05/21/2026
Are you currently spending your entire evening sitting on a bedroom floor waiting for your child to drift off? You aren’t alone.
Independent sleep refusal is a completely normal part of development, but that doesn’t mean you have to stay there forever.
The goal is to transition from being their sleep association to being their support system. Here is how we do it using a gradual, 10-day method:
The Game Plan:
Nights 1 -3: Sit in a chair right next to the bed. If they fuss, offer a quick 30-60 second pat, then sit back in your chair.
Nights 4 - 6: Move the chair halfway between the bed and the door. Wait 5-10 minutes between “soothing times” to let them practice falling asleep on their own.
Nights 7-10: Move the chair to the doorway. Try to use your voice to calm them, and stay in your chair the entire time.
Why it’s happening:
Separation Anxiety: This often peaks around 1.5 - 3-4 years old
Fear/Imagination: Darkness, shadows, or quiet noises can be genuinely frightening for little ones.
Habit: If you’re always there, they simply haven’t learned the skill of self-soothing yet.
Are you ready to stop sitting next to your child every night? ❤️
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