Sade Ferrier, LMFT

07/15/2025

If you and your spouse are stuck in a cycle of poor communication, you've likely reached a place of burnout - or don't believe that anything will ever change.

Your frustration makes sense; but it is possible that there is a very specific reason why you've made no progress in your attempts to improve your communication.

It's a harsh reality, but your relationship is likely stuck in a poor communication cycle because you are repeating the problem while attempting to solve the problem.

06/26/2025

This will be a date night experience to remember...
Join and massage therapist to learn gentle and calming massage techniques to offer your spouse. Plus, ways to integrate sensuality and focused attention in order to ignite your flame.
Friday, July 25th | 7pm
Buckhead, Atlanta
Early bird special: grab your spot before July 6th and get $25 off your couples ticket 🎟

06/18/2025

You have been together for years. To an extent, you "know" what your spouse is going to say, or how they will respond in a situation. After all, you've had the same argument thousands of times. In your mind, your assumption is fact.
but...
What if this time is different? What if, in the work of therapy or personal reflection, they are able to access a new tone, new words, new approach. What if they pause or are less reactive or more considerate?
Would you want them to assume that you will *always* choose a negative approach, too? Wouldn't you want them to give you a chance?
This is what the process of therapy looks like. We target the dysfunctional ways that you currently communicate, then change it in-the-moment. In this, you both gain practice in choosing a different response. Slowing down. Knowing your options.
And at home, over time, you both begin to do the same.
Over time, your assumptions are no longer facts. Your spouse is becoming someone new. You are becoming someone new.
And if you allow that process to happen, you just may get what you've been longing for...

06/10/2025

Sunday, June 22nd: Anti-Busy Workshop | Designed for couples with busy schedules or difficulty setting aside time for intentional intimacy
Tuesday, June 24th: Intro to Rebuilding Me | the next open cohort of women seeking support after betrayal and/or infidelity in their relationship
✅️Choose your experience and register at the link in my bio!

05/10/2025

You extend yourself far and wide to provide all of their needs. And you are glad to. This is the mom you want to be.
But you are still a child on this earth. More years within you, visible in the rivers and valleys on your skin, but a child even still.
What if starving and depriving yourself isn't the only option that you have? What if anxiety and control do not have to be your default?
The "how" is always the challenge. How to do this for them and for you simultaneously? Well, inner child....it seems we have new lessons to learn.

01/16/2025

Tapping into your sensual voice can feel...vulnerable. You may not even think that you have this side to you.
In this workshop, we will put thoughts to pen and paper, giving you an opportunity to learn more about your own desire - and how to paint a picture of what you'd find most appealing in intimacy.
Please note, this workshop has limited capacity and will be for women only in order to provide a private and comfortable space for conversation.
🧡To resere your space, visit myintimacytherapist.com/date-nights (or click the link in my bio). I'll see you there!

11/14/2024

After the pain of discovering an affair, the injured spouse is deeply confused by their own response. "They betrayed my trust...and if this happened to someone else, I would tell them to leave. So why do I still love them? Why do I want to stay?"

Read more below

After an affair, remember to treat yourself with kindness and tenderness - much like you would for a child who is experiencing great pain.

11/03/2024

It is not ucommon for one spouse to be the "initiator" - for intimacy, for dates, for household chores, for communication as a whole - while the other benefits from this work without investing effort to maintain the relationship as well.
It becomes frustrating from the initiator because they are now burnt out from their repeated attempts to draw the other person in. In return, the other spouse can get frustrated because they have felt that their efforts aren't good enough or haven't been recognized, so they simply started going along with the flow. Resentment can build under the surface, making it harder for either spouse to want to be close.
And of course, there are situations where one spouse is truly disinterested in change or improvement.
If there is a history of "scar tissue" in the relationship - a mountain of past hurts that went unaddressed - I recommend investing in a therapist. It can be challenging to navigate so many different hurts at once, and a therapeutic environment can provide structure and balance.
Through this process we can begin to see what is under the surface:- Maybe one spouse truly doesn't want to work on the relationship and is checked out
- Maybe what you both value and want from the relationship is sooo different that you keep disappointing each other
- Maybe you have a parent-child or boss-employee dynamic that has developed, causing one person to feel controlling and the other to feel passive..and so on.
✅️If this is you, and you are curious about therapy, let's talk. Click the link in my bio to schedule a consultation call!

10/24/2024

Reasons we neglect our sleep hygiene: (a) we are in a stage of life with kids or work where our schedules feel out of our control; (b) we stay up late because the rest of our day is so full; (c) we have sleep disorders that make it challenging to fall or stay asleep; (d) we were never taught how or why we should value sleep.
I address sleep in s3x therapy with my clients, because most couples need guidance and accountability to help prioritize rest over busyness. This isn't a one-size-fits-all, and the reason for your sleep deprivation matters when considering a strategy for repair. And, in time, we find how s3x and sleep can cooperate with each other!
Consider this: what is one part of your nighttime routine that can change in order to give you 15 minutes of extra sleep?

10/08/2024

Ladies often feel guilty for resting - or will admit to not knowing how. This makes sense, right? You are likely occupying multiple roles in life: wife, employee, mom, friend, volunteer.... You may have been raised to see rest as laziness, and busyness as virtue. You may just have a life so packed with commitments that you don't even have time to consider an alternative.
Ladies. Allow yourself permission to rest.
"Permission to Rest" will take place on sunday, October 20th at in Smyrna, GA. Can you give yourself 90 minutes to step out of "caretaker" role and into a space of no responsibility?
Reserve Your space at the link in my bio. Let's rest 🧡