09/16/2025
Whether it’s where to live, whether or not to have a(nother) kid, what color to paint the living room, or whether or not to get a pet, it can be a painful, gridlocked, and discouraging experience when your spouse shoots down your idea, says “no” to what you really want, advocates for their own conflicting preference without fully hearing yours, or simply doesn’t share in your excitement.
Perhaps it turns into an exhausting power struggle where you invalidate each other’s feelings and get entrenched in your own positions – until one of you finally (and resentfully) gives in.
Or you get stuck in an impasse and throw up your hands in despair.
It can also feel confusing and bring up questions about your relationship:
Does this mean we aren’t compatible? Will I ever get what I want? Am I sacrificing too much? Would I be happier with somebody else or on my own? Am I losing myself?
Rest assured, you aren’t alone whatsoever.
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