08/23/2024
The excerpt below is part of the reason why I have chosen to become a clinical s*xologist and do my part to individually address the internalized misogyny and bias that women have been force fed through multiple generations of s*xual denial, shame, body dysmorphia and deference to men as being superior and needing to be catered to in marriage and life.
Understanding female pleasure should be at the center of our individual relationships and understanding our bodies needs will unlock that pleasure and make us better intimate partners when sharing with others! Deeply internalized, shame, springs from everything that was in a textbook spoonfed to women and girls for millennia. Let’s break the pattern together shall we? 
“This is an actual extract from a s*x education textbook for girls, printed in the early 1960's in the UK.
“When retiring to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.
When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it. In all things be led by your husband's wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest Congress then agree humbly all the while being mindful that a man's satisfaction is more important than a woman's. When he reaches his moment of fulfillment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had.
Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up, and apply your night-time face and hair care products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup.”
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