04/08/2026
Mom was looking for her suitcase, determined to leave.
Ready to go home.
“I tried calling Dad, but he’s not answering.”
He’s been gone since last April. Dead gone.
The assisted living nurse got on the phone. “She slipped into the third person, thinking she was your dad. Saying he needed to find his wife. She’s very agitated. Very unhappy.”
Mom didn’t know where she was or why she was there. And she wanted out. To sleep in her own bed. To go home.
She had no recollection of our scenic drive earlier that day. Or her fall the day before that left the side of her face and skull in shades of black, blue, and purple.
“Is Dad gone?” she kept asking.
“Yes.”
“That’s what I thought.”
She began losing her bearings suddenly late last week and has been getting progressively worse.
Her cancer must be catching up with her. It’s in her lungs, lymph nodes… brain.
They said we’re likely in the last quarter. Added a motion sensor so they’ll know if she tries to wander.
And then… she fell. ER for stitches, scan so they could evaluate and come up with a plan. Fractured neck, brain swelling from cancer (likely causing the accelerated confusion and falls). No treatment. Just a neck brace that she kept trying to remove. One false move and the unstable fracture could be what kills her.
She kept saying she just wants to go to sleep and never wake up.
Asking why Dad’s been so quiet.
That was yesterday.
Today, she’s worse. They started morphine and anti-anxiety every two hours. More, if needed.
Now it’s just a matter of time. She’s a stubborn one, so it could drag out.
In a recent dream, my dad came to drive my mom away. I hope he’s on his way. Or maybe he’s already here. Waiting.
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Photo: From their travels.