Fat Queer Therapist

10/31/2024

New Blog Post!!

I have never been great at having authentic conversations with my family about q***rness. I grudgingly came out to my parents as bi when I was 17 in a family therapy session and I instructed my mother to just tell everyone else in the family. I never heard how anyone reacted but by the time I next s...

09/04/2024

New blog post!

Semaglutide: This Time with Nuance

What does a diabetes med have to do with Gender Affirming Surgery?

07/22/2024

This is the most vulnerable I've ever felt posting to a blog. If you only read one thing I've ever written, please read this.

Hi, my name is Meg and I use she/they pronouns.Those of you who have been around for a minute, either in my personal life or in the corner of the internet I occupy with this blog and website may be somewhat surprised. Or maybe you aren’t surprised at all. I’ve never been very good at closets.Whe...

12/29/2023

New blog post! I saw Real Women Have Curves: The Musical last week and it was fu***ng amazing. Read about my love for it and also a disclaimer about how horrid the title is.

https://www.fatq***rtherapist.com/post/amazing-show-crap-title-real-women-have-curves-the-musical

08/30/2023

New Blog Post!
"On the message board we competed to be the most fu**ed up. It wasn’t conscious and it was completely understandable (especially given that the adult on the message board used to encourage it) but it was very damaging. We triggered each other constantly. No matter how many trigger warnings you put on a post (and yes, we were using trigger warnings before trigger warnings were a topic of debate), on a mostly unmoderated support forum there was a lot of very detailed content. It was rough."

I regularly recommend that clients who are feeling socially isolated seek support on the internet. The world we live in is so digitally connected that it just makes sense. Hell, I’m a teletherapist whose closest friends live across the country. I practically live on zoom. And many of the people I....

07/11/2023

"When you combine my white lady fear of anger and the cultural script about race and anger it produces a truly toxic environment for Black clients who come to me with raised voices and angry feelings."

I used to have a client who I perceived as yelling at me every session. We’d sit down and within moments his voice would be loud and his gestures would be big and expressive. My general response to anger is to freeze and in our early work that is what I’d do every session. His voice would go up ...

06/29/2023

This week's blog post is about a messy experience I had with some therapists colleagues and more broadly about being a fat person going to the doctor.

Warning: This contains egregious fat hate from some of my therapist peers. Feel free to take a pass if you are not in a space to read about that. In 2019 I was at a gathering of 4 or 5 therapist friends and their partners. It was a fun day, we were playing board games, chatting, and bonding. We work...

06/29/2023

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