Kerry McAvoy, PhD

Kerry McAvoy, PhD Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Advocate

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This content is for educational purposes only and is not therapy or medical advice

11/04/2025

Why are the reasons you’ve no contact? Has the decision come hard or easy? And how are doing today despite the separation?

“Parentalestrangement

11/04/2025

Have you gone no contact with your parents? Or maybe, your adult child has gone “no contact" with you.

In this live discussion, Dr. Kerry explores what no contact with parents really means, why it’s rising, and what actually helps (and hurts) when you want to reconnect—without pressure or defensiveness.

LEARN:
1. Why defending yourself backfires—and what to say instead
2. The difference between boundaries, distance, and no contact with parents
3. First steps to repair that don’t spike conflict

We’ll unpack calm-worded scripts, pacing that lowers threat, and a simple “door-open” plan so you can protect your dignity and keep room for future change.



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IF YOU ARE A RISK of immediate danger or abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.

DISCLAIMER: All content and information on this website is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute mental health advice. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for professional advice, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in the area for your particular needs and circumstances before making any professional, legal, medical, financial, or tax-related decisions.
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Feeling stuck in a toxic or troubled relationship?

Take my FREE “Toxic or Troubled?” survey to discover your relationship type and get instant access to a complete, private mini-course—educational overviews, reflective questions, grounding techniques, and new strategies tailored to your situation.

� Start here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/toxic-or-troubled-survey/

READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP?
• First Steps to Leaving online course – A step-by-step plan to safely and confidently leave a toxic partner: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/course
• Toxic-Free Relationship Club – Weekly group coaching, monthly book reads, access to past webinars, and Dr. McAvoy’s full online course: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/club/
• Group Programs– Healing Strong, Relationship Reset, and more: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/

STAY CONNECTED & SUPPORTED
• Weekly “Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse” Substack newsletter – Insights, stories, and tools for your healing journey: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/

FOLLOW DR. KERRY
- YouTube:
- Instagram:
- Facebook:
• Email: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.com
• Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/

READ MY STORY
“LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, S*x Addiction, & Double Cross”
Available now: https://amzn.to/3NVMBXO

ABOUT DR. KERRY McAVOY
Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., is a psychologist, author, and expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding complex trauma. A survivor herself, her memoir “Love You More” offers an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.

11/03/2025

Are you feeling fear of losing your toxic or abusive partner?

You’re likely experiencing FOMO that’s being generated by intermittent reinforcement— that hot and cold behavior.

This is being manufactured by activated your primal fear center. Don’t let it control you. Reach out; I can help.

The allure of love's perspectiveIsn't it fascinating how love changes everything? 🌹 It transforms even the most monstrou...
11/02/2025

The allure of love's perspective

Isn't it fascinating how love changes everything? 🌹 It transforms even the most monstrous traits into something enchanting. When we look through the glass of love, we see beauty where others might see flaws. Let's celebrate those moments that make us appreciate the complexities of the heart.

11/02/2025

If you’re always drawn to people who need “fixing,” this isn’t a coincidence.

When we grow up with absent or emotionally unavailable parents, we learn that love isn’t freely given—it’s earned.

And we carry that pattern into adulthood.

But it never works. We end up exhausted, burnt out, and still unloved.

The good news? Once you see the pattern, you can break it.

Save this if you needed to hear it.

10/31/2025

Have you heard that you must heal on your own before getting into a new relationship? That’s an impossibility because the wounding is a relational one.

Here’s what Jessica Baum, author of a new book, SAFE: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships, has to say….

For full interview, check out this week’s Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast.

10/30/2025

We’re not just “coping.” Many of us got cast into a role—The Strong One, The Peacemaker, The Fixer—that kept us safe but cost us parts of ourselves. Those hidden costs pile up and submerge your real self.

Try this 60-second audit:
1. Where am I saying “yes” to avoid conflict?
2. What did I stop wanting because it made someone else uncomfortable?
3. What’s one small boundary I can hold this week even if someone doesn’t like it?

Want help? Comment FREE and I’ll DM you a free “Toxic or Troubled?” quiz & mini-course to guide your next steps.

Consider saving this for later, sharing it with a friend who needs it, and following for more practical tools to exit the role and re-enter your life.

What do your eyes reveal?We often trust what we see, but are we truly seeing reality or just our interpretations? 🌟 Step...
10/30/2025

What do your eyes reveal?

We often trust what we see, but are we truly seeing reality or just our interpretations? 🌟 Step back, question, and explore perspectives beyond the surface. What truths might you uncover when you choose to see clearly?

Let your vision be the guide, but not the limit. Embrace the beauty of seeing things as they truly are.

10/29/2025

Why we’re drawn to the wrong people (until we aren’t)

That aching pull toward the same type of partner isn’t chemistry—it’s our wounded part trying to “get it right” this time. Jessica Baum and I unpack:

• the repetition trap (why it feels so magnetic)
• how self-abandonment keeps the cycle going
• practical steps to choose differently and feel safer in love

See the full conversation on the podcast—Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast

10/29/2025

Two hard lessons —plus a bonus truth:

• Mean-girl creators treat their followers just as cruelly as the public. That “loyalty” is often a trauma bond, not love.
• Men who troll women are mad that she won’t play the sexual object they imagined.
• Bonus: Women who troll women are acting from insecurity. It’s not about you—it’s about what got activated in them.

When you see the pattern, you stop taking it personally. Protect your nervous system: block, delete, move on. Save this for the next time the noise gets loud.

10/28/2025

Do you ever wonder why you keep picking wrong—ending up with emotionally unavailable, toxic, or disappointing partners again and again?

Dr. Kerry breaks down the real reason behind your relationship patterns — and it’s not because your “picker” is broken.

LEARN:
1. Why your nervous system keeps mistaking intensity for love
2. How trauma rewires attraction, making chaos feel “normal”
3. What your body is really trying to protect you from when you push safe people away
4. How to retrain your intuition to recognize peace as safety—not boredom



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IF YOU ARE A RISK of immediate danger or abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.

DISCLAIMER: All content and information on this website is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute mental health advice. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for professional advice, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in the area for your particular needs and circumstances before making any professional, legal, medical, financial, or tax-related decisions.
*****************************

Feeling stuck in a toxic or troubled relationship?

Take my FREE “Toxic or Troubled?” survey to discover your relationship type and get instant access to a complete, private mini-course—educational overviews, reflective questions, grounding techniques, and new strategies tailored to your situation.

� Start here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/toxic-or-troubled-survey/

READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP?
• First Steps to Leaving online course – A step-by-step plan to safely and confidently leave a toxic partner: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/course
• Toxic-Free Relationship Club – Weekly group coaching, monthly book reads, access to past webinars, and Dr. McAvoy’s full online course: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/club/
• Group Programs– Healing Strong, Relationship Reset, and more: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/

STAY CONNECTED & SUPPORTED
• Weekly “Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse” Substack newsletter – Insights, stories, and tools for your healing journey: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/

FOLLOW DR. KERRY
- YouTube:
- Instagram:
- Facebook:
• Email: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.com
• Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/

READ MY STORY
“LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, S*x Addiction, & Double Cross”
Available now: https://amzn.to/3NVMBXO

ABOUT DR. KERRY McAVOY
Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., is a psychologist, author, and expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding complex trauma. A survivor herself, her memoir “Love You More” offers an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.

Women collectively need to make a huge shift in how relationships are being managed. Our niceness is a liability that on...
10/27/2025

Women collectively need to make a huge shift in how relationships are being managed. Our niceness is a liability that only serves predatory people.

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