
09/11/2025
I try to keep this page light. However, the world we live in is cruel and unfortunately we cannot fully shield our children. As we as adults process what has happened this week, here are some thoughts on how to talk to kids about violence that I have been using with my own kids.
1. Ask Questions
Some kids are unaware of tragic situations and current events. Use your discretion and after finding out what they know, take the opportunity to correct false information or give them a general idea of what happened. For kids who spend time with their peers, they will inevitably hear about current events and it may be best if they hear it first from a trusted adult.
2. Be honest
Do not lose your child’s trust by sugar coating or giving false information. You want them to come to you rather than their peers or the internet with these difficult issues so it is important to establish that you can be trusted.
3. Validate
Show emotion. Remind your child that it is ok to feel sad, scared, and angry.
4. Provide safe space
Reinforce to your child that even though the world is not perfect, we are always working to make it safer.
5. Empower
Give your child an action item. Depending on your faith background, prayer can be an amazing way to experience God’s peace. Encourage your child to show kindness to others and speak up when they see injustice.
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Important: trauma affects us all differently. If you notice that your child has difficulty sleeping, significantly decreased appetite, worsening performance at school or with friends, or any other concerns, please speak with his or her pediatrician.