04/30/2025
(S R)
Stimulus (S)
Any event or situation that triggers a emotion or reaction. This could be an external event (like a rude comment) or an internal one (like a negative thought).
Response (R)
The action or reaction we have in response to the stimulus. This can be a thought, emotion, or physical behavior.
The Space ( )
The moment between the stimulus and the response. It’s a pause, a window of opportunity, where we have the chance to observe the stimulus, its impact on us, and choose our response thoughtfully.
Mindfulness increases the space ( )
Mindfulness is bringing your attention to the present moment and present experience. This includes observing any stimuli - whether they are internal (thoughts/emotions) or external (environment around you). Sometimes the practice may be returning to our breath, our feet (when in walking meditation), sensory experiences, or a guided meditation/chant.
Mindfulness Misconceptions
Mindfulness isn’t about “clearing your mind” and you can’t be “bad” at mindfulness or meditation. The only goal is to practice. Mindfulness (in my own words) is simply being present with what IS in this moment and witnessing what arises.
The goal is to watch 🧿 or observe, without judgment. Like a neutral narrator. Instead of trying to clear your mind, try be-friending your mind. During a meditation retreat, a teacher once said that when a negative thought comes up he says “oh, now that’s a thought buddy!” And moves on, returning to the object of meditation.
🧠 Our minds gonna do what our minds gonna do
Our mind will constantly try to concoct stories, fantasize/day dream, make to-do lists… etc. The mind will try to re-live the past or /try/ to grasp onto the future, taking us out of the present moment. That’s just what the mind does. The point is that we try our best to approach our mind in a gentle and non-judgmental way. This is the challenge. WHEN (not IF) we veer off away from the present moment THIS is our opportunity to return to the practice. This act of remembering or returning is how we hone our
( S P A C E ) creating skills.