma-informed coach
✅ Certified in CBT, ACT, Life Coaching, and Faith-Based Recovery
✅ I offer private telecoaching + group support (faith & non-faith versions)
✅ NEW Digital Recovery Group launches August 1st — only 12 spots!

If your clients are stuck in digital loops (p**n, gaming, social media, etc.)...
You now have a proven, personal, and powerful referral option.
I don’t replace therapy — I accelerate it.
I don't replace 12-Steps - I augment it.

Let’s talk shop. Book a 30-minute virtual coffee with me:
👉 https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/virtual-coffee-call

Client in crisis? Send them here:
👉https://digitaladdictioncoach.com/calendar

More on my recovery system:
👉 DigtialAddictionCoach.com

🧠💻💔 Let’s stop pretending digital addiction is just a phase.

It’s time to fight back...together.

**nAddictionRecovery

07/17/2025

Love this article. Great conversation starter! The author, Clay Cranford invited me to be a guest on this parent workshop on September 17th to unpack this and other "edgy" internet safety topics.

Why Clay's post resonated with me:

Clay’s experience as an SRO and juvenile investigator gives him front‑row insight into how early exposure to p**n fuels isolation in our kids. His breakdown of the neurological hook and social impact is spot‑on...but we can't stop there:

Here is what this article inspired in me, as a dad, internet safety advocate, and digital addiction recovery coach:

1. Start digital‑wellness education by age 7, not 12—kids that young deserve guidance on online consent, body privacy, and healthy curiosity.

2. Pair tech boundaries with positive sexual‑health talks so children learn about respect and real intimacy, not just “no screens.”

3. P**n hooks the brain, but so does binging Fortnite or TikTok—address possible root causes: loneliness, anxiety, or boredom, lack of social skills, etc. Digital addiction is not one vice fits all.

Want to dive deeper? We’ll unpack these ideas, bring in tools from my R.A.D.D. program and Clay's new book and give you a step‑by‑step blueprint to protect and truly connect with your children—well before the “awkward puberty talks” hit.

Bottom line:

Let’s shift from the “just block it” mantra to teaching our kids how to thrive in the digital world. Who’s in? 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦

🔒 Secure your spot today:
(Register here: https://lnkd.in/eRWtsdPa.)

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As a father of two boys and a 20-year law enforcement veteran who has worked as a School Resource Officer and juvenile investigator, I’ve witnessed firsthand a troubling trend. More and more young men are retreating into the digital world – specifically into online p**nography – and coming out...

07/01/2025

Social media addiction doesn’t always start with mindless scrolling.
Sometimes it starts with a need to be seen.

✨ To be liked.
💔 To be enough.
But validation shouldn’t come from strangers with thumbs. Reclaim self-worth from the scroll trap.

💡 In our THRIVE program, we teach girls and women how to reclaim self-worth from the scroll trap.

We’re not anti-tech. We’re pro-YOU