The Both/And Way

03/10/2026

Do you ever wonder what actually happens on Retreat

It’s not a spot weekend. It’s not a lecture series

It’s this, flowers on the table, women sitting in a healing circle together, sound bowls, collage, laughter, tears, and the kind of illness you can’t find in your regular life.
use I, mindfulness, and nature, to go inward, gently, together. And somehow, in just a few days, something shifts.

The April Retreat has three spots left, sign up deadline is right around the corner.

Oh, did I mention, we have gentle yoga, yoga, Nidra, and sound healing?
If you’ve been curious, swipe through and let yourself imagine being here.

Link in bio to learn more. DM’s open if you have questions.

03/10/2026

Ever wonder when actually happens on a retreat?👇

It’s not a spot weekend. It’s not a lecture series.

It’s this, flowers on the table, women sitting on the floor together, sand, bowls, collage, laughter, tears, and the kind of illness you can’t find in your regular life.

We use IFS and mindfulness to go inward, gently together and somehow in just a few days something shifts.

The April Retreat has three spots left. Sign up deadline is almost here.

If you’ve been curious, swipe through and let yourself imagine being here.

Link in bio to learn more.DMs open for questions.

Oh, and they’re also is a spa day included. Indoor pool, cold plunge, sauna, steam room. Did I mention gentle, yoga, and yoga, Nidra and sound healing? What are you waiting for?

03/09/2026

Monday Musings! I'd love to hear your thoughts!
xoxoxo

On liminal seasons, guilty joy, and the time change nobody asked for

03/04/2026

Lately, every time I pick up my phone, my heart rate spikes. Like, just looking at it. The notifications, the social media scroll, the news — it's A LOT.

Anyone else? Just me? (It's definitely not just me.)

So here's what I'm doing about it: I'm going to the Shenandoah Valley for four days in April to put the phone down, breathe some mountain air, and actually hear myself think. And I'd love for you to come with me.

Here are the details...
When: April 16–19, 2026
Where: Shenandoah Valley, VA
Price: $1408 per person (shared room)

This is a small group wellness retreat for women - and yes, we will absolutely be exploring why we can't put the phone down (and a lot of other fascinating things about ourselves) through the lenses of Internal Family Systems (Parts Work), the Enneagram, and Mindfulness.

And don't forget all food made for you and all dishes washed and put away! No meal planning, no chores, just come home to you! We will practice gentle movement with Erin as well as her Yoga Nidra and sound healing. Ahhhhhhhh.Did I mention an indoor pool, spa, and hot tub!?!?

No fixing.
No performing.
Just a few days of actually getting to know yourself - the real you, not the one who doom scrolls at 10pm.

There are only 4 spots left in our shared triple rooms, which are genuinely lovely - spacious, set up with sound machines for real sleep, and we have mandatory quiet time after 10pm each evening so you can actually unwind.

Your ticket to come home to you right here: https://www.thebothandway.com/april-2026-retreat
If your nervous system just said "yes please" while your brain was still reading this, that's your answer.

02/27/2026

I do keep reminding myself for a lot of people the world has been on fire since the day they were born. Depending on what they were born into or the color of their skin or in some places, their gender.

That’s where the guilt about my own privilege will sometimes come in. But I’ve learned that that’s not helping anyone either. The question is what do I do with that privilege?

02/16/2026

Learning to live in a body that is allowed to change

02/16/2026

What would it take for you to step away for a few days and care for yourself?

To pause.

To breathe.

To listen to what is stirring inside you.

Yes, when we gather, we go inside.

Yes, there can be tears.
And also…
there is so much laughter.
There is connection.
There is the sweetness of being seen and known without having to perform.
There is an indoor pool we’ll visit together on Saturday, and a hot tub available to you all weekend long.
There are miles and miles of winding trails across more than 500 acres of land.
There is delicious food being prepared for you, breakfast, lunch, and dinner, so you can simply arrive and be cared for.
And this April retreat falls on a new moon weekend. The sky will be dark and the stars will be brilliant. It is the perfect time to plant something new inside yourself.
There are only four spots left.
If something in you is leaning in as you read this, I invite you to listen to that part.
You can read all the details and reserve your spot here:
https://www.thebothandway.com/april-2026

If you have questions or a tender part that feels unsure, you can always reach out at thebothandway@gmail.com - I’m happy to connect.
With warmth and hope that you give yourself the same care you offer others!

02/15/2026

Ever wonder why you keep ending up in the same patterns - even when you swear you’ll do things differently?

It’s not a flaw. It’s your unconscious at work.

The Enneagram is a map of your inner world. It shows you the patterns driving your thoughts, behaviors, and relationships - so you can finally work WITH yourself instead of against yourself.

I’m hosting a live webinar:
✨ Discover Your Type, Transform Your Life
📅 March 4 + 11 | 7-9pm ET
💻 Online via Zoom

This isn’t another personality test. It’s a deep dive into the unconscious strategies that shape your life.

Includes:
→ Pre-webinar Enneagram assessment
→ Two interactive 2-hour sessions
→ Live Q&A & group exploration
→ Practical tools for real transformation

Whether you’re new to the Enneagram or ready to go deeper - this is for anyone tired of surface-level self-help and ready for real change.

More info here: https://thebothandway.thrivecart.com/enneagram-webinar/

02/14/2026

I hope you’re being gentle with yourself!

It’s funny, I use the word “healed“ in this video. I rarely redo my videos, but as I was posting it, I was thinking that I will always be “healing“

Are you healed or healing?!

02/13/2026

Healing does not mean we don't get triggered.

It does mean I take responsibility for taking care of myself when triggered.

Healing is not avoiding triggers, it's admitting to them and doing what we need to take care of ourselves without hurting others through acting out!

Why being activated does not erase the healing that has come before

02/13/2026

I see you.

I am you.

I want to believe that what happened to me, doesn’t affect me anymore. I want to believe that because I have it all together, I can’t feel the old wounds being poked. I’m so grateful I have tools to hold onto my heart.

So, I see you.

I am you.

share this with someone who needs to be seen🩷

02/12/2026

If you have a part that is tired . . .

A part that holds everything together . . .

Their part that belongs to be known beyond what you do for everyone else. . .

Come.

in April, we gather for a Both/And Way retreat — a weekend of IFS, mindfulness, movement, Enneagram, wisdom, and wide open space in the Shenandoah Valley.

we don’t push growth here.
We allow it.

Your parts are welcome. All of them.

Details in bio.