Willow Counseling & Wellness

03/16/2023

I have had several clients wondering the differences/similarities between ADHD and Autism. This article is super helpful to get some information about this very thing!

ADHD vs Autism, what's the difference? Click here to get an overview of Autism and ADHD and learn how to spot the difference.

02/08/2023

A great local offering for couples!!!

💘 Couples Yoga 💘

Updated Date:
February 25th at 4:30pm

$25 per couple

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12/31/2022

SO true!

There is not a person alive who isn’t difficult, annoying, overbearing, needy, sensitive, burdensome, moody, and then some.

We’re all high-maintenance – you and me included.

If someone seems easy-going, it’s simply because you’re not close enough to see the full picture. We all do our best to tuck the less-appealing aspects of ourselves away so the general public cannot see them.

In close relationships, though, those qualities are on full display.

10/06/2022

❤️ easy way to show some love.

07/29/2022

So interesting!

How does the cl****is fit together with the other pelvic organs? This 3D representation shows how.
1. G***s (the part visible from the outside)
2. Corpus clitoridis (body)
3. Crura
4. Bulbs
5. Urethra
6. Va**nal opening
7. Va**na
8. Uterus
9. Bladder

By Helen O'Connell, 2021

07/05/2022

Love this!

Inject playfulness into your relationship. We learn about ourselves and others through play starting in childhood, but that continues on into adulthood. A shared sense of humor and playfulness can strengthen your connection and prevent your relationship from becoming overly rigid and brittle.

06/10/2022

Good info!

Under stress, most of us tend to revert to a one-person system, meaning:
“My needs are all that matter.”
This is why it’s so important to collaborate on agreements that will serve both of you when you’re feeling good. I refer to these agreements as Shared Principles of Governance. You might think of them as your relationship commandments or terms of service.

Essentially, this is a list of principles that you agree to abide by together. They will act as guard rails for when you least want to be cooperative. These agreements may include:

💞 We protect each other in public and in private
💞 If one of us is in distress, the other will drop everything to tend to them
💞 We are each other’s go-to and the first to know about major news in each other’s life
💞 We are fully transparent with one another
💞 We don’t throw each other under the bus in front of others

Come up with these principles when you are fully emotionally and mentally resourced. Don’t wait until you face a conflict together.

05/07/2022

Love this !!!

Just because you have problems, does not mean you’re with the wrong person.

Your issues likely stem from not knowing how to handle each other yet. That’s something you can learn – and as you do you’ll find that you picked the person you’re with because something about them was familiar to you.

We pair-bond with people we recognize. They either share parts of ourselves or the people we grew up around. You chose your partner for a good reason. You just need to learn how to be with them specifically.

Commit to becoming experts on all aspects of each other, including your attachment styles, fears, sensitivities, joys, passions, and values. The more you learn about each other, the better you will be able to manage each other and navigate problems together.

05/04/2022

Can you answer these about your partner?

The better experts you are on each other, the easier your relationship will be. Here are some questions you should be able to answer about each other:

What are 2-3 words or phrases that make your partner feel loved?

What are 2-3 words or phrases that trigger your partner?

What soothes your partner when they are in pain?

What is your partner self-conscious about?

What makes your partner feel empowered?

04/25/2022

Love this resource from the Gottmans!

Love Notes is a research-based newsletter for individuals and couples, featuring the latest from The Gottman Institute.

Sign up for the Love Notes Newsletter and receive a FREE monthly download designed to help strengthen your relationship.

03/10/2022

Breaks are almost always needed. Keeping it short helps your relationship in the long run.

The longer an argument goes on, the more difficult it will be to stay emotionally regulated. Set a time limit the next time you argue. Agree to repair any hurt feelings and take a break when you hit that limit. Don’t go over 15 minutes.

You can always return to the argument at another time.

02/05/2022