10/02/2022
Believe it or not, you and your romantic partner ARE supposed to attach to each other and depend on each other.
Our modern relationship culture, which tells you that you should be 100% complete before entering a relationship, has conflated dependency and codependency. They are two different things. One is healthy and balanced, the other is not.
Of course, you should NOT enter a relationship if you are unable to rely on yourself or take care of yourself. You cannot rely on a partner to fix your emotional problems. That’s a no brainer.
But assuming that you are functioning at 70% emotional stability or more, embrace the idea that your partner will meet needs that you cannot meet on your own. That’s what they’re there for. That’s how it’s supposed to be. ❤️